How To Find True Happiness
“Even if life gave you at one time everything you wanted – wealth, power, friends — after awhile you would again become dissatisfied and need something more. But there is one thing that can never become stale to you – joy itself.”
Finding true happiness… it’s everyone’s goal in life but far too many people end up looking for it in all the wrong places. They think money, power, and possessions can replace the joy that God has given us but they always end up at the same place… broke, dejected, and sometimes alone.
Happiness is not something you can buy. It is a way of thinking, living and being. It is being able to to live with both the good times and bad times and still being able to smile at the world. Taking it to the next level… that’s what joy is all about
It has taken me years to understand the concept of what happiness is all about. I came from a miserable childhood which didn’t offer much hope or joy but as I have come to know Jesus Christ and accept Him as my savior, a new spirit has come over me. I see happiness as a gift from God and I want to share it with the world.
Below is a beautiful video on finding and creating happiness which is what all of us truly need and to help you understand and enjoy what true happiness is all about. Open your heart to the will of God and see what life has to offer. Happiness comes from unconditional love. Give love and happiness will find you… I guarantee it!
Finding And Creating Real Happiness
“Happiness is a direction, not a place.”
Sydney J. Harris
In this video by Jay Phelan, PhD., we learn how to put structure into our lives so happiness flows through us instead of trying to find that elusive happiness that always seems to be out of our grasp. It is through these concepts that we can reimagine what happiness is and live according to God’s plan.
What principals of happiness do we need to learn to make happiness work in our own lives? Here is are 20 principals from Jay on finding your own brand of true happiness in life:
1- The amount of money you have does not equate the amount of happiness you feel. The old saying, “Money can’t buy you happiness” has been proven time and time again yet too many people search for happiness in the almighty dollar.
2- In the United States, the GDP (Gross National Product) more than doubled between 1972 and 2002 and yet, they found that even though people had increased their salaries significantly, they did not feel any happier. The main reason has to do with people are still searching for happiness in all the wrong places. They still think they can find it in possessions.
3- The happiness factor has not really kept up with our rising wealth. In fact, it seems the more we earn, the less happy we tend to be. We spend too much time chasing wealth instead of spending our time giving to others. Giving has been found to bring more happiness than anything we can buy.
4- The same ideas hold true for Japan. You’d think with their rising wealth they too would be a much happier people but when you look at their own rise in salaries you find different customs and different ways to do things still haven’t increased their overall happiness between the years 1958 and 2002. Once you hit a certain ceiling in salary it seems that happiness stagnates out.
Why Is It So Hard To Increase Happiness
“There is some kind of a sweet innocence in being human—in not having to be just happy or just sad—in the nature of being able to be both broken and whole, at the same time.”
5- Why does this happen to us? It all comes down to our genes. It is adaptation through evolution. We have adapted our emotions through the years based on what is happening around us.
6- Jay explains it this way… emotions alter the way we behave in ways that are beneficial to our genes. By taking these four powerful emotions we see what happens when we adapt them to our genes.
7- We tend to think our emotions lead us towards the pathway to happiness but our genes have an agenda all their own and our emotions just come for the ride and express what we’re feeling..
8- Studies have shown that people who win the lottery hit the highest point right after winning but after one year, they go back to the same happiness levels they were at before winning the money. It’s not the money but what we are feeling inside. That takes us where we want to go in life. It’s the pursuit of happiness that brings us there not the money, possessions or power thrusted upon us it’s not the end result of that pursuit but how we get there.
9- Another example of this happens when a person has a catastrophic accident. At first, they are at their lowest point but research has found that some people return to their pre-accident happiness levels after just one year. Time heals all wounds helps people accept life to the point that they trust what they’re feeling is true and authentic again.
10- Our genes are always looking for constant progress. They want us to be improving and learning. If we don’t improve we become stagnant. It’s more about moving towards your life’s goals instead of the final accomplishment. The actual working on improving ourselves brings the big reward not the end goal.
11- Worrying spoils the improvements we make and turns off the happiness genes. Stop worrying about your current situation. Instead, try to make the current situation better as you go along. Give it time to build and follow through to it’s logical conclusion. Too often, we try to force happiness to happen but when we choose to let happen flow it makes it much easier to be joyful.
12- Jay says we are to take our goals less seriously. It may seem logical but the goal incentivizes the tools we have to work with. When we have reached our intended goals, we start searching for a new goal to achieve. Once again, we’re back looking for the pathway to more more happiness.
13- Life puts us in precarious positions but that’s what so great about finding happiness. It forces us to look deep inside for what’s real and shows us what true happiness means to us.
Working Towards The Ultimate Joy Of Life
“The world is full of people looking for spectacular happiness while they snub contentment.”
14- People complain and say that if you are working towards a new goal you think things are terrible right now and you’ll be happy when you get there but in reality, it doesn’t quite work that way.
15– You need to take chances in life. It’s not about just the goals or just about achieving them because one of the consequences of having emotions is, they are short-lived. Once their done it’s on to the next set of experiences. We think the worst but they don’t last nearly as long as we perceive them to be.
16- Try and do the things that make you happy but go beyond your current expectations because your worse-case scenario is usually wrong and things work out okay. You sabotage your chances at feeling happy because you’ve put a limit on finding happiness. It’s like a wall that you separate between you and your eventual happiness.
17- You must understand what makes you happy and pursue that. The funny thing is, we know how to make others happy but we sabotage our own happiness.
18- Unexpected happiness is good for everyone involved. It keeps the flow of happiness going as one thing closes and a new thing opens. You give happiness and someone receives it.
19- We need to structure our lives in such a way that we are always making progress. That’s where the true happiness lies. Not in some far off belief that if we attain our goal we will receive a ribbon of happiness and we don’t have to do anything else anymore.
20- Happiness is in the doing… not the final result. Don’t put all your energies in the goal itself but improving who you are and what you are experiencing for those experiences bring their own brand of happiness both now and later on as we look back fondly over the events of our life.
I hope you understand the meaning that has been presented to you here and may you always find your happiness in living and not dreaming your life away.