dealing with depression

What Dealing With Depression Taught Me About Finding Real Happiness

Are You Dealing With Depression?

“That’s the thing about depression: A human being can survive almost anything, as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it’s impossible to ever see the end. The fog is like a cage without a key.”
Elizabeth Wurtzel

Ever felt like you were scattered all over the place and could never get yourself together? That was me for a long period of time in my life before I found the path to real happiness. I fought the depression the best I could but the harder I fought the more scattered I felt.

What happens when you’re in the throes of depression and you can’t get yourself out?

What do you do when you you feel hopeless?

For many people, this is what they have to go through every day and it isn’t a pretty picture. Hopelessness isn’t just a feeling but the world they are engulfed in and like me, the harder they fight the further they fall. I don’t want you to be depression’s next victim so pay close attention and have faith. There is a way out and there is hope… you just have to believe in yourself.

A Short History of Depression

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How To Break Your Depression Not Your Will

“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and oftentimes, we call a man cold when he is only sad.” Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

feeling depressed

No matter how far depression has dragged you away from the real you, hope comes in the form of reconditioning your mind so that depression doesn’t control you, you control your depression.

My breakthrough came when I switched my thought process. I failed in every way possible to combat my depression except one simple way. Re-engineering the way my mind worked. I figured, if my mind was the one that was causing me to feel this way then changing my mind would change my feelings as well.

It may seem simple enough but it isn’t like turning on a switch and everything is all candy and roses. It’s much more complicated and scarier than that but it’s something that must be done. The difference between feeling depressed and overcoming it is all in the mind.

Tony Robbins, the self-help guru states the first thing you must do is to live in a beautiful state. So what does that mean? It means your state of mind must change. It must exist in a whole new place where you change the way you see things and the way you view yourself.

It means you change your body language and how you appear to others. You go from feeling inferior and negative to strong and confident because you initiate a change of habit. You stop tolerating what makes you unhappy, you stop tolerating what causes you pain and you stop tolerating how you act based on the negative words coming out of your mouth.

Instead of living in your pain and emotional upheavals, you train your mind and your body to work on the good things in your life. We’ve wired ourselves to see, hear and feel the negativity all around us that we’ve become that negative person without really knowing it until we’ve fallen face first into a hole and can’t get out.

He goes on to say that we need to avoid training our minds to be frustrated, stressed out and unhappy. That’s not a place you want to live in. Instead, you can train your mind to feel passionate about your life, to feel physically and mentally strong. He cautions us by stating emphatically, “Don’t settle. You get what you tolerate.”

Later on, he goes on to say, “Find something you want to serve greater than yourself.” That was a very valuable lesson I learned when I heard him speak. I found a purpose greater than myself and put that to work to help me see beyond my own pain and serve others who were in need.

Do you want to stay in state you are in now? According to Tony, “LIfe is too short to feel like crap.” I hated that feeling. I hated waking up unhappy and going to bed unhappy. I wanted to change but I didn’t know how. Tony showed me a pathway to happiness that I needed to choose and this is how I did it.

From Depressed & Hopeless To Happy & Excited About Life

“It’s often difficult for those who are lucky enough to have never experienced what true depression is to imagine a life of complete hopelessness, emptiness and fear.”
Susan Polis Schutz

My breakthrough came when I reconditioned my thought pattern. I started feeding my brain a new story about who I knew I was. The pattern started slow with a new routine but I picked up momentum everyday and saw hope come into view.

So how do you do this? How do you start dealing with depression in a way that energizes you and gives you a reason to get up every morning?

You find your why? You find why you are here and you run with it. It’s not about pleasing others or worrying about what they think. It’s all about what’s right for you. It comes from being the authentic you.

You need to be hungry. Find that hunger inside of you and let it push you where you need to go. Raise your standards in yourself. Don’t settle for mediocrity. I didn’t and you shouldn’t either. Every time you settle for things you don’t want you lose a small piece of yourself. Push yourself to be the best you can no matter what. It’s the drive and the journey… not the end that merits you go for it!

Tony says, “The quality of your life is where you live emotionally.” Find the home inside of you and then change your habits. Feed your mind what is good and honest. Feed your heart what is pure and humble. Make learning an important part of your daily ritual. Lifelong learners stimulate the creative part of their brains and enjoy the process of learning. The happiness comes from soaking in all that knowledge.

Most people who are depressed lived from a place of fear. Tony reiterates this by claiming, Fear is physical and so is stagnation, so is numbness, and so is sadness.”  You need to face your fears and truly live. See what you are capable by finding a role model who inspires you. That’s how you go from a place without hope to a place where happiness is alive and well.

The Mindshift Of True Potential

my potential

Do you know your true potential? You won’t know unless you give it a try. Before you can achieve things in reality, you must believe them in your mind first. This is the key to overcoming your depression and finding true happiness in life. Everything you want to do or accomplish in life must first be seen and done in your mind. Let it happened first there. Work out the kinks and see the promise that potential brings!

This mind shift from the throes of negativity to the path of belief comes from the potential you feel you have and the action you take. If your belief doesn’t equal your potential then your actions will only go as far as your limited beliefs. Whatever you don’t accomplish will reinforce your limiting beliefs and you will never reach your full potential. It becomes self-fulfilling when you fail.

Everyone comes to a point in their life where their back is against the wall and they have to survive no matter what. There is no other way. This is when you either sink or swim and decide you’ll do anything possible to succeed. You have to make this work. It is being certain of your potential and then taking massive and direct action because you know you will succeed.

Tony asks this one final question. “How do you produce certainty when the world isn’t giving it to you?” You get the results in your head first and then certainty comes as if it has already happened. If you know it in your mind that what you will do is a certainty and will succeed do it. The universe will follow the directions you give it.

There are going to be times in your life when fear and gloom may try to take over during a major situation but if you remember the times when you overcame those hopelessness, deconstruct what you did before and use that as incentive to pull you through. The past is very good at giving you what you need to overcome your problems. They are like practice swings in baseball and today you will hit it out of the park!

Happiness is not something you get, it is something deep inside that you fully embrace! Once your perspective changes you will find meaning in your life. Perspective, no matter how small, can change things forever. Take that new perspective, build on it in your mind and take it to new heights. That is truly where you will succeed and see happiness blossom.

Dealing with depression was a hard and grueling adventure but it taught me how to train my mind, how to believe in myself and how strong a person I really am. What can it teach you?

Want to find happiness after suffering through depression? You can find the answers in my #1 Bestselling book on entitled, “Summoned To Love – A Spiritual Blueprint For Rediscovering Inner Peace, Unconditional Love And True Happiness.”

Summoned To Love

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