How To Find True Happiness
“You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.”
Ever felt like finding true happiness has eluded you your whole life?
Maybe you’ve had a few instances of happiness but they were so short lived you can barely remember them. I got ya! It seems like everyone is so miserable these days and you don’t have a clue as to why this happening to you also.
We look all over the place for true happiness but we forget the first rule of happiness… do what makes you happy. You don’t look for happiness, you let it come to you.
We find it in the little things in life. Ever thought about doing something wild and crazy but then your logical side spoke up as if it were your mother and told you to stop fooling around and get busy doing something constructive?
Those are happiness killers. The things that stop us from having fun and expressing ourselves.
What’s stopping you from the things that make you happy?
Excuses are the bane of anyone trying to find happiness in a world filled with sorrow and depression.
According to Professor Myrna Weisman and associates, roughly a quarter of the population has suffered some form of clinical depression during their lifetime and a further 48% has suffered from depression severe enough to incapacitate them for more than two weeks. This is also taken from Robert E. Lane’s book “Loss Of Happiness” and it shows that society is becoming less and less happy and has gone to taking out its frustrations on one another.
If you want to be happy you need to examine what makes you happy, why they make you happy and how you go about including those things in your life.
What Are 7 The Keys To Finding True Happiness?
“Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
Worry is not one of then but the mere fact that we are so filled with worry makes it so hard to be happy. There are many ways to be happy but let me share some of the most powerful keys to finding happiness.
1- Faith – It may seem like a no-brainer but too many people go round without faith in themselves or a higher being. As a Christian, my faith keeps me grounded and allows me to stay away from temptations that would get me in trouble, from people who may try and take advantage of me as well as situations that may compromise my values. The more faith you have the happier your life tends to be. This isn’t just words but a promise. Countless studies have been done to see why people of faith are happier. Their conclusion? People of faith have something to look forward to that is filled with joy. That gives them contentment others just can’t match.
2- Learn To Savor Life’s Pleasures – You can’t be happy if you don’t experience what life has to offer. How often do you forget the good times in your life while ruminating over that spilt glass of milk or forgetting someone’s name? Savor the good times and forget the bad times. Go out and spell the flowers, Learn how to go out and splurge on yourself without feeling guilty and indulge in what life has to offer. Every day is a chance to see all the beauty God had made for us.
3- Have A Set of Friends Who Have Your Back – Friends are given to us to experience life from all points of view. They are there in good times and bad, to laugh at our silly jokes and to make connections that go deeper than just what’s on the outside. Most of our happy memories come from the experiences we share with others.
4- Stop Living Safe – How boring life would be if we never took chances. Where is the fun in being safe. Live like you may not see tomorrow, love like it may be your last time and create adventures that bring fun into your life. It’s not about throwing caution to the wind but taking calculated risk that brings the most rewards.
5- Find Your Balance Point – Life should not be all about work and no play and vise versa. It should be balanced to the point where happiness has a chance to breathe. When the tipping point goes beyond your set balance, unhappiness and misery fills your heart. The main goals of balance is to allow the body and mind to be fulfilled and at peace. If you have neither then you must rebalance you life and add or detract those things that push your life out of balance.
6- Reposition Your Thought Patterns – Too often we take the “I want” stance in our lives and this leads straight to unhappiness. The more we have, the greater chance of us drowning in possessions instead of experiences. Switch your thoughts to “I Am” and you’ll see the difference. It’s all about piece of mind and believing in yourself. That leads to true happiness and empowerment. Once you have the power to be happy through the mind, you will know the source of your happiness and be able to find happiness wherever you go.
7- Appreciation & Gratitude – If you don’t have these two things you will never be truly happy no matter what you do. Appreciation helps us feel good about who we are, what we have and the people in your life. The same thing goes for gratitude. Thanking God and showing it in your daily excursions brings a peace of mind that helps you during your struggles. Don’t underestimate the power of a good thank you or a pat on the back. Those things are as important as anything else in life.
What is The Real Meaning Of Happiness?
“Happiness [is] only real when shared”
Do you know what the meaning of happiness is? Happiness is not the final destination but takes real effort to maintain. We equate happiness with satisfaction and quality of life but it goes much deeper than that. Even though our moods fluctuate, we control whether we stay happy or become depressed.
Research has found that the more our activities coincide with our values the happier we are. We get meaning from doing those these things but our problems arise from where we put our priorities in the wrong place.
Does your priorities jell with your activities? If not, you may want to think about changing your activities. Happiness alone isn’t enough for us to feel fulfilled but chasing happiness is not the answer.
We were made to be happy, yet for most of us, we never attain a level of happiness that leaves us with no regrets.
The more we fight to be happy the less happy we are.
“It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness.” Viktor Frankl
Viktor was right. Instead of pursuing happiness just enjoy the life you are living at the moment and happiness will be right there to grab. We complicate our lives so much with the pursuit of money and things we forget that happiness is free and is given to everyone.
In an article entitled “The Problem With Happiness” dated November 17, 2011 bears this out. It states, “People putting the greatest emphasis on being happy reported 50 percent less frequent positive emotions, 35 percent less satisfaction about their life, and 75 percent more depressive symptoms.”
How then do we find happiness?
What Does Happiness Mean To You
“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.”
We must first decide what is important to each individual person. Then, bring a piece of that happiness and give it to others. This is how we derive meaning from that happiness. Happiness is nothing without meaning.
Here are things you can do to find the meaning of happiness in your own life.
1- Take responsibility for your own happiness and not leave it up to others to bring it to you.
2- Commit yourself to a higher purpose. What is your mission on earth. When you find your purpose you are able to commit yourself to bringing God’s love to the world through your higher purpose.
3- Cultivate awareness of both your surroundings and your thoughts for they can bring great happiness or great sorrow. Be aware of the moment and make that moment count.
4- Cultivate positive relationships that help you grow as a person. Without them, you will be not know the essence of loving others. Selfishness does not breed happiness.
5- Learn to be the most authentic person you can be. This way you don’t have to hide behind a veil of secrecy. The more you let others see the real you the happier you can be in your own skin.
According to Michael Davidson. from his article “The Meaning of Happiness” he states “Happiness is the harmony between you and your life that you achieve through finding meaning in every moment.”
I think that sums up what being happy is all about. Now it’s your turn to make it work for you for you have the choice in all matters to be or not to be happy.
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