Dealing With The Devastating Effects Of Depression Part 2

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How To Cope With The Effects Of Depression

“Depression begins with disappointment. When disappointment festers in our soul, it leads to discouragement.”
Joyce Meyer

In part two of our 2-part dealing with depression, We have some more great information on living with depression and how to make the best of your condition.

Treating depression is something most of us are deathly afraid of. Most people are in denial about how they feel and hide themselves away so that no one knows what they are going through but this is the worst thing you can do.

Here are some important questions all of us have had at one time or another when it comes to coping with or dealing with the effects of depression.

1- How can I put ourselves out there with a total stranger who knows nothing about my circumstances?

2- Do I really want others to know I’m suffering with symptoms of depression?

3- Is it really depression or am I just going through a bad time

4- Will people think I’m crazy if they find out about my depression?

5- Will I or can I get better or am I stuck feeling this way?

Learning how to deal with depression takes inner strength and a willpower to decide to get treatment. Each day you put it off makes it that much harder.

Please note, there is hope. There is always hope. Nothing is that bad where you hurt yourself or God forbid, take your own life. I have suffered from depression a good amount of my life and have learned a great deal about what triggers it and how to cope when things get rough. Believe me, I know how you feel but know there are caring people out there who definitely want to hep.

What Is Depression And Am I Suffering From It?

“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.”
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

The more you learn about depression the more you can understand what is going on inside you and how to cope with it on a daily basis. This first video give us the definition, the signs, and what you need to do to get help.

VIDEO #1 – What Is Depression? By Helen M. Farrell

Depression is the leading cause of disability in the world today; in the United States alone, almost ten percent of adults struggle with the depression. Since it’s a mental illness, it is much harder to understand and treat a person’s normal physical maladies. Helen M. Farrell talks about the various symptoms and clinical treatments of depression, and gives some great tips for cope with depression and learning what is going on with you menatally.

1- One major source of confusion is the difference between having depression and feeling depressed. Most people don’t know the difference and suffer needlessly because of it.

2- Everyone gets a bit down during their lifetime but what we all need to know is what triggers an episode. This is why it can just pop up out of thin air. Our circumstances change daily and things can get better very quickly or they can go downhill. The choice is your to make.

3- Clinical depression totally different affair. It is a qualified medical disorder and it won’t go away unless you do something about it. It can linger on until you are be diagnosed so if you have it for more than 2 weeks
consecutively and it interferes significantly with your ability to work, play and love then chances are, you can be diagnosed as clinically depressed.

4- Depression has many symptoms:

  1. Low mood
  2. Loss of interest in things you like to do
  3. Changes in appetite
  4. Feelings of worthlessness
  5. Feelings of excessive guilt
  6. Too much or too little sleep
  7. Poor concentration
  8. Constant restlessness
  9. Loss of energy
  10. Recurrent thoughts of suicide

5- If you have at least 5 of these symptoms, you qualify for a diagnosis for depression but only a qualified doctor can make the final evaluation. Once diagnosed, treating depression is much easier when you have all the facts.

6- It’s not just your behavioral symptoms that are inherent in depressive moods but physical ones as well. These manifestations occur within the brain.

  1. Changes can be seen with the naked eye
  2. Can be seen through X-rays and MRI’s
  3. Abnormal depletion of certain neurotransmitters inside the brain
    1. Dopamine – controls pleasure centers
    2. Serotonin – maintains mood balance
    3. Norepinephrine – one of the stress hormones
  4. IV. Sleep patterns
    1. Hormone abnormalities
    2. Thyroid
    3. High levels of cortisol – another stress hormone

7- Most doctors are still baffled as to what causes depression in humans but they are constantly working on trying to figure out the complexities so they can make it easier to treat. One major theory has to do with a person’s genes combined with their environment and how they are mixed together.

8- Nothing can accurately predict when and how severe an episode will appear nor can it predict who is struggling with it unless the person goes through a battery of tests to determine if they are qualified to be diagnosed.

9- According to The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) it takes the average person suffering with a mental illness 10 years to ask for help. This is a shame as it makes it so much harder to treat when people when they let it go for so long a period of time.

10- There are effective treatments available for those who suffer from depressive episodes. These may include medications, therapy with a trained mental therapist as well as experimental physical therapies that can boost
brain chemicals.

11- Taking the first steps to getting help can seem like an impossible dream for those suffering with a mental disorder but you can help them overcome their  feelings of guilt and shame by being there to help guide them to seek out the professional help they need to feel better..

12- It seems talking about depression can be one of the best things you can do to help a sufferer but be careful. Do not compare anything you have gone through as it will just bring out feelings of shame and makes them feel guilty for struggling with their own form of mental illness. Your love and care is just what they need to help them overcome the stigma and gives them someone they can trust in their fight for a better and normal life.

I hope these facts can help you understand what depression is and what can be done to help those or yourself overcome depression and live the life you were meant to live.

How To Deal With Depression The Proper Way

“That’s the thing about depression: A human being can survive almost anything, as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it’s impossible to ever see the end.”
Elizabeth Wurtzel

VIDEO #2 – How To Deal With Depression By Noah Elkrief

In our second video,  we have a well done video with lots of great information and tactics you can use to help you cope with all forms of depression with bestselling author, Noah Elkrief.

If you want to deal with depression effectively, the first thing you must do is have a basic understanding of what depression is and what it entails. Then, you can recognize that who you are is not a depressed person but a normal person dealing with a mental health issue.

Let’s go over what you need to learn to help you cope with this illness and what you can do to overcome it and deal effectively if the episodes come back.

1- When we feel depressed we tend to use the terminology that points directly to the I as in “I am depressed.” But are you really depressed? This is a key question that sets up the tone of the video.

2- How do you feel right now? What are you going through right now? These two questions outline the difference between what has happened before and what you are going through at this particular time. This is also a key thing to understand as now is the most important. The past is gone… worry about now.

3- Depression is just a set of feelings which may include:

  • Pressure in the chest
  • Loneliness
  • Worthlessness
  • Sadness
  • Unlike-ability
  • No willpower
  • No motivation
  • Feelings of lack

4- All of these are just expressions, a set of feelings. They do not represent who you are. Your feelings are associated with your depression but they are not depression in of themselves. It’s not who you are.

5- You were you before you had those feelings and you will still be you after those feelings go away. These feelings come at different times so your feelings can change so that does not define who the real you is.

6- During the week there are times when forget about depression or the thoughts associated with depression. It comes and goes but it’s not the real you. That’s the big distinction

7- When you believe it’s all about you, you can’t do something about it but the second you empower yourself and distance the real you from what you’re feeling, that’s when you can begin the investigation into your feelings.

8– The next thing that crops up is usually negative thoughts about yourself. Something along the lines of “I’m bad” or “It’s all my fault” or even “I’m not good enough” but those thoughts are based on negative feelings and not the truth.

9- Instead, it’s all about recognizing you are not to blame for your feelings.

10- What creates depression are your thoughts. Be open to the possibility that your thoughts are tricking you into feeling a certain way and that way is wrong. Your thoughts have a way of distracting you from the truth.

11- This is why situations can’t create depression and neither can our appearance. It stems from what we are feeling based on our thoughts. Conquer your thoughts and they can’t rule you.

12- Depression only means something about you if you don’t have control over these debilitating thoughts and feelings whether you believe them or not.

13- Do you pick what thoughts enter your mind? If you did, why would you put negative thoughts there? It’s just random thoughts that you allow to come in because you are not open to believing the good about yourself.

14- When a thought enters your mind you automatically believe it because why would you question your thoughts since they are supposed to guide you through your daily lives?

How Negative Thoughts Fuel Depression

“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.” 
Laurell K. Hamilton

15- Ultimately, all you want is peace but your thoughts don’t listen to your wants so why listen to those negative thoughts when they only cause unhappiness?

16- We give attention to those thoughts and end up thinking those same thoughts over and over and over again.

17- This is why we ask this one important question. Why keep giving attention to the same stories in your head? The less you let them get to you the less depressed you feel.

18- If you don’t control your thoughts they will control you. The thoughts coming into your mind are to blame for your feelings not you, the person.

19- So, are the thoughts we are feeling always true? No, especially when they are negative in nature.

20- There are two categories of thoughts

  • Situations that cause us to think our situations are bad and they cause depression
  • Am I bad? Could it be me who is to blame?

21- Blame is something you don’t need to think about for blame is not important here. The idea is to understand this: Those thoughts of your, when they get negative, are to blame and make you feel guilty and ashamed and upset. Without those thoughts you can avoid the pain that comes with depression.

22- Stop believing those negative thoughts because they are playing tricks on you.

23- Fist comes the thought, followed by your belief in it then those feelings come rushing in. This is the same whether for negative or positive thoughts. You just need to avoid those bad thoughts or all the bad thoughts you’ve ever had will come flooding back.

24- Look at who you are, your good points and see what those negative thoughts can do to you. Turn away from those negative thoughts and see the positive in your life. Remember, you are not alone in this quest. Others have gone through the same ordeals, had the same feelings and think the same thoughts. That is not unique to
you… what is unique is that you are a special person that is stronger than you believe and can overcome anything if you understand the reasons behind depression and what you can do to overcome it.

I hope this has given you some food for thought (make sure they are positive ones) and you will see a big difference in how you feel.

What Dealing With Depression Taught Me About Finding Real Happiness

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Are You Dealing With Depression?

“That’s the thing about depression: A human being can survive almost anything, as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it’s impossible to ever see the end. The fog is like a cage without a key.”
Elizabeth Wurtzel

Ever felt like you were scattered all over the place and could never get yourself together? That was me for a long period of time in my life before I found the path to real happiness. I fought the depression the best I could but the harder I fought the more scattered I felt.

What happens when you’re in the throes of depression and you can’t get yourself out?

What do you do when you you feel hopeless?

For many people, this is what they have to go through every day and it isn’t a pretty picture. Hopelessness isn’t just a feeling but the world they are engulfed in and like me, the harder they fight the further they fall. I don’t want you to be depression’s next victim so pay close attention and have faith. There is a way out and there is hope… you just have to believe in yourself.

A Short History of Depression

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How To Break Your Depression Not Your Will

“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and oftentimes, we call a man cold when he is only sad.” Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

feeling depressed

No matter how far depression has dragged you away from the real you, hope comes in the form of reconditioning your mind so that depression doesn’t control you, you control your depression.

My breakthrough came when I switched my thought process. I failed in every way possible to combat my depression except one simple way. Re-engineering the way my mind worked. I figured, if my mind was the one that was causing me to feel this way then changing my mind would change my feelings as well.

It may seem simple enough but it isn’t like turning on a switch and everything is all candy and roses. It’s much more complicated and scarier than that but it’s something that must be done. The difference between feeling depressed and overcoming it is all in the mind.

Tony Robbins, the self-help guru states the first thing you must do is to live in a beautiful state. So what does that mean? It means your state of mind must change. It must exist in a whole new place where you change the way you see things and the way you view yourself.

It means you change your body language and how you appear to others. You go from feeling inferior and negative to strong and confident because you initiate a change of habit. You stop tolerating what makes you unhappy, you stop tolerating what causes you pain and you stop tolerating how you act based on the negative words coming out of your mouth.

Instead of living in your pain and emotional upheavals, you train your mind and your body to work on the good things in your life. We’ve wired ourselves to see, hear and feel the negativity all around us that we’ve become that negative person without really knowing it until we’ve fallen face first into a hole and can’t get out.

He goes on to say that we need to avoid training our minds to be frustrated, stressed out and unhappy. That’s not a place you want to live in. Instead, you can train your mind to feel passionate about your life, to feel physically and mentally strong. He cautions us by stating emphatically, “Don’t settle. You get what you tolerate.”

Later on, he goes on to say, “Find something you want to serve greater than yourself.” That was a very valuable lesson I learned when I heard him speak. I found a purpose greater than myself and put that to work to help me see beyond my own pain and serve others who were in need.

Do you want to stay in state you are in now? According to Tony, “LIfe is too short to feel like crap.” I hated that feeling. I hated waking up unhappy and going to bed unhappy. I wanted to change but I didn’t know how. Tony showed me a pathway to happiness that I needed to choose and this is how I did it.

From Depressed & Hopeless To Happy & Excited About Life

“It’s often difficult for those who are lucky enough to have never experienced what true depression is to imagine a life of complete hopelessness, emptiness and fear.”
Susan Polis Schutz

My breakthrough came when I reconditioned my thought pattern. I started feeding my brain a new story about who I knew I was. The pattern started slow with a new routine but I picked up momentum everyday and saw hope come into view.

So how do you do this? How do you start dealing with depression in a way that energizes you and gives you a reason to get up every morning?

You find your why? You find why you are here and you run with it. It’s not about pleasing others or worrying about what they think. It’s all about what’s right for you. It comes from being the authentic you.

You need to be hungry. Find that hunger inside of you and let it push you where you need to go. Raise your standards in yourself. Don’t settle for mediocrity. I didn’t and you shouldn’t either. Every time you settle for things you don’t want you lose a small piece of yourself. Push yourself to be the best you can no matter what. It’s the drive and the journey… not the end that merits you go for it!

Tony says, “The quality of your life is where you live emotionally.” Find the home inside of you and then change your habits. Feed your mind what is good and honest. Feed your heart what is pure and humble. Make learning an important part of your daily ritual. Lifelong learners stimulate the creative part of their brains and enjoy the process of learning. The happiness comes from soaking in all that knowledge.

Most people who are depressed lived from a place of fear. Tony reiterates this by claiming, Fear is physical and so is stagnation, so is numbness, and so is sadness.”  You need to face your fears and truly live. See what you are capable by finding a role model who inspires you. That’s how you go from a place without hope to a place where happiness is alive and well.

The Mindshift Of True Potential

my potential

Do you know your true potential? You won’t know unless you give it a try. Before you can achieve things in reality, you must believe them in your mind first. This is the key to overcoming your depression and finding true happiness in life. Everything you want to do or accomplish in life must first be seen and done in your mind. Let it happened first there. Work out the kinks and see the promise that potential brings!

This mind shift from the throes of negativity to the path of belief comes from the potential you feel you have and the action you take. If your belief doesn’t equal your potential then your actions will only go as far as your limited beliefs. Whatever you don’t accomplish will reinforce your limiting beliefs and you will never reach your full potential. It becomes self-fulfilling when you fail.

Everyone comes to a point in their life where their back is against the wall and they have to survive no matter what. There is no other way. This is when you either sink or swim and decide you’ll do anything possible to succeed. You have to make this work. It is being certain of your potential and then taking massive and direct action because you know you will succeed.

Tony asks this one final question. “How do you produce certainty when the world isn’t giving it to you?” You get the results in your head first and then certainty comes as if it has already happened. If you know it in your mind that what you will do is a certainty and will succeed do it. The universe will follow the directions you give it.

There are going to be times in your life when fear and gloom may try to take over during a major situation but if you remember the times when you overcame those hopelessness, deconstruct what you did before and use that as incentive to pull you through. The past is very good at giving you what you need to overcome your problems. They are like practice swings in baseball and today you will hit it out of the park!

Happiness is not something you get, it is something deep inside that you fully embrace! Once your perspective changes you will find meaning in your life. Perspective, no matter how small, can change things forever. Take that new perspective, build on it in your mind and take it to new heights. That is truly where you will succeed and see happiness blossom.

Dealing with depression was a hard and grueling adventure but it taught me how to train my mind, how to believe in myself and how strong a person I really am. What can it teach you?

Want to find happiness after suffering through depression? You can find the answers in my #1 Bestselling book on entitled, “Summoned To Love – A Spiritual Blueprint For Rediscovering Inner Peace, Unconditional Love And True Happiness.”

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