Unconditional Love – Are You Giving More Than You Receive?
What is unconditional love? And how do I employ it in my life?
Many of us worry way too much about getting love and not enough about giving love in return. We search and search for the answers to our own problems yet we fail to see the problems of others. Love is not a one-way street. It takes two to tangle as they say but it is so true. It’s the greatest power in the universe yet we fail miserably every day at living without it.
God’s love is unconditional. It is giving without asking or demanding anything in return. It’s a concept that is foreign to most in this “Get anything at all costs” mentality that seems to pervade our world. Financial advisers tell us to build up assets but those assets are transitory. We can’t take anything we own with us when we die except the experiences and the love we gave.
Love is not about how much we receive but how much we give. It’s not about being selfish with our lives but being unselfish toward others. I understand it’s a concept that takes time to digest but what if I told you that it’s the key to having a successful and beautiful life? Would you believe me then?
Zig Ziglar, one of my personal heroes and one of the greatest marketers of the 20th century, made a quote that has changed my life forever. It is the code I live by.
“You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want first!”
By putting the needs of others first you can help so many people instead of just helping yourself. Imagine how great life would be if everyone was helping everyone else, if everyone was unselfish, and we all cared about the rest of humanity like we care about ourselves.
Choosing To Love Unconditionally
Unconditional love is a choice we make not a mandate. You either give of yourself or take from others. There are no two ways around this. Unconditional love is all about your acceptance of others, not you expecting them to give you happiness in return. Your reward is in how you treat others. The choices other people make and how they live are not under your control. Instead love them for being them, not what you want them to be.
Our choices determine who we are and if we make the wrong choices we must take full responsibility. When we don’t give love to others we deprive ourselves and the world of that love. Their are only two choices you have to make… Are you going to love and how much are you going to love. Anything else is immaterial to the situation.
When we choose to love we must first forgive. It is one of the most important aspects of loving unconditionally. Forgive others as well as forgiving ourselves. With this forgiveness we remove all the limiting beliefs we have of ourselves and other and recognize we all have self worth, value, and see ourselves as a true reflection of God’s love.
How do you want your life to be? Do you want to live in tenderness, kindness forgiveness and tolerance? What you give out is what you receive. The choice is yours. Be clear what you want to give and give to the best of your ability. You are not judged on what you give but on the fact of whether you gave or not. The Lord love a cheerful giver, not someone who gives because he has to but because he wants to!
Giving Unconditional Love
What we do in life has a powerful impact on what happens to others. By taking loving action we can and do change the world one person at a time. We see that we are all interconnected and all share what God has given us. When we give love we experience what true love is all about. Our giving is our true gift to the world. It is the sharing and giving that allows the world to give back to us.
You have an unlimited supply of love and you hold the power to unleash it. Giving unconditional love requires that we create the opportunities to give. Seek out ways to help, be positive as to inspire others, and live in gratitude. How we act is a reflection of what’s in our hearts. Remember, people can see the real us. Be genuine and reflect the love God has for you onto others. Approach each moment of the day as a way to express God’s love through your thoughts and actions
Ask yourself, “What I can do for this person at this moment in time?”. Unconditional love is the true action of ourselves, the simple endeavor care for the well-being of another. This becomes an act of pure generosity.
Tips On Loving Unconditionally
Here are some tips to giving unconditional love and making it part of your everyday life.
- Make it a practice to do something for someone else each day without expecting anything in return.
- Love without anyone knowing about it. Do it because you want to do it.
- Do the small things with a great love that reaches far and wide.
- Expand your heart to include everyone not just the people you like or care about. You don’t have to wait to be perfect to give unconditional love to others. Just give and move on to the next opportunity.
- The more you give the better your own life will be. Live in love and love will be your guide.
In the bible, God speaks to us about love. In 1 John 4:8 states, “Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love”. Further along in 1 John 4:16 it states, “So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him”. We have been given a great example of unconditional love. Whether we choose to believe that we can make a difference or not, just by showing unconditional love to others we choose to bring God’s love to the world.