Finding True Happiness In Life Part 1

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How To Find True Happiness

“Even if life gave you at one time everything you wanted – wealth, power, friends — after awhile you would again become dissatisfied and need something more.  But there is one thing that can never become stale to you – joy itself.”
Paramhansa Yogananda

Finding true happiness… it’s everyone’s goal in life but far too many people end up looking for it in all the wrong places. They think money, power, and possessions can replace the joy that God has given us but they always end up at the same place… broke, dejected, and sometimes alone.

Happiness is not something you can buy. It is a way of thinking, living and being. It is being able to to live with both the good times and bad times and still being able to smile at the world. Taking it to the next level… that’s what joy is all about

It has taken me years to understand the concept of what happiness is all about. I came from a miserable childhood which didn’t offer much hope or joy but as I have come to know Jesus Christ and accept Him as my savior, a new spirit has come over me. I see happiness as a gift from God and I want to share it with the world.

Below is a beautiful video on finding and creating happiness which is what all of us truly need and to help you understand and enjoy what true happiness is all about. Open your heart to the will of God and see what life has to offer. Happiness comes from unconditional love. Give love and happiness will find you… I guarantee it!

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Finding And Creating Real Happiness 

“Happiness is a direction, not a place.”
Sydney J. Harris

In this video by Jay Phelan, PhD., we learn how to put structure into our lives so happiness flows through us instead of trying to find that elusive happiness that always seems to be out of our grasp. It is through these concepts that we can reimagine what happiness is and live according to God’s plan.

What principals of happiness do we need to learn to make happiness work in our own lives? Here is are 20 principals from Jay on finding your own brand of true happiness in life:

1- The amount of money you have does not equate the amount of happiness you feel. The old saying, “Money can’t buy you happiness” has been proven time and time again yet too many people search for happiness in the almighty dollar.

2- In the United States, the GDP (Gross National Product) more than doubled between 1972 and 2002 and yet, they found that even though people had increased their salaries significantly, they did not feel any happier. The main reason has to do with people are still searching for happiness in all the wrong places. They still think they can find it in possessions.

3- The happiness factor has not really kept up with our rising wealth. In fact, it seems the more we earn, the less happy we tend to be. We spend too much time chasing wealth instead of spending our time giving to others. Giving has been found to bring more happiness than anything we can buy.

4- The same ideas hold true for Japan. You’d think with their rising wealth they too would be a much happier people but when you look at their own rise in salaries you find different customs and different ways to do things still haven’t increased their overall happiness between the years 1958 and 2002. Once you hit a certain ceiling in salary it seems that happiness stagnates out.

Why Is It So Hard To Increase Happiness

“There is some kind of a sweet innocence in being human—in not having to be just happy or just sad—in the nature of being able to be both broken and whole, at the same time.”
C. JoyBell C.

5- Why does this happen to us? It all comes down to our genes. It is adaptation through evolution. We have adapted our emotions through the years based on what is happening around us.

6- Jay explains it this way… emotions alter the way we behave in ways that are beneficial to our genes. By taking these four powerful emotions we see what happens when we adapt them to our genes.

  1. Anger
  2. Guilt
  3. Desire
  4. Jealousy

7- We tend to think our emotions lead us towards the pathway to happiness but our genes have an agenda all their own and our emotions just come for the ride and express what we’re feeling..

8- Studies have shown that people who win the lottery hit the highest point right after winning but after one year, they go back to the same happiness levels they were at before winning the money. It’s not the money but what we are feeling inside. That takes us where we want to go in life. It’s the pursuit of happiness that brings us there not the money, possessions or power thrusted upon us it’s not the end result of that pursuit but how we get there.

9- Another example of this happens when a person has a catastrophic accident. At first, they are at their lowest point but research has found that some people return to their pre-accident happiness levels after just one year. Time heals all wounds helps people accept life to the point that they trust what they’re feeling is true and authentic again.

10- Our genes are always looking for constant progress. They want us to be improving and learning. If we don’t improve we become stagnant. It’s more about moving towards your life’s goals instead of the final accomplishment. The actual working on improving ourselves brings the big reward not the end goal.

11- Worrying spoils the improvements we make and turns off the happiness genes. Stop worrying about your current situation. Instead, try to make the current situation better as you go along. Give it time to build and follow through to it’s logical conclusion. Too often, we try to force happiness to happen but when we choose to let happen flow it makes it much easier to be joyful.

12- Jay says we are to take our goals less seriously. It may seem logical but the goal incentivizes the tools we have to work with. When we have reached our intended goals, we start searching for a new goal to achieve. Once again, we’re back looking for the pathway to more more happiness.

13- Life puts us in precarious positions but that’s what so great about finding happiness. It forces us to look deep inside for what’s real and shows us what true happiness means to us.

Working Towards The Ultimate Joy Of Life

“The world is full of people looking for spectacular happiness while they snub contentment.”
Doug Larson

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14- People complain and say that if you are working towards a new goal you think things are terrible right now and you’ll be happy when you get there but in reality, it doesn’t quite work that way.

15– You need to take chances in life. It’s not about just the goals or just about achieving them because one of the consequences of having emotions is, they are short-lived. Once their done it’s on to the next set of experiences. We think the worst but they don’t last nearly as long as we perceive them to be.

16- Try and do the things that make you happy but go beyond your current expectations because your worse-case scenario is usually wrong and things work out okay. You sabotage your chances at feeling happy because you’ve put a limit on finding happiness. It’s like a wall that you separate between you and your eventual happiness.

17- You must understand what makes you happy and pursue that. The funny thing is, we know how to make others happy but we sabotage our own happiness.

18- Unexpected happiness is good for everyone involved. It keeps the flow of happiness going as one thing closes and a new thing opens. You give happiness and someone receives it.

19- We need to structure our lives in such a way that we are always making progress. That’s where the true happiness lies. Not in some far off belief that if we attain our goal we will receive a ribbon of happiness and we don’t have to do anything else anymore.

20- Happiness is in the doing… not the final result. Don’t put all your energies in the goal itself but improving who you are and what you are experiencing for those experiences bring their own brand of happiness both now and later on as we look back fondly over the events of our life.

I hope you understand the meaning that has been presented to you here and may you always find your happiness in living and not dreaming your life away.

Finding Lasting Happiness In God’s Kingdom

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Finding Happiness In A World Filled With Hate

“Happy he who learns to bear what he cannot change.”
Friedrich Schiller

Finding happiness is a journey we all take and like every good journey, there are bound to be ups and downs. The feeling that comes with real contentment, sheer joy, and a sense of well-being are what we all strive for in life. When you’re on the path to finding real happiness, plotting the journey becomes just as important as the journey itself. Unfortunately, the world is at a crossroads with how it treats one another and achieving happiness is not given for anyone.

Hate has taken over the world and many people are scared, lonely and feel as if happiness is no longer within their grasps. We are living in a time of great heartache with terrorism, racial tensions at an all-time high, and Christians are facing persecution all over the world. In fact, over 95% of people either go to bed or wake up with worry and fear.

How about you?

Do you feel that way?

For me, I never thought I’d find a way to be happy ever again. In September of 2014, I nearly died in a horrific car accident that left me with four crushed discs in my back and two herniated disc in my neck. Walking has become a chore as well as trying to get the proper amount of sleep but you may think I’d feel sorry for myself after that but God turned around my life and He can do the same for you.

Ways For Christians To Start Finding Happiness In A Sinful World

“He has no design upon us, but to make us happy. . . . Who should be cheerful, if not the people of God?”
Thomas Watson

You’d think it would be easy to find ways to be happy in life with the amount of things that tickle our fancy. From social media to video games, easy sex, illicit drugs, and immoral practices, living without sin can feel like a daunting task.

How does one go about finding ways to be happy without committing sins against God?

As a Christian, we must get back to basics. Do we follow society’s version of happiness and be like everyone else or do we follow God’s plan and alienate ourselves from the masses who don’t believe in God?

For young people, it can be a struggle but fortunately, God has given us a roadmap to follow that guides our every step. It’s called the Bible yet many Christians do not read it and follow God’s commands, especially millennials.

For them, God has become something that isn’t cool anymore and most people do not like to be told they are sinning so they ignore the teachings and live for the next high or good time. But is that really fun they are having or have they become mindless followers?

5 Ways Christians Can Find Happiness In Everyday Life

Let’s look at Five Ways Christians Can Start Finding Happiness In Life

1- Loving Others – Selfishness has become the norm in society. Everyone thinks they are entitled to things but forget that they must work for what they have. Loving others brings happiness in a way that we cannot find on our own. Mahatma Gandhi once said that “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”

Studies have shown that helping others improves our own levels of happiness.  A 2010 survey entitled Do Good Live Well Survey , found that out of 4,500 American adults, 41% of Americans volunteered an average of 100 hours a year. 68% stated that they feel physically healthier after helping others, over 89% said it improved their sense of happiness, and 73% found it lowered their stress levels.

This is a big difference in the way most people live. We put our circumstances first and complain about feeling tired and stressed out yet the path to happiness always goes through others. In their book  entitled The Paradox of Generosity , sociologists Christian Smith and Hilary Davidson  found that very happy people volunteer an average of 5.8 hours per month. as oppose to those who are unhappy who volunteer just 0.6 hours.

Volunteering to help others is a concrete way of putting God’s word into practice. We are asked to love God with all our hearts and soul and to love others as we do ourselves. Giving of ourselves does that much more than giving money can ever do.

2- Show Compassion Emma Seppala Ph. D., states that We often think that we will gain happiness by achieving, receiving or attaining. We also think that in order to be happy, we have to receive love. Think again! Research shows that our greatest fulfillment comes in large part from being connected to others and from helping them.”  She goes on to say this about compassion, “Compassion brings meaning and researchers have found that living a life of meaning is one of the greatest determinants of happiness. Not only does compassion ensure depth, fulfillment and purpose in our lives, studies show that it has powerful health benefits and even leads to a longer life!”

Compassion is the glue that holds humanity together. Love cannot function without compassion and we as humans cannot experience real happiness if we are not filled with compassion for others as well as ourselves. Having compassion for ourselves helps us feel good about our existence and who doesn’t want to feel good?

Learning how to be compassionate starts with empathy.  We cultivate compassion by developing empathy for others. Empathy brings appreciation for our own situation and circumstances while helping us to see the suffering of others.

Having compassion for others also brings out the commonalities we all share. It is through this shared commonality that we recognize the worth of others. Our happiness comes from loving others in a compassionate way.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama

3-Self-Discovery –  Happiness comes from inside not from all the things you’ve accumulated over the years. When you don’t feel happy, it’s time to take a step back and get to know yourself. When you know who you are, what your core value system is, and take notice of what fills you with joy, you’ll be ready to plot your course to true happiness.

Getting to know the real you can be difficult. You’ve formed an opinion about yourself from the time you were a small child and what makes you happy, sad, angry and self-confident is all based on both your personality, circumstances and experiences. You may be surprised to find that what you thought was true isn’t true at all.

God knows you better than you will ever know yourself and has a plan for you. Following this plan brings it’s own brand of happiness.

Self-discovery is your launching pad to finding  happiness in your life. When you know what you want out of life, what your true purpose is, and why God created you, you will be  on your way to completing the circle of happiness that all Christians long for.

Assessing the various parts of your Christian life can be helpful in determining what level of happiness you achieve. One way is to keep a gratitude journal. Each day, write down all the thing you are grateful for. pray for guidance so that you focus on those things that bring gratitude into your life.

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4- Find Your Core Values  – The essence of your personality come from within your core values. If you’re engaged in activities or have relationships with others who don’t meet the criteria that meet your true values, it’s time find a way to r surround yourself with positive people who adhere to those values you hold dear to your heart.

Your core values are the building blocks of who you ultimately become. Life coach, Debra Smouse states that, ” Your values are who you are, not who you think you should be in order to fit in.”  We sometimes forget that and make fitting in with others our goal in finding happiness. Instead, your beliefs and values give you purpose and are the branches that we spread out amongst the world.

Christians must wade through a maze of conflicting messages that can compromise our values and send us skidding down the pathway towards sin. Having the right values and living your life based on those values keeps Christians strong. Our love of God and His word teach us what to believe in and we derive our happiness  from putting those beliefs in action.

5- Live Out The Gospel – Every Christian knows what the four Gospels teach and our whole existence is based on those teachings. How often do we compromise what we’ve learned to seek out happiness in all the wrong places?

We are told in Psalm 1:1-6 that, “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.”

Prosperity comes from the law of the Lord. We are hardwired for happiness and that happiness comes in the form of Jesus Christ. It’s in our pursuit of holiness that real joy comes into our heart. The more we love and follow Jesus, the more we experience the joys He has promised.

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Happiness is a journey.  We must practice it everyday if we are to overcome sin and those who force their beliefs on us. The more we come to Jesus and submit ourselves to Him, the more we will find joy in our ordinary lives.

Happiness is there for the taking. Are you Christian enough to take it?

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