“After living with their dysfunctional behavior for so many years, people become invested in defending their dysfunctions rather than changing them.” Marshall Goldsmith
Let me ask you a question. What kind of mindset do you have? A growth mindset or a fixed mindset?
Be honest with yourself because what I am about to share with will dramatically change your life because it has changed mine.
Let me give you a little background information about me so you’ll understand the context of what I’ll be sharing with you here today.
I can remember as a kid growing up in a dysfunctional family where there was always someone arguing, things being broken, and finding it hard to stay positive. As good as I was in sports, I never felt like I was good enough athlete to please my father. My mindset was fixed on one thing… trying to survive the negativity and hoping I could become the person God wanted me to be.
I didn’t see a snowball’s chance in hell I would ever be happy in that situation but once I changed how I saw things the better my life got. It’s always that way. Whatever you think and feel about yourself is how your life is. Change your mindset and you change your life even if the circumstances don’t change.
How did I overcome all the negativity of the past and become the success I am now?
It all comes from changing my mindset. Now, you may think it’s all about being positive or I got lucky but it goes much deeper than that. It all hinges on whether you have a growth mindset or a fixed mindset.
What is a growth mindset?
A growth mindset is the inner belief in yourself that despite not having the best talents, traits and qualities, you have the ability to develop them by learning the ins and out and practicing them until you become proficient. A growth mindset is really about how you approach things and what you do to enhance them.
If you have a growth mindset, you believe you can do anything because you are not fixed on what to do but how to find a way to make things happen. It’s about growing all in confidence and believing in yourself..
Let me give you an example of this.
Suppose you want to learn how to speak in public but you are a shy person. What do you do to overcome your shyness?
Do you accept your shyness and believe it can’t be done or do you take action and learn the skills to overcome your shyness? Every step you take to become a better public speaker enhances your positiveness and gives you confidence to carry on.
But what if I make mistakes? Won’t I look stupid in front of others?
So what? It’s not about pleasing others but bettering yourself. The idea is to always be learning. Mistakes are part of the process. Too often, people quit, not because they can’t do something but because they believe they can’t do it. Once that belief take a firm hold of you, you are done. There’s nothing you can do to stop negativity from squeezing all the belief out of you.
A growth mindset is your motivator in life. It pushes you to become better but the real beauty of a growth mindset is that it gives you freedom to try new things, to experiment and not worry about winning or losing, and to study the results so that you grow as a person. With a growth mindset, the outcome of a situation doesn’t become your identity, it just shows you where you are at any given time.
Let’s take a look at the differences between the two mindsets and see what you need to do to change your own mindset.
Why Having A Growth Mindset Is Your Ticket To Success
“Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.”
What is the most important aspect of success? It’s your mindset. Everyone has the ability to be successful but only those who practice having a growth mindset will achieve the success they are looking for.
Having a growth mindset is more about staying open to new experiences and new people than just being positive. It means embracing the fear of the unknown and being willing to take risks, even when you’re scared to death.
Since your mindset holds your core set of beliefs, it is the fuel that powers your life. These beliefs distinguish those who are successful at what they do from those who continually struggle.
We all have struggles in life but God gave us a mind to help us overcome those struggles and become successful at what we do. It is the challenges of life that determine how far we go with that mindset.
People with a growth mindset believe their basic abilities can be developed through hard work and dedication. They use their brains and talents as a starting points which they can build upon.
Here’s 7 Reasons You Can Use A Growth Mindset To Become Successful:
Offers A Sense Of Fulfilment
Improvement Through Effort
Offers a Buffer Against Demotivation
Promotes Critical Thinking
Helps Turn Practice Into Perfection
Have you ever seen or met a successful person who was negative? It took a lot of patience, hard work and belief to get where they are and this doesn’t leave much room for a negative mindset. Of course they all had doubts but the great thing about having a growth mindset is the ability to overcome the negative self-talk and move on, even when things look bleak.
Successful people are always finding new ways to achieve their goals. Whether they are a business owner looking to branch out into a different market or somebody who has lost a large amount of weight, the growth mindset never stops reaching its goal.
Many people give up after achieving some of of their smaller goals, having convinced themselves this is all they can do. This means settling for lower levels of success than what they could have achieved with the proper mindset.
Successful people never do this. To train and reprogram your mind for optimal success, you need to look for new ways to be be successful – no matter how small. This is where a growth mindset is so important. It doesn’t wait for things to happen. It forces you to draw up plans, create winning strategies and learn what needs to be done to achieve your goals before putting them into action.
What do you need to be successful?
Skills: The growth mindset believes that skills are something you constantly change, improve and develop. Skills come from hard work so you can’t stop working.
Challenges: The growth mindset is eager to embrace challenges and views them as an opportunity to grow. The chance to engage in a challenge makes the growth mind more persistent.
Effort: Effort is essential for a growth mindset and can even override superior talent. When the growth mindset sees effort as the path to success, it realizes the necessity for lifelong learning.
Feedback: The growth mindset views feedback as something constructive and an experience to learn from. It is an effective means to identify areas that need improvement.
Setbacks: Instead of putting a damper on things, setbacks are seen as ways to improve on current talents and efforts. They are stepping stones to success most people overlook.
Having a growth mindset is one thing but there are ways to enhance that growth mindset. Listen below for a way to use Kaizen and The Law Of Attraction (LOA) to position yourself for optimal success.
Difference Between A Fixed And Growth Mindset
“Most people never run far enough on the first wind to find out they’ve got a second. Give your dreams all you’ve got, and you’ll be amazed at the energy that comes out of you.”
According to Carol Dweck, Ph. D. (Professor at Stanford University), author of the #1 Bestselling book entitled, “Mindset – The New Psychology Of Success” here is the major differences between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset.
“In a fixed mindset students believe their basic abilities, their intelligence, their talents, are just fixed traits. They have a certain amount and that’s that, and then their goal becomes to look smart all the time and never look dumb. In a growth mindset students understand that their talents and abilities can be developed through effort, good teaching and persistence. They don’t necessarily think everyone’s the same or anyone can be Einstein, but they believe everyone can get smarter if they work at it.”
When we talk about the mind, control is of most importance. We either have it or we don’t. You can control how and what you think about. You can control what you do with the knowledge you have accumulated throughout your life but what good is it if you try to control what others do.
What really matters to you and what are you going to do about it?
Siim Land, the author, content creator, holistic health practitioner and a high-performance coach brings out a great point regarding your mindset. He says, “There are also the things we can influence – the things we can’t control entirely but we can influence to a certain degree – like the mental states of others, the outcomes of certain events and how we can feel in the near future.”
Those who live with a fixed mindset limit themselves because of the circumstances surrounding them. They want to control things and have already made up their minds before they even start. That’s where will power comes into play. A fixed mindset says“That’s the way things are and it’s useless to try and change them” while a growth mindset takes chances and sees a light where others see darkness.
I’m reminded of a quote from Viktor Frankl, a Jewish psychiatrist who spent three incredibly agonizing years in Auschwitz concentration camp during the World War 2. His experience forced him to come to grips with his own mindset during those gruesome ties. He said: “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
So when we try to distinguish the fixed mindset from the growth mindset, these 6 reasons come into play:
Goals: The fixed mindset wants to look smart whereas the growth mindset wants to learn and improve.
Challenge seeking: The fixed mindset avoids challenges but the growth mindset seeks them out.
Change: Change is seen as a threat by the fixed mindset but the growth mindset views the same as a challenge and works to overcome the challenge.
Response to setbacks: People trapped in a fixed mindset respond poorly to setbacks, appearing helpless but those with a growth mindset appear resilient. They have the ability to bounce back to find solutions.
Response to criticism: The fixed mindset appears on the defensive when faced with criticism but the growth mindset will learn from it and put it to good use.
Response to wrongdoing: The fixed mindset punishes and retaliate itself in this type of situation whereas the growth mindset educates and compromises so it can move forward.
Why Changing Your Mind Can Change Your Life
“When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.”
The world is a tough place to live in and for those whose mindset is fixed, change is a dirty word. They are not open to change and ignorant to the facts of life. According to Siim, “Ignorance isn’t about being uneducated but the inability to see the truth of things.”
Once you open your eyes and your heart, you will see the power of a growth mindset. James Clear, the author of “Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones” states, “Your mind is a powerful thing. The stories you tell yourself and the things you believe about yourself can either prevent change from happening or allow new skills to blossom.”
Which one will you pick?
Your beliefs may be holding back and you don’t even know it. You may believe things about you that aren’t true and it’s stopping you from bettering your self and your situation.
James says it’s a matter of habit. He goes on to say. “In my experience, the only way I know to change the type of person that you believe that you are — to build a new and better identity for yourself — is to do so with small, repeated actions.”
These habits come from beliefs that go all the way back to your childhood. You may have been told or shown you weren’t good enough and you believed it. Every time you decided to do something, that little voice inside you kept repeating, “You aren’t good enough. You aren’t good enough” until it became a habit you couldn’t break.
How do we break the habit and allow a growth mindset to take shape?
Don’t think about the end results. Instead, focus on the process. Every day do something positive to push yourself ahead. Don’t look back at your past, look forward to your future goals.
James finishes by saying, “This is the process of identity-based habits. People with a growth mindset focus on the process of building a better identity rather than the product.”
What are you focusing on? Is it working? Or are you stuck in the same old rut?
Take a look at the infographic below. Can you learn how to change? Use the guide to turn your fixed mindset into a growth mindset that gets you results!
The idea that change is hard is a problem that keeps those with a fixed mindset from becoming the success they envision for themselves. They can’t wrap themselves around the fact that it’s not always about talent but how you use your brains.
Professor Dweck goes on to say, “The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives.”
That is how I changed my life. I changed my mindset and took the path of learning how to be positive while taking chances. I didn’t let anything stop me. I could only stop myself.
Is that what’s stopping you?
Take it from me, the more you wallow in your own shit the stinkier your life will be. Clean up your mindset and you’ll be on the path to success. There’s no other way around it.
“With a fixed mindset, you believe you are who you are and you cannot change. This creates problems when you’re challenged because anything that appears to be more than you can handle is bound to make you feel hopeless and overwhelmed.” Travis Bradberry
How much do you want to succeed in life?
That may sound like a facetious question but for most people, finding real success seems to be a pipe dream. You know the drill. You work your tail off to be as successful as possible but when it doesn’t come as fast as you like, you end up scratching your head wondering where you went wrong.
So, what’s stopping you from finding the success you deserve?
From the weekly coaching sessions I have with my clients, I’ve found that a person’s mindset plays a huge role in how far they get in life. The more positive your mindset, the better your chances are at finding the success you crave. It may not appear to be that important from the outside but just imagine how things can spiral out control when you hit a rough spot in life. You’ll understand the power of a positive mindset when you use it to push through your biggest troubles.
Most of the time it’s not about what’s going on with my clients but how they’re facing those challenges. A positive mindset is the difference between getting bogged down in a mire of problems or overcoming your struggles and getting that much closer to finding real success.
What traits are part of a positive mindset?
According to the Positive Psychology Program’s article entitled “What is Positive Mindset and 89 Ways to Achieve a Positive Mental Attitude” they explain the various traits of a positive mindset.
Optimism: a willingness to make an effort and take a chance instead of assuming your efforts won’t pay off.
Acceptance: acknowledging that things don’t always turn out how you want them to, but learning from your mistakes.
Resilience: bouncing back from adversity, disappointment, and failure instead of giving up.
Gratitude: actively, continuously appreciating the good things in your life .
Consciousness/Mindfulness: dedicating the mind to conscious awareness and enhancing the ability to focus.
Integrity: the trait of being honorable, righteous, and straightforward, instead of deceitful and self-serving
Courage: strength of character when times get tough while battling through pain
Accountability: learning how to be responsible when everything falls on your shoulders
These traits are very important in how you use your mindset to handle life. Without them, you’ll be grabbing for anything you think might help you without possessing the power they hold.
Planning Success With The Right Mindset
“If you start with the mindset that you know nothing, you will learn a lot that nobody knew before.” David Maraniss
With every dream of success, there must be a complementary plan. If you desire to have real success, you must understand that it won’t just happen by chance. You need to plan for it.
Jim Rohn, the famous motivational speaker once said, “Our results are only as good as our plan.” I would like to take that one step further by stating, “Our plans are only as good as the goals we set forth.”
If you don’t have the right goal in mind, then all your plans will be worthless. They will only take you are far as your stated goal. Then you have to re-plan for the next goal. The right mindset will help you map out a winning strategy that will be open to every little detail and nuance. This is the type of plan that will lead you to a lasting success.
Fixed Vs. Growth Mindset
There are two kinds of mindset. Fixed and Growth. In order to be successful, you need to understand how these types of mindsets work. Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D. put together an infographic that highlights the differences between the two and why you should focus on a growth mindset.
Writer Conor Murphy states “A plan allows us to format our dreams into tangible realities that we can easily break down into smaller more manageable chunks.”
This makes it easier to format your mindset into an easy to follow plan. But you must accept the fact that those plans may need to change from time to time and be altered to fit within your own reality. A reality that grows with you as you put the plan into place.
Having big dreams are great and planning them out is a great way to commit to success but be careful, the goal of success and working towards that dream all starts with your mindset. Combine that by working smart then you have a chance to go far in life.
Are you carrying baggage from the past? Are past hurts, mistakes, and failures ruining your plans for success? Are they playing havoc with your mindset? Do they keep you from attaining the type of lasting success you’ve always dreamed of?
What are you doing to move past them and succeed? There are a few things you can do to help release them and give you a chance to feel good about yourself.
Here are five things that can help you overcome the past and move on towards a more positive mindset that will help you plan out your version of what success looks like to you.
Decide to let it go like a butterfly
Stop being the victim
Stop blaming others
Be forgiving of yourself as well as others
Focus on the present and work on the future
Implementing these five items will help you identify those things that cause you to make bad decisions. Everyone knows you can’t go back and change the past but you can go forward. The only way to rectify your past mistakes is by addressing them and learning from what happened.
Sometimes, plans fall apart for various reasons. It’s then you must ask yourself these 2 questions.
Is your success truly achievable?
Is your plan viable?
This goes way beyond just believing in your plan. It goes to the heart of what your plan is all about.
Structuring Your Plan For Success
“The path from dreams to success does exist. May you have the vision to find it, the courage to get on to it, and the perseverance to follow it.” Kalpana Chawla
In order to make your plan work, the power must come from deep within your soul. That’s right… whether you succeed or fail is really not the true measure of success. You must step up and discover where you are putting your focus on. Whatever you focus your efforts on that’s where it will take you.
In Geoff Edwards article entitled “How To Structure The Perfect Plan For Your Success” he explains what’s important to making the plan work; “We live in a fast paced world, very much like an express train and what you must decide is when you need to get off that train and spend time on important things, for example, time for reflection, enjoying an amazing sunset etc. This all becomes a balance of urgent versus important, understanding how you feel about constantly being in urgent mode, what it costs you, or alternatively, what it would be like being in a relaxed situation and totally focused. Each of us needs to be aware of the right balance and focus for success.”
Balance is the key word here. Your mind is always going from one thing to another and without balance, your focus fades onto the next shiny object. Focus allows you to learn from your past and putting together a killer plan that works.
Structure is an important part of how to put a plan into effect. How you structure your mindset allows you to set up an easy-to-follow plan that gets results. But, if you don’t have a good foundation then your plan will fail. The same holds true with how you think.
According to Diane L. MacDonald, “To build a good foundation requires understanding your motivation: why the accomplishment is important in the first place. This makes your intentions, your reasons, and the necessary actions clear.”
Are you clear on what you want to accomplish?
Are you clear on how you will get there?
Are you clear on what the finished product will look like?
If you’re looking to get to the next level in life then let me show you how.
“Abundance is not something we acquire, it is something we tune into.” Wayne Dyer
The days of wishing and hoping for good fortune are long gone. If you want to live abundantly, you must follow the path to abundance. It doesn’t just come. Instead, it is all based on what you want and taking action on it.
Ever listen to people complain about their situation? They complain about having no money yet they spend it on things with no real value. They complain about having no time for anything yet they sit around the house doing nothing of importance. They complain about those with money and great jobs yet they take no steps to improve their life at all.
I know you don’t want to live that way. You want to feel alive! You want to be free of pain and sorrow. You want, no you deserve to live abundantly. God has given you the tools necessary to live that way. He has provided the means for your abundance.
In Luke 6:45, it is written, “A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.”
What Is An Abundant Mindset?
“Abundance comes in many forms, do not limit your abundance by trying to control how it will flow, just know that it will come.” Shelly Sullivan
Living with an abundant mindset solves all those complaints. The rules of abundance are clear. You manifest your own destiny with the help of God at your side and all will be given to you.
The commitment to becoming an abundant person starts with how you think and feel. Be different in your approach to life as compared to others. Seek out abundance in everything you do. Make it a living, breathing part of your every day routine. It is absolutely impossible to succeed without taking any action at all.
Where does your heart lie? For where your heart lies you follow. Abundance doesn’t just mean money or riches or possessions. It goes much further than that. It brings in love, care, unselfishness, prayer, thanksgiving, appreciation, compassion, humility and a desire to know God. Only he can offer the abundance you deserve.
You see, it is more than just having a nice car, money in the bank and a good job. The universe love desire and wants you to have your dreams come true but you need clarity of mind to manifest those dreams.
Did you know that abundance is everywhere and is just waiting with open arms to be caressed? The abundance mindset focuses on the abundance that is all around us. It is acceptance of the abundance and the gratitude of having abundance. It is a true circle that never stops.
When you adopt this frame of mind, you welcome it as if it was always meant to be. You don’t question it nor do you push it away because you don’t deserve it. It wants you to embrace it and make it a key part of your life.
Living With An Abundant Mindset
“Expect your every need to be met. Expect the answer to every problem, expect abundance on every level.” Eileen Caddy
Abundance also has to do with others. What you see in others is actually a mirror of what you see in yourself. If you see ugliness and stupidity in others you are actually seeing that in yourself. If you shift your focus and see only the good in others you will see only the good in yourself. That reflection will bring positive energy into your life and increase your abundance. It is like a balloon. The more air you fill it with the bigger it gets and higher it flies. The more air you take out the lower it flies and without any air it comes crashing down to earth.
What are your expectations for yourself? You get what you wish for. If you fear success and what it brings you will never be successful no matter how much you talk about it. At times we are our own worst enemy and we sabotage ourselves.
Whenever you give excuses as to why you can’t do something failure is right around the corner. Anticipate success. Anticipate abundance and it will be there waiting for you. Anticipate good things are happening to you and they will.
Take your job for instance. Instead of dreading your job, look at it from a different point of view. Anticipate you will have a great day, you will make that sale or even outperform your previous best and it will happen. When you put out the positive energy it can be like a tidal wave.
Abundance Is Yours For The Taking
After I had my near-fatal car accident, I was so grateful for the little things in life. Even when I was in so much pain with my back I was grateful I wasn’t paralyzed or even dead. I anticipate having a great day in spite of the pain and when there are setbacks, I deal with them. I know they are part of life and I thank God he has saved my life. I see abundance in the smallest of things. A budding flower or a child’s funny laugh. They are all part of my life. I don’t take things for granted anymore. I changed my mind set to search for abundance and let it cascade around me.
Most of us spend too much time looking back at the past and not living in the present. Abundance is a reality that lives in the now. What was, was and what is, is. Look for abundance now and let it be a part of everything you do.
Don’t focus on the negative… live for the positive. Don’t wallow in the past… remain in the present. The future will come. Don’t rush it. Savor the abundance that is all around. When you can sit and look at your world through the eyes of abundance you will see a totally new you and a life that is filled with more love than you could have ever hoped for.
Can You Be Successful With A Bad Mindset?
The answer is no. Why? Because your mind plays the biggest part in how you succeed or fail. The difference between most people isn’t a lack of intelligence, it’s a lack of belief in themselves.
I was a victim of my own bad mindset but once I changed how I thought, things changed for the better.
The more I studied the habits of successful people the more I learned how t turn my negative mindset into a positive asset to attract success into my life.
The more you push abundance away the harder it will become to bring it back.
Just look at the infographic below. It shows, it doesn’t matter your age it’s what you believe and how you put that belief into practice.
It all starts in your mind. Discover the true secrets that bring abundance back into your life!
Do your homework. Study successful people. Mimic their habits. Push yourself beyond your limits. Make it a policy to think positive no matter how hard it is. Train your mind to become a magnet for good and treat others with love and kindness. These things work. They always have and always will. I want you to be successful because life is hard enough without the right knowledge.