Finding Happiness In An Unhappy World

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Finding True Happiness In Life

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Are you happy?

The reason I ask this because according to 2016 World Happiness Report, people in the United States are only the thirteenth happiest people in the world. For the richest and most influential country on the planet, this doesn’t seem to make sense. But let’s delve a bit further and see how this affects you.

What makes you happy?

Is it family, friends, money, your career? All of the above… or none of the above?

You see, happiness is a state of mind not a place we go to or based on the current or past events of our lives. Happiness is like the air we breathe. We can either accept it and let it flow through our bodies pumping us up with a life-giving force or dismiss it and allow it make us sick. You, my friend, have the final decision on what you want to do when it comes to finding real happiness.

So let me ask you again. What makes you happy?

Finding happiness in life is actually a misnomer. We don’t have to find happiness… we need to experience happiness. It’s not about looking for something to make you happy but opening your heart and embracing happiness.

How To Live a Happy Life

The science of happiness has determined that happy people have specific ways they think and act that impacts their sense of well-being and happiness. It goes much deeper than just feeling happy. Many look at happiness as a result of their action but happiness drives your actions.

Take a look at your life. When you are happy, it inspires what you do but it’s the complete opposite when you are sad. But what if you didn’t have to rely on feelings to be happy? What if what you do everyday is a product of a belief is a higher power?

What if you could effectively erase worry from your thoughts? Do you think you could allow happiness to enter in.  Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:25-34: “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?

Most people based their happiness on how much or how little they have to worry about.  Living with worry only spoils the happiness that surrounds you. Quality of life should have no bearing on how happy you are. The rich are not any more happier than the poor contrary to many believe.

In fact, many of the poor throughout the world are much happier than people who have so much. Studies show that the poor in many countries base their happiness on factors such as gratitude, love and care while those who pursue materialistic endeavors tend to use the objects as way to find happiness.

Henry David Thoreau once said this about happiness, “Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.”

If you search for happiness your whole life then it will be all in vain but if you allow happiness to live in your heart, it will grow like a flower. This is how I learned to be happy. I could have been mad at the world after losing my first girlfriend to leukemia but I lifted everything up to the Lord.

In Philippians 4:4-7, it tells us to “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice ! 5 Let your forbearing spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near. 6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, shall guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

This gives us a road map on how to live a happy life.

How To Find Joy In Life

Psychotherapist Jude Bijou MA, MFT states, “Joy is an emotion, and emotions are wordless. They’re pure physical sensations in our bodies. We express the emotion of joy in many physical ways.”   Happiness should be physically exuded in everything we do. It isn’t about what we don’t have but being grateful for what we do have.

When I recently had major reconstructive surgery on my back, the pain was overwhelming but I still felt joy. Why? I was grateful for the health I did have. Pain was something I was used to for over ten years but I didn’t have control over that pain. To live a happier life, I needed to focus on things that I could control such as my mindset which is a major key to happiness.

So, how do you rewire your brain for happiness?

Here’s A Short List Of Things You Can Do To Change Your Mindset About Happiness

icon-check Build different bridges with your thoughts – This means, instead of building a negative bridge, start building positive bridges and then re-enforce those positive thoughts at so that our brains can adapt and change according to our everyday behaviors.

icon-check Practice self compassion – Compassionate people have shown the ability to see beyond those things that cause unhappiness ans are able to focus on both love and care which are vital to how happy people act.

icon-check Personal awareness – So often we live on autopilot that we forget to be aware of our surroundings. We don’t see the beauty and the wonder that is sitting right in front of us. We’re too worried about our bills, the office or even what to make for dinner that night. Our brains ruminate or go over the same things that it blocks out our chance to experience life in all its grandeur.

icon-check Commit random acts of kindness – These random acts of kindness set off s mini explosions of happiness in our brains. They give us hope, purpose and belonging in a world that sometimes can be very cruel. Giving is like a drug, the more you experience the more you want to keep giving.

The more you decide in your mind to be happy, the easier it will be to stay happy. When you concentrate on your personal happiness as well as the happiness of others, you make happiness a daily habit for the good of the world.

Experiencing Love And Happiness In The World Today

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Love is one of the most important key to finding happiness in the world. Without it, we let misery creep in and allow ourselves to feel sorry for our situation.

Why is love so important to happiness.

Love and happiness have a connection that was given to us by God himself. God loves us so much that He wants us to experience that joy. We see this in bible verses such as: “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4, and “In your presence is fullness of joy, and at your right hand are pleasures forevermore,” Psalm 16:11.

According to Arthur Dobrin, D.S.W., Professor Emeritus, Hofstra University and author of over twenty books, “Whichever way you find happiness, it is always accompanied by love, for happiness is ultimately the love of life, the celebration of living. The mark of happiness is that you are sensitive to the world around you, that you acknowledge your dependence upon your surroundings and that you are filled with loving-kindness.”

We are to seek out love and as well as give it and happiness will be a huge part of the process. George Sand probably distilled down to it’s perfect meaning when he said, There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.”

Love changes us in so many ways. It makes us feel good, it gives us hope in others and it allows us to express the true nature of our being.. that is, to just love no matter what! No only do love and happiness go hand in hand… they were made for each other.

Love is an action verb. It must be acted upon. It is through those actions that we not only derive happiness but give it as well. The world doesn’t like others to be happy but you can make the decision right now to live in happiness and learn what makes people happy. Once you know this, happiness is yours to keep.

Want to know how you can find inner peace, unconditional love and true happiness in God’s kingdom?

You can find it in my #1 bestselling book on Amazon.com entitled “Summoned To Love – A Spiritual Blueprint For Rediscovering Inner Peace, Unconditional Love, And True Happiness.”

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How To Find True Happiness In Life

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How To Find True Happiness

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Ever felt like finding true happiness has eluded you your whole life?

Maybe you’ve had a few instances of happiness but they were so short lived you can barely remember them. I got ya! It seems like everyone is so miserable these days and you don’t have a clue as to why this happening to you also.

We look all over the place for true happiness but we forget the first rule of happiness… do what makes you happy. You don’t look for happiness, you let it come to you.

We find it in the little things in life. Ever thought about doing something wild and crazy but then your logical side spoke up as if it were your mother and told you to stop fooling around and get busy doing something constructive?

Those are happiness killers. The things that stop us from having fun and expressing ourselves.

What makes you happy?

What’s stopping you from the things that make you happy?

Excuses are the bane of anyone trying to find happiness in a world filled with sorrow and depression.

According to Professor Myrna Weisman and associates, roughly a quarter of the population has suffered some form of clinical depression during their lifetime and a further 48% has suffered from depression severe enough to incapacitate them for more than two weeks. This is also taken from Robert E. Lane’s book “Loss Of Happiness” and it shows that society is becoming less and less happy and has gone to taking out its frustrations on one another.

If you want to be happy you need to examine what makes you happy, why they make you happy and how you go about including those things in your life.

What Are 7 The Keys To Finding True Happiness

Worry is not one of then but the mere fact that we are so filled with worry makes it so hard to be happy. There are many ways to be happy but let me share some of the most powerful keys to finding happiness.

1- Faith It may seem like a no-brainer but too many people go round without faith in themselves or a higher being.  As a Christian, my faith keeps me grounded and allows me to stay away from temptations that would get me in trouble, from people who may try and take advantage of me as well as situations that may compromise my values. The more faith you have the happier your life tends to be. This isn’t just words but a promise. Countless studies have been done to see why people of faith  are happier. Their conclusion? People of faith have something to look forward to that is filled with joy. That gives them contentment others just can’t match.

2- Learn To Savor Live’s Pleasures – You can’t be happy if you don’t experience what life has to offer. How often do you forget the good times in your life while ruminating over that spilt glass of milk or forgetting someone’s name? Savor the good times and forget the bad times. Go out and spell the flowers, Learn how to go out and splurge on yourself without feeling guilty and indulge in what life has to offer. Every day is a chance to see all the beauty God had made for us.

3- Have A Set of Friends Who Have Your Back –  Friends are given to us to experience life from all points of view.  They are there in good times and bad, to laugh at our silly jokes and to make connections that go deeper than just what’s on the outside. Most of our happy memories come from the experiences we share with others.

4- Stop Living Safe – How boring life would be if we never took chances. Where is the fun in being safe. Live like you may not see tomorrow, love like it may be your last time and create adventures that bring fun into your life. It’s not about throwing caution to the wind but taking calculated risk that brings the most rewards.

5- Find Your Balance Point – Life should not be all about work and no play and vise versa. It should be balanced to the point where happiness has a chance to breathe. When the tipping point goes beyond your set balance, unhappiness and misery fills your heart. The main goals of balance is to allow the body and mind to be fulfilled and at peace. If you have neither then you must rebalance you life and add or detract those things that push your life out of balance.

6- Reposition Your Thought Patterns – Too often we take the “I want”  stance in our lives and this leads straight to unhappiness. The more we have, the greater chance of us drowning in possessions instead of experiences. Switch your thoughts to “I Am” and you’ll see the difference. It’s all about piece of mind and believing in yourself. That leads to true happiness and empowerment. Once you have the power to be happy through the mind, you will know the source of your happiness and be able to find happiness wherever you go.

7- Appreciation & Gratitude – If you don’t have these two things you will never be truly happy no matter what you do. Appreciation helps us feel good about  who we are, what we have and the people in your life. The same thing goes for gratitude. Thanking God and showing it in your daily excursions brings a peace of mind that helps you during your struggles. Don’t underestimate the power of a good thank you or a pat on the back. Those things are as important as anything else in life.

What is The Meaning Of Happiness

Do you know what the meaning of happiness is? Happiness is not the final destination but takes real effort to maintain. We equate happiness with satisfaction and quality of life but it goes much deeper than that. Even though our moods fluctuate, we control whether we stay happy or become depressed.

Research has found that the more our activities coincide with our values the happier we are.  We get meaning from doing those these things but our problems arise from where we put our priorities in the wrong place.

Does your priorities jell with your activities? If not, you may want to think about changing your activities. Happiness alone isn’t enough for us to feel fulfilled but chasing happiness is not the answer.

 “It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness.” Viktor Frankl

In an article entitled “The Problem With Happiness” dated November 17, 2011 bears this out. It states, “People putting the greatest emphasis on being happy reported 50 percent less frequent positive emotions, 35 percent less satisfaction about their life, and 75 percent more depressive symptoms.”

How then do we find happiness?

What Does Happiness Mean To You

We must first decide what is important to each individual person. Then, bring a piece of that happiness and give it to others. This is how we derive meaning from that happiness. Happiness is nothing without meaning.

Here are things you can do to find the meaning of happiness in your own life.

1- Take responsibility for your own happiness and not leave it up to others to bring it to you.

2- Commit yourself to a higher purpose. What is your mission on earth. When you find your purpose you are able to commit yourself to bringing God’s love to the world through your higher purpose.

3- Cultivate awareness of both your surroundings and your thoughts for they can bring great happiness or great sorrow. Be aware of the moment and make that moment count.

4- Cultivate positive relationships that help you grow as a person. Without them, you will be not know the essence of loving others. Selfishness does not breed happiness.

5- Learn to be the most authentic person you can be. This way you don’t have to hide behind a veil of secrecy. The more you let others see the real you the happier you can be in your own skin.

According to Michael Davidson. from his article “The Meaning of Happiness” he states “Happiness is the harmony between you and your life that you achieve through finding meaning in every moment.”

I think that sums up what being happy is all about. Now it’s your turn to make it work for you for you have the choice in all matters to be or not to be happy.

Want to know how to find real happiness?

You can find it in my #1 bestselling book on Amazon.com entitled “Summoned To Love – A Spiritual Blueprint For Rediscovering Inner Peace, Unconditional Love, And True Happiness.”

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Finding Happiness In God’s Kingdom

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Finding Happiness In A World Filled With Hate

Finding happiness is a journey we all take and like every good journey, there are bound to be ups and downs. The feeling that comes with real contentment, sheer joy, and a sense of well-being are what we all strive for in life. When you’re on the path to finding real happiness, plotting the journey becomes just as important as the journey itself. Unfortunately, the world is at a crossroads with how it treats one another and achieving happiness is not given for anyone.

Hate has taken over the world and many people are scared, lonely and feel as if happiness is no longer within their grasps. We are living in a time of great heartache with terrorism, racial tensions at an all-time high, and Christians are facing persecution all over the world. In fact, over 95% of people either go to bed or wake up with worry and fear.

How about you?

Do you feel that way?

For me, I never thought I’d find a way to be happy ever again. In September of 2014, I nearly died in a horrific car accident that left me with four crushed discs in my back and two herniated disc in my neck. Walking has become a chore as well as trying to get the proper amount of sleep but you may think I’d feel sorry for myself after that but God turned around my life and He can do the same for you.

Ways For Christians To Start Finding Happiness In A Sinful World

You’d think it would be easy to find ways to be happy in life with the amount of things that tickle our fancy. From social media to video games, easy sex, illicit drugs, and immoral practices, living without sin can feel like a daunting task.

How does one go about finding ways to be happy without committing sins against God?

As a Christian, we must get back to basics. Do we follow society’s version of happiness and be like everyone else or do we follow God’s plan and alienate ourselves from the masses who don’t believe in God?

For young people, it can be a struggle but fortunately, God has given us a roadmap to follow that guides our every step. It’s called the Bible yet many Christians do not read it and follow God’s commands, especially millennials.

For them, God has become something that isn’t cool anymore and most people do not like to be told they are sinning so they ignore the teachings and live for the next high or good time. But is that really fun they are having or have they become mindless followers?

Let’s look at Five Ways Christians Can Start Finding Happiness In Life

1- Loving Others – Selfishness has become the norm in society. Everyone thinks they are entitled to things but forget that they must work for what they have. Loving others brings happiness in a way that we cannot find on our own. Mahatma Gandhi once said that “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”

Studies have shown that helping others improves our own levels of happiness.  A 2010 survey entitled Do Good Live Well Survey , found that out of 4,500 American adults, 41% of Americans volunteered an average of 100 hours a year. 68% stated that they feel physically healthier after helping others, over 89% said it improved their sense of happiness, and 73% found it lowered their stress levels.

This is a big difference in the way most people live. We put our circumstances first and complain about feeling tired and stressed out yet the path to happiness always goes through others. In their book  entitled The Paradox of Generosity , sociologists Christian Smith and Hilary Davidson  found that very happy people volunteer an average of 5.8 hours per month. as oppose to those who are unhappy who volunteer just 0.6 hours.

Volunteering to help others is a concrete way of putting God’s word into practice. We are asked to love God with all our hearts and soul and to love others as we do ourselves. Giving of ourselves does that much more than giving money can ever do.

2- Show Compassion Emma Seppala Ph. D., states that We often think that we will gain happiness by achieving, receiving or attaining. We also think that in order to be happy, we have to receive love. Think again! Research shows that our greatest fulfillment comes in large part from being connected to others and from helping them.”  She goes on to say this about compassion, “Compassion brings meaning and researchers have found that living a life of meaning is one of the greatest determinants of happiness. Not only does compassion ensure depth, fulfillment and purpose in our lives, studies show that it has powerful health benefits and even leads to a longer life!”

Compassion is the glue that holds humanity together. Love cannot function without compassion and we as humans cannot experience real happiness if we are not filled with compassion for others as well as ourselves. Having compassion for ourselves helps us feel good about our existence and who doesn’t want to feel good?

Learning how to be compassionate starts with empathy.  We cultivate compassion by developing empathy for others. Empathy brings appreciation for our own situation and circumstances while helping us to see the suffering of others.

Having compassion for others also brings out the commonalities we all share. It is through this shared commonality that we recognize the worth of others. Our happiness comes from loving others in a compassionate way.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama

3-Self-Discovery –  Happiness comes from inside not from all the things you’ve accumulated over the years. When you don’t feel happy, it’s time to take a step back and get to know yourself. When you know who you are, what your core value system is, and take notice of what fills you with joy, you’ll be ready to plot your course to true happiness.

Getting to know the real you can be difficult. You’ve formed an opinion about yourself from the time you were a small child and what makes you happy, sad, angry and self-confident is all based on both your personality, circumstances and experiences. You may be surprised to find that what you thought was true isn’t true at all.

God knows you better than you will ever know yourself and has a plan for you. Following this plan brings it’s own brand of happiness.

Self-discovery is your launching pad to finding  happiness in your life. When you know what you want out of life, what your true purpose is, and why God created you, you will be  on your way to completing the circle of happiness that all Christians long for.

Assessing the various parts of your Christian life can be helpful in determining what level of happiness you achieve. One way is to keep a gratitude journal. Each day, write down all the thing you are grateful for. pray for guidance so that you focus on those things that bring gratitude into your life.

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4- Find Your Core Values  – The essence of your personality come from within your core values. If you’re engaged in activities or have relationships with others who don’t meet the criteria that meet your true values, it’s time find a way to r surround yourself with positive people who adhere to those values you hold dear to your heart.

Your core values are the building blocks of who you ultimately become. Life coach, Debra Smouse states that, ” Your values are who you are, not who you think you should be in order to fit in.”  We sometimes forget that and make fitting in with others our goal in finding happiness. Instead, your beliefs and values give you purpose and are the branches that we spread out amongst the world.

Christians must wade through a maze of conflicting messages that can compromise our values and send us skidding down the pathway towards sin. Having the right values and living your life based on those values keeps Christians strong. Our love of God and His word teach us what to believe in and we derive our happiness  from putting those beliefs in action.

5- Live Out The Gospel – Every Christian knows what the four Gospels teach and our whole existence is based on those teachings. How often do we compromise what we’ve learned to seek out happiness in all the wrong places?

We are told in Psalm 1:1-6 that, “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.”

Prosperity comes from the law of the Lord. We are hardwired for happiness and that happiness comes in the form of Jesus Christ. It’s in our pursuit of holiness that real joy comes into our heart. The more we love and follow Jesus, the more we experience the joys He has promised.

Happiness is a journey.  We must practice it everyday if we are to overcome sin and those who force their beliefs on us. The more we come to Jesus and submit ourselves to Him, the more we will find joy in our ordinary lives.

Happiness is there for the taking. Are you Christian enough to take it?

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