Dealing With The Devastating Effects Of Depression Part 1

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Dealing With The Effects Of Depression

 “If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”
Fred Rogers

The world has become a tough place to live and work in. Many are feeling the damaging effects of having no job or lost a job over the past few years, have lost family members to cancer, drug abuse or Alzheimer’s, and know family members and friends who haven’t quite coped with all the hate and violence going on all around us but I am here to offer a glimmer of hope.

Depression… the word conjures up pictures of people sitting around the house moaning and unable to deal with life in general but it’s something we all must deal with at one time or another. Most of us either know someone who has gone through bouts of depression or is currently battling this debilitating disease. Dealing with depression has become a national epidemic with more and more people suffering everyday.

Depression holds a special place in my heart as I have gone through bouts of it myself having come from a broken family, lost my first girlfriend to leukemia and dealt with things that would have destroyed most others will to live but through it all, I had God to help me cope. I’ve wanted to give help to others by making some of this information available, so that at the very least, individuals could learn some things they can do to start dealing with depression.

Below are some videos that you can use to start dealing with depression in a caring and loving atmosphere.

Video #1 – Depression – The 7 Differences Between Men And Women By Kati Morton

Kati Morton talks about the 7 differences between men and women in how they they suffer from depression.

Did you know that women are 2x more likely than men to struggle with depression but those numbers may be a bit skewed as men do not like to admit they are depressed because it is a macho thing. Only now have
many men started to overcome the sigma and pride associated with depression and are finally coming
forward to deal with the mental aspect of depression.

One side note, doctors have only begun to treat depression in men differently than in women from both
a physical and mental aspect and are using different methods than the one-size-fits-all that was so
prevalent years past.

  1. Women tend to be the more emotional of the two sexes so they feel more sadness which leads to
    self-worth problems. Men on the other hand react differently as they are more irritable and agitated.
  2. Women take their negative feelings out on themselves and internalize everything whereas men are
    much more likely to lash out and blame others for what they are feeling and going through.
  3. Women cope with depression with food and friends which makes things even worse as their self
    worth spirals out of control. Men, on the other hand,  cope with depression through physical means by overindulging in TV, sex, drugs and alcohol.
  4. Women let stress get the better of them, especially when it comes to life events. Men believe it’s just
    a part of life so they tuck those feelings deep inside. This can be  more tragic in men as they are prone to
    do physical damage to themselves.
  5. Depression in women also leads to eating disorders. They cope by using food as a numbing agent.
    Men take the high road with food because their depression attacks them physically through sex and self
  6. Depression is more debilitating to women. They tend to ruminate about it and let it eat them from
    the inside out. They take these feelings with them through every relationship and have higher
    expectations which can never be met. Men take out their feelings on those close to them because they can’t
    deal with the awkward feelings. They don’t look for others to help them as they tend to abuse women to quell their inner pride.
  7. Women are better at reaching out for help than men and are better with opening up about their own
    feelings. Men don’t like to talk about their feelings and depression seems to sneak up on them without
    their acknowledgement.

Once you understand the differences you can start coping with your own form of depression as well as
those of the opposite sex. It makes it much easier when you better understand these differences.
Hope this clears up some common misconceptions regarding men and women who suffer from

Battling the Blues : An Overview of Depression

From Visually.

The Naked Truth About Depression

VIDEO #2 – You’re Not Alone: The Truth About Depression By Colette Stearns

Teenager, Colette Stearns opens up about many of the misconceptions about depression, how it affected her, and how she was able to overcome it.

Too many teenagers let depression get the better of them but Colette goes deep inside her own depression and shows other teenagers what they need to do to deal with it as well as letting them know their not alone in their battle.

Here is an overview of what she said.

  1. There are many prominent misconceptions and stigmas attached to depression and mental orders but way too often people do not like to talk about it in public, especially teenagers who are left to deal with it in an immure way.
  2. The feelings of shame and disgrace are widespread, especially in teenagers who are constantly battling hormones and peer pressure at the same time. The pressures are enormous for those who don’t fit in.
  3. It is a mood disorder which makes it tough to concentrate, especially for young minds. When combined with unexplained physical problems can lead to thoughts of suicide.
  4. The problems associated with depression can disable even the strongest of wills and are hard to diagnose if the person is unwilling to cooperate or even acknowledge their depressive behavior.
  5. Depression is diagnosed as having major depressive episodes with the various symptoms for at least two or more weeks straight. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, Depression and anxiety disorders are different, but people with depression often experience symptoms similar to those of an anxiety disorder, such as nervousness, irritability, and problems sleeping and concentrating. But each disorder has its own causes and its own emotional and behavioral symptoms.
  6.  11% of teenagers will experience episodes of depressive behavior by the time they are 18 and half of those will experience it by the time they reach fourteen. it has become an epidemic for our children and much more needs to be done to get it out in the open.
  7. It is the third leading cause of death in young adults ranging in ages of 15-24. This is a shame and is devastating to the families involved.
  8. Too many people do not take the time to try and understand the disease and disorder and ridicule it. People can be very cruel but we need to stand up and educate them on what depression is and how we ca all chip in and lend our support to those who suffer from it.
  9. Education is the key to helping those suffering from depression so they don’t have to go it alone.
  10. Need the support of family and friends to help cope and mange the symptoms. This is why we all need to get involved because it affects everyone’s family ant one time or another.
  11. Most young people do not like to admit they are feeling depressed because of the stigma attached so they keep it to themselves. Unfortunately, this is a major problem for teenagers and we need to offer our support and love so they can get the help they desperately need.
  12. Look for peer programs in school, support in your county or even state and federal programs.
    Some mentioned are National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-8255
    NAMI – National Alliance On Mental Illness
  13. Depression is real and you don’t need to hide behind your shame. It’s better to come out and look for help. You’re not alone in your struggle. Many people are there to help… that means you!

Hope this helps you with some knowledge that can beneficial for you or someone
you know who needs help now!

How To Deal With Life’s Difficult Times

“Once you choose hope, anything is possible.”
Christopher Reeve

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VIDEO #3 – How To Deal With The Difficult Times By Brendon Burchard

We hear so much about what depression does but we never really hear from the people suffering from depression. Watch and listen to Best-selling author and trainer, Brendon Burchard, as he talks about the depression he went through and how he deals with difficult times. You can learn a lot from his wisdom.

In this video, best-selling author and Personal Development Trainer, Brendon
Burchard talks about the five ways to deal with difficult times that help you avoid
deal with depression.

  1. Learn How To Set Small, Simple Daily Goals – Sometimes going through life’s difficulties can zap all our energies so it’s very important to set small daily goals that are both achievable and able to push you forward. This keeps you in a positive mindset and helps you feel good about yourself.
  2. Keep Perspective On Life – You can always draw strength from your past when you’ve done great things. The moments when things were good are still there and will come again. You have to have hope. That is so important during difficult times. God gives us hope in difficult times and when you take up His offer, you have an Advocate (the Holy Spirit) in your corner who loves you and wants the best for you. Take solace in the fact that you are God’s miracle and He will not forsake you. We all have difficult times… it’s how we deal with them that determines whether we get out of them or not. God will not let you fail, that’s your decision.
  3. Ask The Right Questions – Asking the right questions such as “What should I be learning here?” or “What is my purpose? “ can give you a chance to reboot your life and make good choices that can help you overcome your depression and feeling of hopelessness. To make this work for you, you need to write these questions down on a piece of paper and honestly answer them. This is a formula
    for success. Many people won’t take the time to do this step but I appeal to you to make this a daily occurrence so you can draw strength.
  4. Be You’re your Best Self Despite Life’s Difficulties – Life throws us curveballs when we least expect them but you need to stay in control of your emotions. You know what your best self is and so how would that best self interact with this particular situation. Be conscious of what you do, say and feel so you can learn how to deal with your problems. Brendon says that “When times are tough, we often feel that we can’t understand or handle things, that we lack competence or capability. So, to shore up those feelings, be strategic and ask, “What could I learn now to better handle this stage of my life?” Develop a learning curriculum for yourself and start studying things that can help or advance your life.”
  5. Keep Gratitude Alive – Gratitude is the most important part of life. Why? If you aren’t grateful for what you have, you tend to become a worrier. You become selfish in your attitudes and you forget you are part of a bigger picture in God’s world. Be thankful, be appreciative and learn to love others unconditionally. Without them, life becomes and hard place to be happy in.

As a bonus, I’ve collected 10 quotes about depression from real people and what they have said about their suffering with depression. Too often, those that are suffering from depression don’t get the chance to tell their story.

Can you identify with any of these quotes?
1- “Before you can see the light you have to deal with the darkness. Don’t let your struggle become your identity.”
2- “You feel like you’re in a constant state of worry.”
3- “It limits what you can do in your life.”
4- “It’s a state of mind where nothing you can make you feel better.”
5- “Sometimes in life you fall down but you feel you don’t have the the strength to get back up.”
6- “You put a mask on and pretend everything is alright.”
7- “Fear comes in, especially when you walk in your house and know it’s broken
and there’s nothing you can do about it.”
8- “The only time you feel you don’t have to impress everybody is when you’re
alone in bed.”
9- “You have doubts and are scared about the future but do you still have hope? Do
you know who you are? What’s important is you. Accept yourself even if others don’t. Know you are loved.”
10- “It’s normal to go through bouts of confusion and frustration and craziness in
your life . It happens all around you.”

Hope this is inspirational for you to see that others share your pain but also want the very best for you.

What Dealing With Depression Taught Me About Finding Real Happiness

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Are You Dealing With Depression?

“That’s the thing about depression: A human being can survive almost anything, as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it’s impossible to ever see the end. The fog is like a cage without a key.”
Elizabeth Wurtzel

Ever felt like you were scattered all over the place and could never get yourself together? That was me for a long period of time in my life before I found the path to real happiness. I fought the depression the best I could but the harder I fought the more scattered I felt.

What happens when you’re in the throes of depression and you can’t get yourself out?

What do you do when you you feel hopeless?

For many people, this is what they have to go through every day and it isn’t a pretty picture. Hopelessness isn’t just a feeling but the world they are engulfed in and like me, the harder they fight the further they fall. I don’t want you to be depression’s next victim so pay close attention and have faith. There is a way out and there is hope… you just have to believe in yourself.

A Short History of Depression

From Visually.

How To Break Your Depression Not Your Will

“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and oftentimes, we call a man cold when he is only sad.” Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

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No matter how far depression has dragged you away from the real you, hope comes in the form of reconditioning your mind so that depression doesn’t control you, you control your depression.

My breakthrough came when I switched my thought process. I failed in every way possible to combat my depression except one simple way. Re-engineering the way my mind worked. I figured, if my mind was the one that was causing me to feel this way then changing my mind would change my feelings as well.

It may seem simple enough but it isn’t like turning on a switch and everything is all candy and roses. It’s much more complicated and scarier than that but it’s something that must be done. The difference between feeling depressed and overcoming it is all in the mind.

Tony Robbins, the self-help guru states the first thing you must do is to live in a beautiful state. So what does that mean? It means your state of mind must change. It must exist in a whole new place where you change the way you see things and the way you view yourself.

It means you change your body language and how you appear to others. You go from feeling inferior and negative to strong and confident because you initiate a change of habit. You stop tolerating what makes you unhappy, you stop tolerating what causes you pain and you stop tolerating how you act based on the negative words coming out of your mouth.

Instead of living in your pain and emotional upheavals, you train your mind and your body to work on the good things in your life. We’ve wired ourselves to see, hear and feel the negativity all around us that we’ve become that negative person without really knowing it until we’ve fallen face first into a hole and can’t get out.

He goes on to say that we need to avoid training our minds to be frustrated, stressed out and unhappy. That’s not a place you want to live in. Instead, you can train your mind to feel passionate about your life, to feel physically and mentally strong. He cautions us by stating emphatically, “Don’t settle. You get what you tolerate.”

Later on, he goes on to say, “Find something you want to serve greater than yourself.” That was a very valuable lesson I learned when I heard him speak. I found a purpose greater than myself and put that to work to help me see beyond my own pain and serve others who were in need.

Do you want to stay in state you are in now? According to Tony, “LIfe is too short to feel like crap.” I hated that feeling. I hated waking up unhappy and going to bed unhappy. I wanted to change but I didn’t know how. Tony showed me a pathway to happiness that I needed to choose and this is how I did it.

From Depressed & Hopeless To Happy & Excited About Life

“It’s often difficult for those who are lucky enough to have never experienced what true depression is to imagine a life of complete hopelessness, emptiness and fear.”
Susan Polis Schutz

My breakthrough came when I reconditioned my thought pattern. I started feeding my brain a new story about who I knew I was. The pattern started slow with a new routine but I picked up momentum everyday and saw hope come into view.

So how do you do this? How do you start dealing with depression in a way that energizes you and gives you a reason to get up every morning?

You find your why? You find why you are here and you run with it. It’s not about pleasing others or worrying about what they think. It’s all about what’s right for you. It comes from being the authentic you.

You need to be hungry. Find that hunger inside of you and let it push you where you need to go. Raise your standards in yourself. Don’t settle for mediocrity. I didn’t and you shouldn’t either. Every time you settle for things you don’t want you lose a small piece of yourself. Push yourself to be the best you can no matter what. It’s the drive and the journey… not the end that merits you go for it!

Tony says, “The quality of your life is where you live emotionally.” Find the home inside of you and then change your habits. Feed your mind what is good and honest. Feed your heart what is pure and humble. Make learning an important part of your daily ritual. Lifelong learners stimulate the creative part of their brains and enjoy the process of learning. The happiness comes from soaking in all that knowledge.

Most people who are depressed lived from a place of fear. Tony reiterates this by claiming, Fear is physical and so is stagnation, so is numbness, and so is sadness.”  You need to face your fears and truly live. See what you are capable by finding a role model who inspires you. That’s how you go from a place without hope to a place where happiness is alive and well.

The Mindshift Of True Potential

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Do you know your true potential? You won’t know unless you give it a try. Before you can achieve things in reality, you must believe them in your mind first. This is the key to overcoming your depression and finding true happiness in life. Everything you want to do or accomplish in life must first be seen and done in your mind. Let it happened first there. Work out the kinks and see the promise that potential brings!

This mind shift from the throes of negativity to the path of belief comes from the potential you feel you have and the action you take. If your belief doesn’t equal your potential then your actions will only go as far as your limited beliefs. Whatever you don’t accomplish will reinforce your limiting beliefs and you will never reach your full potential. It becomes self-fulfilling when you fail.

Everyone comes to a point in their life where their back is against the wall and they have to survive no matter what. There is no other way. This is when you either sink or swim and decide you’ll do anything possible to succeed. You have to make this work. It is being certain of your potential and then taking massive and direct action because you know you will succeed.

Tony asks this one final question. “How do you produce certainty when the world isn’t giving it to you?” You get the results in your head first and then certainty comes as if it has already happened. If you know it in your mind that what you will do is a certainty and will succeed do it. The universe will follow the directions you give it.

There are going to be times in your life when fear and gloom may try to take over during a major situation but if you remember the times when you overcame those hopelessness, deconstruct what you did before and use that as incentive to pull you through. The past is very good at giving you what you need to overcome your problems. They are like practice swings in baseball and today you will hit it out of the park!

Happiness is not something you get, it is something deep inside that you fully embrace! Once your perspective changes you will find meaning in your life. Perspective, no matter how small, can change things forever. Take that new perspective, build on it in your mind and take it to new heights. That is truly where you will succeed and see happiness blossom.

Dealing with depression was a hard and grueling adventure but it taught me how to train my mind, how to believe in myself and how strong a person I really am. What can it teach you?

Want to find happiness after suffering through depression? You can find the answers in my #1 Bestselling book on entitled, “Summoned To Love – A Spiritual Blueprint For Rediscovering Inner Peace, Unconditional Love And True Happiness.”

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