Finding True Happiness In Life Part 1

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How To Find True Happiness

“Even if life gave you at one time everything you wanted – wealth, power, friends — after awhile you would again become dissatisfied and need something more.  But there is one thing that can never become stale to you – joy itself.”
Paramhansa Yogananda

Finding true happiness… it’s everyone’s goal in life but far too many people end up looking for it in all the wrong places. They think money, power, and possessions can replace the joy that God has given us but they always end up at the same place… broke, dejected, and sometimes alone.

Happiness is not something you can buy. It is a way of thinking, living and being. It is being able to to live with both the good times and bad times and still being able to smile at the world. Taking it to the next level… that’s what joy is all about

It has taken me years to understand the concept of what happiness is all about. I came from a miserable childhood which didn’t offer much hope or joy but as I have come to know Jesus Christ and accept Him as my savior, a new spirit has come over me. I see happiness as a gift from God and I want to share it with the world.

Below is a beautiful video on finding and creating happiness which is what all of us truly need and to help you understand and enjoy what true happiness is all about. Open your heart to the will of God and see what life has to offer. Happiness comes from unconditional love. Give love and happiness will find you… I guarantee it!

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Finding And Creating Real Happiness 

“Happiness is a direction, not a place.”
Sydney J. Harris

In this video by Jay Phelan, PhD., we learn how to put structure into our lives so happiness flows through us instead of trying to find that elusive happiness that always seems to be out of our grasp. It is through these concepts that we can reimagine what happiness is and live according to God’s plan.

What principals of happiness do we need to learn to make happiness work in our own lives? Here is are 20 principals from Jay on finding your own brand of true happiness in life:

1- The amount of money you have does not equate the amount of happiness you feel. The old saying, “Money can’t buy you happiness” has been proven time and time again yet too many people search for happiness in the almighty dollar.

2- In the United States, the GDP (Gross National Product) more than doubled between 1972 and 2002 and yet, they found that even though people had increased their salaries significantly, they did not feel any happier. The main reason has to do with people are still searching for happiness in all the wrong places. They still think they can find it in possessions.

3- The happiness factor has not really kept up with our rising wealth. In fact, it seems the more we earn, the less happy we tend to be. We spend too much time chasing wealth instead of spending our time giving to others. Giving has been found to bring more happiness than anything we can buy.

4- The same ideas hold true for Japan. You’d think with their rising wealth they too would be a much happier people but when you look at their own rise in salaries you find different customs and different ways to do things still haven’t increased their overall happiness between the years 1958 and 2002. Once you hit a certain ceiling in salary it seems that happiness stagnates out.

Why Is It So Hard To Increase Happiness

“There is some kind of a sweet innocence in being human—in not having to be just happy or just sad—in the nature of being able to be both broken and whole, at the same time.”
C. JoyBell C.

5- Why does this happen to us? It all comes down to our genes. It is adaptation through evolution. We have adapted our emotions through the years based on what is happening around us.

6- Jay explains it this way… emotions alter the way we behave in ways that are beneficial to our genes. By taking these four powerful emotions we see what happens when we adapt them to our genes.

  1. Anger
  2. Guilt
  3. Desire
  4. Jealousy

7- We tend to think our emotions lead us towards the pathway to happiness but our genes have an agenda all their own and our emotions just come for the ride and express what we’re feeling..

8- Studies have shown that people who win the lottery hit the highest point right after winning but after one year, they go back to the same happiness levels they were at before winning the money. It’s not the money but what we are feeling inside. That takes us where we want to go in life. It’s the pursuit of happiness that brings us there not the money, possessions or power thrusted upon us it’s not the end result of that pursuit but how we get there.

9- Another example of this happens when a person has a catastrophic accident. At first, they are at their lowest point but research has found that some people return to their pre-accident happiness levels after just one year. Time heals all wounds helps people accept life to the point that they trust what they’re feeling is true and authentic again.

10- Our genes are always looking for constant progress. They want us to be improving and learning. If we don’t improve we become stagnant. It’s more about moving towards your life’s goals instead of the final accomplishment. The actual working on improving ourselves brings the big reward not the end goal.

11- Worrying spoils the improvements we make and turns off the happiness genes. Stop worrying about your current situation. Instead, try to make the current situation better as you go along. Give it time to build and follow through to it’s logical conclusion. Too often, we try to force happiness to happen but when we choose to let happen flow it makes it much easier to be joyful.

12- Jay says we are to take our goals less seriously. It may seem logical but the goal incentivizes the tools we have to work with. When we have reached our intended goals, we start searching for a new goal to achieve. Once again, we’re back looking for the pathway to more more happiness.

13- Life puts us in precarious positions but that’s what so great about finding happiness. It forces us to look deep inside for what’s real and shows us what true happiness means to us.

Working Towards The Ultimate Joy Of Life

“The world is full of people looking for spectacular happiness while they snub contentment.”
Doug Larson

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14- People complain and say that if you are working towards a new goal you think things are terrible right now and you’ll be happy when you get there but in reality, it doesn’t quite work that way.

15– You need to take chances in life. It’s not about just the goals or just about achieving them because one of the consequences of having emotions is, they are short-lived. Once their done it’s on to the next set of experiences. We think the worst but they don’t last nearly as long as we perceive them to be.

16- Try and do the things that make you happy but go beyond your current expectations because your worse-case scenario is usually wrong and things work out okay. You sabotage your chances at feeling happy because you’ve put a limit on finding happiness. It’s like a wall that you separate between you and your eventual happiness.

17- You must understand what makes you happy and pursue that. The funny thing is, we know how to make others happy but we sabotage our own happiness.

18- Unexpected happiness is good for everyone involved. It keeps the flow of happiness going as one thing closes and a new thing opens. You give happiness and someone receives it.

19- We need to structure our lives in such a way that we are always making progress. That’s where the true happiness lies. Not in some far off belief that if we attain our goal we will receive a ribbon of happiness and we don’t have to do anything else anymore.

20- Happiness is in the doing… not the final result. Don’t put all your energies in the goal itself but improving who you are and what you are experiencing for those experiences bring their own brand of happiness both now and later on as we look back fondly over the events of our life.

I hope you understand the meaning that has been presented to you here and may you always find your happiness in living and not dreaming your life away.

Finding Happiness In An Unhappy World

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Finding True Happiness In Life

“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.”
Jim Rohn

Are you happy?

The reason I ask this because according to 2016 World Happiness Report, people in the United States are only the thirteenth happiest people in the world. For the richest and most influential country on the planet, this doesn’t seem to make sense. But let’s delve a bit further and see how this affects you.

What makes you happy?

Is it family, friends, money, your career? All of the above… or none of the above?

You see, happiness is a state of mind not a place we go to or based on the current or past events of our lives. Happiness is like the air we breathe. We can either accept it and let it flow through our bodies pumping us up with a life-giving force or dismiss it and allow it make us sick. You, my friend, have the final decision on what you want to do when it comes to finding real happiness.

So let me ask you again. What makes you happy?

Finding happiness in life is actually a misnomer. We don’t have to find happiness… we need to experience happiness. It’s not about looking for something to make you happy but opening your heart and embracing happiness.

How To Live a Happy Life

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“The key to being happy is knowing you have the power to choose what to accept and what to let go.”
Dodinsky

The science of happiness has determined that happy people have specific ways they think and act that impacts their sense of well-being and happiness. It goes much deeper than just feeling happy. Many look at happiness as a result of their action but happiness drives your actions.

Take a look at your life. When you are happy, it inspires what you do but it’s the complete opposite when you are sad. But what if you didn’t have to rely on feelings to be happy? What if what you do everyday is a product of a belief is a higher power?

What if you could effectively erase worry from your thoughts? Do you think you could allow happiness to enter in.  Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:25-34: “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?

 

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Most people based their happiness on how much or how little they have to worry about.  Living with worry only spoils the happiness that surrounds you. Quality of life should have no bearing on how happy you are. The rich are not any more happier than the poor contrary to many believe.

In fact, many of the poor throughout the world are much happier than people who have so much. Studies show that the poor in many countries base their happiness on factors such as gratitude, love and care while those who pursue materialistic endeavors tend to use the objects as way to find happiness.

Henry David Thoreau once said this about happiness, “Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.”

If you search for happiness your whole life then it will be all in vain but if you allow happiness to live in your heart, it will grow like a flower. This is how I learned to be happy. I could have been mad at the world after losing my first girlfriend to leukemia but I lifted everything up to the Lord.

In Philippians 4:4-7, it tells us to “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice ! 5 Let your forbearing spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near. 6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, shall guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

This gives us a road map on how to live a happy life.

How To Find Joy In Life

Psychotherapist Jude Bijou MA, MFT states, “Joy is an emotion, and emotions are wordless. They’re pure physical sensations in our bodies. We express the emotion of joy in many physical ways.”   Happiness should be physically exuded in everything we do. It isn’t about what we don’t have but being grateful for what we do have.

When I recently had major reconstructive surgery on my back, the pain was overwhelming but I still felt joy. Why? I was grateful for the health I did have. Pain was something I was used to for over ten years but I didn’t have control over that pain. To live a happier life, I needed to focus on things that I could control such as my mindset which is a major key to happiness.

So, how do you rewire your brain for happiness?

Here’s A Short List Of Things You Can Do To Change Your Mindset About Happiness

icon-check1- Build different bridges with your thoughts – This means, instead of building a negative bridge, start building positive bridges and then re-enforce those positive thoughts at so that our brains can adapt and change according to our everyday behaviors.

icon-check2- Practice self compassion – Compassionate people have shown the ability to see beyond those things that cause unhappiness ans are able to focus on both love and care which are vital to how happy people act.

icon-check3- Personal awareness – So often we live on autopilot that we forget to be aware of our surroundings. We don’t see the beauty and the wonder that is sitting right in front of us. We’re too worried about our bills, the office or even what to make for dinner that night. Our brains ruminate or go over the same things that it blocks out our chance to experience life in all its grandeur.

icon-check4- Commit random acts of kindness – These random acts of kindness set off s mini explosions of happiness in our brains. They give us hope, purpose and belonging in a world that sometimes can be very cruel. Giving is like a drug, the more you experience the more you want to keep giving.

The more you decide in your mind to be happy, the easier it will be to stay happy. When you concentrate on your personal happiness as well as the happiness of others, you make happiness a daily habit for the good of the world.

Experiencing Love And Happiness In The World Today

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“The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.”
Marcel Pagnol

Love is one of the most important key to finding happiness in the world. Without it, we let misery creep in and allow ourselves to feel sorry for our situation.

Why is love so important to happiness.

Love and happiness have a connection that was given to us by God himself. God loves us so much that He wants us to experience that joy. We see this in bible verses such as: “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4, and “In your presence is fullness of joy, and at your right hand are pleasures forevermore,” Psalm 16:11.

According to Arthur Dobrin, D.S.W., Professor Emeritus, Hofstra University and author of over twenty books, “Whichever way you find happiness, it is always accompanied by love, for happiness is ultimately the love of life, the celebration of living. The mark of happiness is that you are sensitive to the world around you, that you acknowledge your dependence upon your surroundings and that you are filled with loving-kindness.”

We are to seek out love and as well as give it and happiness will be a huge part of the process. George Sand probably distilled down to it’s perfect meaning when he said, There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.”

Love changes us in so many ways. It makes us feel good, it gives us hope in others and it allows us to express the true nature of our being.. that is, to just love no matter what! No only do love and happiness go hand in hand… they were made for each other.

Love is an action verb. It must be acted upon. It is through those actions that we not only derive happiness but give it as well. The world doesn’t like others to be happy but you can make the decision right now to live in happiness and learn what makes people happy. Once you know this, happiness is yours to keep.

Want to know how you can find inner peace, unconditional love and true happiness in God’s kingdom?

You can find it in my #1 bestselling book on Amazon.com entitled “Summoned To Love – A Spiritual Blueprint For Rediscovering Inner Peace, Unconditional Love, And True Happiness.”

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How To Find True Happiness In Life

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How To Find True Happiness

“You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.” 
Jonathan Safran Foer

Ever felt like finding true happiness has eluded you your whole life?

Maybe you’ve had a few instances of happiness but they were so short lived you can barely remember them. I got ya! It seems like everyone is so miserable these days and you don’t have a clue as to why this happening to you also.

We look all over the place for true happiness but we forget the first rule of happiness… do what makes you happy. You don’t look for happiness, you let it come to you.

We find it in the little things in life. Ever thought about doing something wild and crazy but then your logical side spoke up as if it were your mother and told you to stop fooling around and get busy doing something constructive?

Those are happiness killers. The things that stop us from having fun and expressing ourselves.

What makes you happy?

What’s stopping you from the things that make you happy?

Excuses are the bane of anyone trying to find happiness in a world filled with sorrow and depression.

According to Professor Myrna Weisman and associates, roughly a quarter of the population has suffered some form of clinical depression during their lifetime and a further 48% has suffered from depression severe enough to incapacitate them for more than two weeks. This is also taken from Robert E. Lane’s book “Loss Of Happiness” and it shows that society is becoming less and less happy and has gone to taking out its frustrations on one another.

If you want to be happy you need to examine what makes you happy, why they make you happy and how you go about including those things in your life.

What Are 7 The Keys To Finding True Happiness?

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“Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” 
Marcel Proust

Worry is not one of then but the mere fact that we are so filled with worry makes it so hard to be happy. There are many ways to be happy but let me share some of the most powerful keys to finding happiness.

1- Faith It may seem like a no-brainer but too many people go round without faith in themselves or a higher being.  As a Christian, my faith keeps me grounded and allows me to stay away from temptations that would get me in trouble, from people who may try and take advantage of me as well as situations that may compromise my values. The more faith you have the happier your life tends to be. This isn’t just words but a promise. Countless studies have been done to see why people of faith  are happier. Their conclusion? People of faith have something to look forward to that is filled with joy. That gives them contentment others just can’t match.

2- Learn To Savor Live’s Pleasures – You can’t be happy if you don’t experience what life has to offer. How often do you forget the good times in your life while ruminating over that spilt glass of milk or forgetting someone’s name? Savor the good times and forget the bad times. Go out and spell the flowers, Learn how to go out and splurge on yourself without feeling guilty and indulge in what life has to offer. Every day is a chance to see all the beauty God had made for us.

3- Have A Set of Friends Who Have Your Back –  Friends are given to us to experience life from all points of view.  They are there in good times and bad, to laugh at our silly jokes and to make connections that go deeper than just what’s on the outside. Most of our happy memories come from the experiences we share with others.

4- Stop Living Safe – How boring life would be if we never took chances. Where is the fun in being safe. Live like you may not see tomorrow, love like it may be your last time and create adventures that bring fun into your life. It’s not about throwing caution to the wind but taking calculated risk that brings the most rewards.

5- Find Your Balance Point – Life should not be all about work and no play and vise versa. It should be balanced to the point where happiness has a chance to breathe. When the tipping point goes beyond your set balance, unhappiness and misery fills your heart. The main goals of balance is to allow the body and mind to be fulfilled and at peace. If you have neither then you must rebalance you life and add or detract those things that push your life out of balance.

6- Reposition Your Thought Patterns – Too often we take the “I want”  stance in our lives and this leads straight to unhappiness. The more we have, the greater chance of us drowning in possessions instead of experiences. Switch your thoughts to “I Am” and you’ll see the difference. It’s all about piece of mind and believing in yourself. That leads to true happiness and empowerment. Once you have the power to be happy through the mind, you will know the source of your happiness and be able to find happiness wherever you go.

7- Appreciation & Gratitude – If you don’t have these two things you will never be truly happy no matter what you do. Appreciation helps us feel good about  who we are, what we have and the people in your life. The same thing goes for gratitude. Thanking God and showing it in your daily excursions brings a peace of mind that helps you during your struggles. Don’t underestimate the power of a good thank you or a pat on the back. Those things are as important as anything else in life.

What is The Real Meaning Of Happiness?

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“Happiness [is] only real when shared”
Jon Krakauer

Do you know what the meaning of happiness is? Happiness is not the final destination but takes real effort to maintain. We equate happiness with satisfaction and quality of life but it goes much deeper than that. Even though our moods fluctuate, we control whether we stay happy or become depressed.

Research has found that the more our activities coincide with our values the happier we are.  We get meaning from doing those these things but our problems arise from where we put our priorities in the wrong place.

Does your priorities jell with your activities? If not, you may want to think about changing your activities. Happiness alone isn’t enough for us to feel fulfilled but chasing happiness is not the answer.

How to Be Happy

We were made to be happy, yet for most of us, we never attain a level of happiness that leaves us with no regrets.

The more we fight to be happy the less happy we are.

“It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness.” Viktor Frankl

Viktor was right. Instead of pursuing happiness just enjoy the life you are living at the moment and happiness will be right there to grab. We complicate our lives so much with the pursuit of money and things we forget that happiness is free and is given to everyone.

In an article entitled “The Problem With Happiness” dated November 17, 2011 bears this out. It states, “People putting the greatest emphasis on being happy reported 50 percent less frequent positive emotions, 35 percent less satisfaction about their life, and 75 percent more depressive symptoms.”

How then do we find happiness?

What Does Happiness Mean To You

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“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.” 
Steve Maraboli

We must first decide what is important to each individual person. Then, bring a piece of that happiness and give it to others. This is how we derive meaning from that happiness. Happiness is nothing without meaning.

Here are things you can do to find the meaning of happiness in your own life.

1- Take responsibility for your own happiness and not leave it up to others to bring it to you.

2- Commit yourself to a higher purpose. What is your mission on earth. When you find your purpose you are able to commit yourself to bringing God’s love to the world through your higher purpose.

3- Cultivate awareness of both your surroundings and your thoughts for they can bring great happiness or great sorrow. Be aware of the moment and make that moment count.

4- Cultivate positive relationships that help you grow as a person. Without them, you will be not know the essence of loving others. Selfishness does not breed happiness.

5- Learn to be the most authentic person you can be. This way you don’t have to hide behind a veil of secrecy. The more you let others see the real you the happier you can be in your own skin.

According to Michael Davidson. from his article “The Meaning of Happiness” he states “Happiness is the harmony between you and your life that you achieve through finding meaning in every moment.”

I think that sums up what being happy is all about. Now it’s your turn to make it work for you for you have the choice in all matters to be or not to be happy.

Want to know how to find real happiness?

You can find it in my #1 bestselling book on Amazon.com entitled “Summoned To Love – A Spiritual Blueprint For Rediscovering Inner Peace, Unconditional Love, And True Happiness.”

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How To Find Lasting Happiness

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How To Find Lasting Happiness

“A lasting happiness cannot be attained by seeking temporary happiness.” 
E.A. Bucchianeri

Every day we have a chance to find happiness. What are you doing to elicit love and happiness to a world that is devoid of personal contact?

We spend far too much time on Facebook and Twitter and not enough time bringing happiness to the world.

What can you do to find your own brand of happiness?

What must you do to walk through the valley of joy?

Are you getting the most fun out of life? It might seem like an easy question to answer but most of us need to be brutally honest with ourselves. It’s all about finding lasting happiness.

No one with any brain whatsoever can deny that being happy is good advice, but unfortunately for many of us, it can be a difficult request to follow. It shouldn’t be, but the quest has become a burden to many and has led them down a deep and narrow path filled with both decadence and sin.

We reach out in all sorts of strange and unusual ways to find real happiness and still it escapes us but God wants us to be truly happy. We just need to surrender ourselves to His will and happiness will ultimately follow. This may sound like a fantasy to many but God has promised us new life in the spirit as found in 2 Corinthians 5:17:

“Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new
creature; the old things passed away; behold, new
things have come.”

If you find yourself looking in from the outside and wonder why so many other people seem to have every advantage in life while you are mired in the depths of despair, remember this; Everyone’s situation in life is different.

We can choose to become the masters of our own destiny by overcoming our emotions and make smart lifestyle and social choices. Positive choices can ensure we find ourselves happy at the end of the day. No matter what we face, we have the final choice in what we do. Or we can do the exact opposite and live apart from God’s love.

Finding Lasting Happiness In Life

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“Moment by moment the Holy Spirit will work with your beliefs, taking you step by step as you unwind your mind from the many false concepts that you believe keep you safe and make you happy. Only the release from these false beliefs can bring you true happiness and lasting peace.” 
David Hoffmeister

Here’s a simple fact: you can’t truly be happy unless you choose to be happy. When you choose to be happy, you are making a conscious decision about how you look at the world. You are taking personal responsibility over your outlook, rather than blaming outside forces for the way you feel.

Life is filled with all kinds of opportunities to experience happiness but too many of us spoil it by giving excuses as to why we can’t be happy.

Why is this?

What can I do to make happiness a reality?

Put quite simply, the happier you are, the healthier you will be. We know this is true because a wonderful connection between wellness and joy has been discovered. In March of 2013, doctors, psychiatrists and experts from the Mayo Clinic, Harvard University and National Institutes of Health all jumped on Twitter to hold a one-hour discussion about happiness.

According to Dr Friedman, a well-known psychiatrist with the Presbyterian-Weill Cornell Hospital in New York,he states, Happiness is hard to measure, but easy to recognize.” And that is so very true.

You can spot a happy person in an instant. They have a glow about them and give off a radiance of peacefulness and satisfaction. That may be due to the fact that happiness has now finally been officially linked to better health. This affects entire communities as well as individuals. Happiness can even lower the number of stress causing hormones in your body, and improve your immune function.

Just ask Laura Kubzansky, an associate professor at the Harvard School of Public Health who is a leader in studying the effects of those people who choose to have a positive outlook on life. She participated in a study whose results were released in 2007, which included over 6,000 women and men. It tracked 25 to 74-year-old individuals for two decades.

Those participants who were engaged in life and chose to face life’s troubles with enthusiasm and hopefulness actually had a lower risk of coronary heart disease. It seems that emotional vitality can actually make you healthier. This in turn causes you to feel better about yourself and your surroundings, which continues to make you happier about the world. When you choose to be happy, a wonderful cycle of health and joy begins.

Finding Lasting Happiness In God’s Love

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“God loves each of us as if there were only one of us.”
Augustine

Choosing God’s Love To Experience Real Joy A funny thing happens when we involve God in our lives. We see things from a different point of view. God’s love strengthens the bonds of friendship, love, and families in a way that we can never do on our own.

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God calls us to seek happiness in him. We see this in bible verses such as:“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”  Psalm 37:4, and “In your presence is fullness of joy, and at your right hand are pleasures forevermore,”  Psalm 16:11.

God loves us so much that He wants us to experience the joy that comes from His unconditional love. According to author Jon Bloom, “Pleasure is the measure of your treasure.”  There are many promises that God makes and they include being joyful and knowing His peace which are not temporary.

Jesus said, Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the
world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid” John 14:27.

Humans crave happiness but finding pleasure is not the same. Too many try to find it in sinful practices such as drugs, alcohol, and sex and get lost along the way. Your job is to seek God and you will see what real happiness is all about.

Finding lasting happiness is not about a quick fix but those things that bring joy to our hearts and pleasure to the world. Without God’s happiness, love and happiness would be a much bitter pill to swallow.

How do you go about finding lasting happiness?

You can find it in my #1 bestselling book on Amazon.com entitled “Summoned To Love – A Spiritual Blueprint For Rediscovering Inner Peace, Unconditional Love, And True Happiness.”

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Finding Lasting Happiness In God’s Kingdom

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Finding Happiness In A World Filled With Hate

“Happy he who learns to bear what he cannot change.”
Friedrich Schiller

Finding happiness is a journey we all take and like every good journey, there are bound to be ups and downs. The feeling that comes with real contentment, sheer joy, and a sense of well-being are what we all strive for in life. When you’re on the path to finding real happiness, plotting the journey becomes just as important as the journey itself. Unfortunately, the world is at a crossroads with how it treats one another and achieving happiness is not given for anyone.

Hate has taken over the world and many people are scared, lonely and feel as if happiness is no longer within their grasps. We are living in a time of great heartache with terrorism, racial tensions at an all-time high, and Christians are facing persecution all over the world. In fact, over 95% of people either go to bed or wake up with worry and fear.

How about you?

Do you feel that way?

For me, I never thought I’d find a way to be happy ever again. In September of 2014, I nearly died in a horrific car accident that left me with four crushed discs in my back and two herniated disc in my neck. Walking has become a chore as well as trying to get the proper amount of sleep but you may think I’d feel sorry for myself after that but God turned around my life and He can do the same for you.

Ways For Christians To Start Finding Happiness In A Sinful World

“He has no design upon us, but to make us happy. . . . Who should be cheerful, if not the people of God?”
Thomas Watson

You’d think it would be easy to find ways to be happy in life with the amount of things that tickle our fancy. From social media to video games, easy sex, illicit drugs, and immoral practices, living without sin can feel like a daunting task.

How does one go about finding ways to be happy without committing sins against God?

As a Christian, we must get back to basics. Do we follow society’s version of happiness and be like everyone else or do we follow God’s plan and alienate ourselves from the masses who don’t believe in God?

For young people, it can be a struggle but fortunately, God has given us a roadmap to follow that guides our every step. It’s called the Bible yet many Christians do not read it and follow God’s commands, especially millennials.

For them, God has become something that isn’t cool anymore and most people do not like to be told they are sinning so they ignore the teachings and live for the next high or good time. But is that really fun they are having or have they become mindless followers?

5 Ways Christians Can Find Happiness In Everyday Life

Let’s look at Five Ways Christians Can Start Finding Happiness In Life

1- Loving Others – Selfishness has become the norm in society. Everyone thinks they are entitled to things but forget that they must work for what they have. Loving others brings happiness in a way that we cannot find on our own. Mahatma Gandhi once said that “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”

Studies have shown that helping others improves our own levels of happiness.  A 2010 survey entitled Do Good Live Well Survey , found that out of 4,500 American adults, 41% of Americans volunteered an average of 100 hours a year. 68% stated that they feel physically healthier after helping others, over 89% said it improved their sense of happiness, and 73% found it lowered their stress levels.

This is a big difference in the way most people live. We put our circumstances first and complain about feeling tired and stressed out yet the path to happiness always goes through others. In their book  entitled The Paradox of Generosity , sociologists Christian Smith and Hilary Davidson  found that very happy people volunteer an average of 5.8 hours per month. as oppose to those who are unhappy who volunteer just 0.6 hours.

Volunteering to help others is a concrete way of putting God’s word into practice. We are asked to love God with all our hearts and soul and to love others as we do ourselves. Giving of ourselves does that much more than giving money can ever do.

2- Show Compassion Emma Seppala Ph. D., states that We often think that we will gain happiness by achieving, receiving or attaining. We also think that in order to be happy, we have to receive love. Think again! Research shows that our greatest fulfillment comes in large part from being connected to others and from helping them.”  She goes on to say this about compassion, “Compassion brings meaning and researchers have found that living a life of meaning is one of the greatest determinants of happiness. Not only does compassion ensure depth, fulfillment and purpose in our lives, studies show that it has powerful health benefits and even leads to a longer life!”

Compassion is the glue that holds humanity together. Love cannot function without compassion and we as humans cannot experience real happiness if we are not filled with compassion for others as well as ourselves. Having compassion for ourselves helps us feel good about our existence and who doesn’t want to feel good?

Learning how to be compassionate starts with empathy.  We cultivate compassion by developing empathy for others. Empathy brings appreciation for our own situation and circumstances while helping us to see the suffering of others.

Having compassion for others also brings out the commonalities we all share. It is through this shared commonality that we recognize the worth of others. Our happiness comes from loving others in a compassionate way.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama

3-Self-Discovery –  Happiness comes from inside not from all the things you’ve accumulated over the years. When you don’t feel happy, it’s time to take a step back and get to know yourself. When you know who you are, what your core value system is, and take notice of what fills you with joy, you’ll be ready to plot your course to true happiness.

Getting to know the real you can be difficult. You’ve formed an opinion about yourself from the time you were a small child and what makes you happy, sad, angry and self-confident is all based on both your personality, circumstances and experiences. You may be surprised to find that what you thought was true isn’t true at all.

God knows you better than you will ever know yourself and has a plan for you. Following this plan brings it’s own brand of happiness.

Self-discovery is your launching pad to finding  happiness in your life. When you know what you want out of life, what your true purpose is, and why God created you, you will be  on your way to completing the circle of happiness that all Christians long for.

Assessing the various parts of your Christian life can be helpful in determining what level of happiness you achieve. One way is to keep a gratitude journal. Each day, write down all the thing you are grateful for. pray for guidance so that you focus on those things that bring gratitude into your life.

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4- Find Your Core Values  – The essence of your personality come from within your core values. If you’re engaged in activities or have relationships with others who don’t meet the criteria that meet your true values, it’s time find a way to r surround yourself with positive people who adhere to those values you hold dear to your heart.

Your core values are the building blocks of who you ultimately become. Life coach, Debra Smouse states that, ” Your values are who you are, not who you think you should be in order to fit in.”  We sometimes forget that and make fitting in with others our goal in finding happiness. Instead, your beliefs and values give you purpose and are the branches that we spread out amongst the world.

Christians must wade through a maze of conflicting messages that can compromise our values and send us skidding down the pathway towards sin. Having the right values and living your life based on those values keeps Christians strong. Our love of God and His word teach us what to believe in and we derive our happiness  from putting those beliefs in action.

5- Live Out The Gospel – Every Christian knows what the four Gospels teach and our whole existence is based on those teachings. How often do we compromise what we’ve learned to seek out happiness in all the wrong places?

We are told in Psalm 1:1-6 that, “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.”

Prosperity comes from the law of the Lord. We are hardwired for happiness and that happiness comes in the form of Jesus Christ. It’s in our pursuit of holiness that real joy comes into our heart. The more we love and follow Jesus, the more we experience the joys He has promised.

Attributes of Love

Happiness is a journey.  We must practice it everyday if we are to overcome sin and those who force their beliefs on us. The more we come to Jesus and submit ourselves to Him, the more we will find joy in our ordinary lives.

Happiness is there for the taking. Are you Christian enough to take it?

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Why Happiness Is A Choice You Make

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Happiness Is A Choice You Make

“Too often in life, something happens and we blame other people for us not being happy or satisfied or fulfilled. So the point is, we all have choices, and we make the choice to accept people or situations or to not accept situations.”
Tom Brady

If you feel you are lacking in the happiness department my friend, that is a choice you have decided to make.  You have full and complete control over your life and the decisions you make so don’t let anyone tell you different.  Whatever you do in life choosing to be happy is a choice you make and you make alone. You may feel like the fun has gone out of your life but there are many   factors which people measure their own happiness.  Some people think money is the ultimate happiness but they soon realize money doesn’t bring happiness only misery if all you do is work all the time to pay for your pleasures.

You might look at others who are blessed with so much but beware, you don’t know their situation. They may be in serious debt even though it looks like they have  everything.  Don’t strive to be like them. Instead, carve out your own happiness niche in this world by following your passions and your ideals. Being a slave to wealth, possessions, status, or even an exalted position you hold at work. don’t create happiness.  Happiness is a choice that comes from deep inside.

How is Happiness Measured?

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“Happiness, true happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give – pleasure, possessions, power – but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy.”
Dada Vaswani

There are many things in life that can make you happy.  They are mainly subjective because happiness comes differently for everyone. The way you find joy and happiness is measured differently by everyone. Everyone seeks happiness in their own way. What makes you happy is a natural high that you deserve to find.  There is nothing wrong with the things that you find joy in. Respect others for what they enjoy.  Seek out your own enjoyment and never feel guilty for your own pleasure.  It;s something they can;t take away from you.

While some people appear to be naturally happy looks can be deceiving.  Although studies suggest there is a genetic disposition linked to being happy it doesn’t mean you were born to be miserable if you are not a naturally happy person.  Your happiness is influenced by your environment and the people you come in contact with.

How To Find Happiness In Everyday Life

Sleep

Sleep is a big factor in being a happy person.  Sleep is needed for the body to function properly.  When you don’t get enough sleep you you end up being very moody, have an inability to think clearly, and your reactions to events is slow.. Lack of sleep can cause problems with your health as well.  Ensuring total well being requires a good night sleep.  Change your daily schedule so you can get to bed earlier.  You also might need to encourage other people in your household to help you a little bit more if you are working too hard.

Exercise

Exercise is very good for the body and floods the brain with endorphins which are responsible for making you happy.  Exercise is important for total health. When you exercise, focus not only a toned body but on a firm mind.  Build self confidence which is a precursor for finding happiness.  Exercise is not just about feeling or looking good but a way to avoid sickness.  When people are sick they tend to lose gratitude they had for life.  Always be grateful for who you are, what you have been given and work hard to be the best person you can be.

Meditation

Practicing meditation is another great way to find happiness in your life.  Combined with exercise, it can relax both your body and mind.  Mediation is a form of prayer and calms the spirit.  A calm spirit can focus on way to become the person you’ve always wanted to be.  If you are a goal-oriented person this is a great way to pursue the visions and dreams you have.

Meditation is one of the most effective ways to change your well being.  Doctors have proven that meditation generates brain activity on the left side, which produces positive emotions in the body. Meditation offers a world of good for the practitioner which in turn, creates a sense of well being in the person.  Those that a happy people have a good sense of well being about themselves and radiate it out into the world. Inner peace is the ultimate form of happiness and feeling you are one with God goes along way in keeping you happy.

Prayer

Prayer is the highest form of happiness.  When we pray to God, we bask in his unconditional love. Prayers of gratitude and thanksgiving show our happiness and love for GOd.  It is a well known fact that those who pray are much happier than those who don’t.  Knowing that there is a loving and caring God that has our back gives comfort in time of trouble and stress and helps us avoid become victims of depression.  Once again, praying changes our brains and causes us to feel at peace. Peace is just another word for happiness in its most basic form.

The Quest For Happiness

“Perfect happiness is a beautiful sunset, the giggle of a grandchild, the first snowfall. It’s the little things that make happy moments, not the grand events. Joy comes in sips, not gulps.”
Sharon Draper

Some people search their whole lives for happiness and never find it.  They are too busy with their own feelings they never stop to understand what others may be doing or feeling.  One of the best ways to find happiness is to serve others.  We find comfort is serving others and studies have shown that it changes our heart when we help others.

Research - What makes us happy?

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Being part of a community is another way to bring happiness into your life.  Those who share our passions are more apt to treat us with respect and dignity and their friendship is a great way to enjoy a happy existence.  The more good and trusted friends you have, the more happy you will apt to be.

If you are an unhappy person, use these tips to be happy to change your life for good.  No one wants to be unhappy but there are ways to avoid unhappiness and learn to enjoy what life has to offer.