How To Deal With Adversity
“We don’t develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.”
Barbara De Angelis
Adversity… it’s what makes us who we are. We gain strength of character and maturity from the trials and tribulations that come our way. Sometimes, it comes all at once but you must realize it is only a test and dealing with the problems only makes you a better and more confident person.
To be successful in life, adversity and persistence must go hand in hand. Quitters never realize how close they are to overcoming their problems while mired in the storm. When the boat rocks, go with it. Have faith in your abilities.
In Matthew 14:25-31, we see how people react to adverse conditions and how faith plays a big part in overcoming them.
“Shortly before dawn Jesus went out to them, walking on the lake. When the disciples saw him walking on the lake, they were terrified. “It’s a ghost,” they said, and cried out in fear. But Jesus immediately said to them: “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.”
“Lord, if it’s you,” Peter replied, “tell me to come to you on the water.”
“Come,” he said.
Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!” Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?”
Everyday, storms will come flooding through our lives, forcing us to to come out of our little bubble and deal with the challenge of adversity. You can’t run from it as it will follow you wherever you go. If you want to grow then you must face reality and handle your problems as they come.
How To Handle Life’s Challenges
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change.”
Your perception of life must change before you can. Adversity comes at a time we least expect it so we must be prepared both physically and mentally to face the challenge. The way we react to the problem itself determines how much adversity we actually face.
Life’s challenges come in all shapes and sizes but learning how to change your thought patterns is the real key to overcoming adversity at any stage of life.
Here are 5 Tips That Will Help You To deal With Adversity And Give You Hope In Everyday Life
1- Accept Your Challenges and View Them As Growth Mechanisms – Our brains are wired to fight to get what we want but sometimes fighting is the wrong answer. Take a good Look at yourself and see potential for growth as a way to confront adversity, Accept your flaws and past mistakes and use them to give you courage to face those problems head on.
2- Let Go Of Your Fears, Frustrations, Negativity and Stress – It doesn’t matter whose fault it is or whether you are right or wrong or even the situation you are now in, you must let go of the things that hold you back. Find a place you can focus your energies on and use that as motivation to find the answers to your problems. It is in those moments of meditation that the answers come to you. The more negative you are, the less you calm the mind is and the harder it will be to concentrate on a proper response to the problem.
3- Create A Plan of Action – In the stillness of your mind, create an action plan that is based strictly on the facts. Try to avoid emotional responses as they get in the way on positive action. This plan of action must come from a third person narrative. If you continually speak in the first person you lack the ability to see beyond your own scope. Write down your plan and look for ways to implement them without feeling pressured, without the fear of success or failure, with a strict time frame to keep you motivated to conquer your problem and finally, get an outsider’s view of your plan where you can get positive feedback and tips to improve you plan’s effectiveness.
4- Face Adversity With The Heart Of A Lion – No matter what the adversity entails, you can’t go in meekly or it will overwhelm you. The idea is to come in confidently and courageously in a way that means business. The right mindset stops the paralyzing fear that comes with facing your problems head on. It’s not about flying into the problem like a freight train but believing in yourself and your plan enough to implement it until you are done. Don’t let the problem control you. You must take control and forge ahead. Even if your plan doesn’t work perfectly, (you can always tweak it until it does), the idea here is to build up your courage to overcome your problems. Each win is a notch in your belt to becoming a more courageous person. Each loss is a learning lesson in the game of life. Remember, no one is perfect but those who don’t try to win will always lose.
5– Ground Yourself In Gratitude – Life’s challenges are there to help you grow stronger and keep you moving forward . When you practice gratitude, you focus on the positive things in life and allow abundance and peace to rule your thoughts instead of fear, anger and blame that takes over the mind of negative people. Know that God loves you and has a purpose in your life. “Therefore let us be grateful for receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, and thus let us offer to God acceptable worship, with reverence and awe.” – Hebrews 12:28.
Why Suffering Is Part Of Life
“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”
Suffering is a part of life. No one can escape from it but God allows suffering to build up our character. It was brought into the world as a result of sin. Jesus Christ suffered and died because of mankind’s sin and through that suffering we are to endure our own sufferings as we follow in the footsteps of Jesus. We read this in 1 Peter 5:8-10
“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world. But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you”
Here are 5 Ways Suffering Is Good For Us
1- Helps us learn valuable lessons about life
2- Help us to comfort others who have similar pain
3- Help us trust God
4- Allows us to be like Jesus
5- Prevents us from becoming proud
No matter the circumstance, pain and suffering are there for a reason. When you understand this you can make it an advantage on your part by making it His Divine purpose in preparing us for glory. Our pain and suffering can be an inspiration to others and bring us closer to God.
Learning How To Be Resilient
“Rather than dispute their shortcomings or hide their mistakes, resilient people are authentic. Their humble, self-aware approach assists them in developing strategies to become better.”
How do you make the most of your adverse conditions? The infographic below will give you a great deal to think about when deal with adverse conditions in life.
It all starts in the mind. How you think abut the problems you face is as important as how you face them. In her article “How To Deal With Adversity” author Linda Adams states, “You either see them as obstacles or as opportunities. You either let them get you down or decide to overcome them.”
It’s all about taking responsibility for your actions and making a concerted effort to build resilience. Each time you face a new problem, you are better equipped to handle the pressure and
Another characteristic of those who make the most of adverse conditions id being flexible and adaptable. How you respond and adapt to changes is key element to being resilient. When things get you down,
One of the most important ways to be resilient comes from building solid relationships. Having strong, supportive relationships is one of the primary factors in staying resilient after a major upheaval. This is the time to lean on family, friends and co-workers who are good role models that offer encouragement, support, love and trust.
Whatever you do to overcome adversity, make sure you don’t do it alone. have a good support group that helps you put together a solid action plan that gets results. You don’t have to deal with adversity alone anymore.
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