Creating Happy Moments
Looking back on your life, what moments come to mind?
Was it your first kiss? Going to a ballgame with your your family? Your high school graduation? Going to Disneyland?
These are the type of events that stand tall in our collective memories yet too often we hide them away and leave them there to collect dust? Why is this?
Why do we forget those great memories of the past?
Are we too busy trying to create new memories that once a memory happens it gets tucked away nice and neatly so there’s room for the next memory?
I don’t know about you but I crave those memories. I love to sit back and enjoy the things I did before and appreciate the people and things I did them with. I love to watch old films of myself and my family and appreciate all that came before. I love watching my kids having fun and enjoying themselves but as always, there will be people who will try to rain on your parade and tell you to stop living in the past.
I know for some, their past is filled with painful memories that dredge up events that need to be kept in check but is it so hard to enjoy the past and the memories they contain?
Is it so hard to make new memories that can be talked about for years to come?
What does happiness mean to you?
Is it a feeling of inner peace? A ‘now you feel it, now you don’t’ type of emotion?
Emotions are what drive most humans but have you ever sat down and thought about what your emotions are doing to you and how you can use them to turn momentary unhappiness to lasting joy?
Creating happy moments are what we were designed for. These moments are what makes our lives livable. The problem most of us have is we spend too much time looking for happiness instead of enjoying the moments we have right now.
God has given us a directive that everyone can take advantage of as written in Galatians 5:22-23 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”
According to an article entitled “10 Ways To Make The Most Of Your Happy Moments” by Eric Barker from the magazine, The Week, he says “One of the key happiness principles is savoring. That’s a fancy term for really taking a second to appreciate those happy moments in your life. You often think that it’s the world that makes you happy, but it’s really how you respond to the world. Those silly little things you do here and there in response to good moments; increasing those is the key to how to be happier without really trying.
We tend to look at happiness from a worldly perspective but we forget it’s an intimate experience that creates those magical moments. We wait for them to happen instead of enjoying the experience at the time we experience them. We remember events in our lives according to how they affected us instead of how we responded to them.
How many memories do you have in which you can recall everything that happened?
Do you fill in the blanks of the little details with either positive or negative emotions?
Do these memories become tall tales in which you create your own version of the event?
Do you skip over the hard parts and only remember the good times.
Life is made up of everything we’ve encountered, experienced and the wisdom we’ve gained from those moments so why not try and make those happy moments last?
How Do You Make Those Happy Moments Last?
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”
Want to make more memories in life? Here are 28 life changes that will improve your happiness overnight and help you make those memories last. Try them and do your best to make the moments last. You won’t regret them!
1- Stay in contact with friends and family
2- Be bold by trying new things
3- Always surround yourself with positive and uplifting people
4- Learn to have fun instead of working all the time
5- Be generous with your time and money
6- Use social media for doing and bring out the good in people and life
7- Learn from your mistakes, move on and enjoy the life you have now!
8- Celebrate success whether yours or another person’s. A win is a win is a win!
9- Don’t take yourself or life too seriously (see #4)
10 -Prioritize the important things in life
HEALTH & FITNESS
11- Get more sleep and dream happy dreams!
12- Get out and exercise and stay healthy!
13- Set goals… and achieve them or at least give it your best shot!
14- Be consistent in life and you will be motivated to be happy
15- Always smile. Smiling brings people together and opens up avenues of communication
16- Practice mindfulness. Live in the moment for every moment
17- Read more. Open up new worlds for yourself to explore
18- Unwind and allow the cares of the day to wash away
19- Take control of your life and be action-oriented
20- Find inspiration in every part of life
21- Make your house a home you want to enjoying living in
22- Learn to cook. Enjoy the art of preparing and feeding yourself
23- Let the sunshine into your life both physical and metaphorically
24- Unplug the tech and get personal with others
25- Plan ahead for making memories
26- Start a new project and carry it through till the end
27- Invest time, money and sweat in yourself and your abilities
28- Learn to be grateful for what you have and the life you have led so far. It’s all you’ve got!
A Scientific Guide To Creating Happy Moments
There are scientific ways you can learn how to create happiness in your life. The idea is to design the life you want and go out and do it. It isn’t about winning or losing but what you did to get there.
We always remember the memories of what we did and how we did it instead of the final moment.
What have you done to get where you are today?
Do you appreciate the obstacles you had to overcome to get where you are today?
According to Paul Dolan, a leading happiness scholar, “We tell stories about the things we think should make us happy, but sometimes, when we look a bit closer, we’re not really that happy at all. I think we should be paying attention to how we feel day-to-day and moment-to-moment.”
The scientific formula for creating happy moments really comes down to this… Pay attention to the everyday experiences that give you pleasure and purpose, then organize your life so that you are doing more of those things.
So why is this so hard to do?
Most of us live our lives on autopilot that we overlook the little things in life and actually walk around in a daze. We let ourselves be pushed and pulled in so many direction that we can’t appreciate living in the moment without having something get in our way.
Paul goes on to say, “It’s about tuning in to what you are doing, who you are doing it with and how it makes you feel.”
He then asks one very important question. ” “How much worry, stress, anger, joy or contentment do you experience on a given day?”
Science has found that we make happiness to complicated. Instead, we should make happiness as easy as possible so that we can enjoy those precious moments without feeling guilty.
Stop Leaving Special Moments To Chance
According to bestselling author Eric Barker, “We get tired. We get lazy. And then boom — suddenly CVS is loaded with Christmas ornaments and it signals the end of another year. No good. If we want great memories we have to make them.”
How do we accomplish this?
1- Make those moments rise above the the daily routine – Allow those times to make us feel engaged, joyful, totally amazed, and fully motivated in the moment.
2- Boost your senses – Actually work at using all your sense to enjoy the moment. Close your eyes and listen, open your eyes and see, open your heart and feel. The ideas is to use everything God gave you to live in the moment.
3- Raise the stakes in life – Make things worthwhile by exacting the importance of what you are doing. Heighten the moment by being actively engaged instead of being a bystander.
4- Write a new script for your life – Stop following a set script for your life. It’s, old, boring and has outgrown it’s usefulness. Instead, write a new and exciting script that puts you front and center of a life you can be proud of. Exciting is in, boring is out. Try it… you may never go back to the old script you were living in.
5- Inject novelty into your life – You don’t have to be James Bond to live like James Bond. The idea is to mix things up and bring others into your new adventure. Be prepared to have fun!
There’s nothing more boring than to live a life unlived. Go out and make some happy moments. Don’t cloister yourself in. be bold, have fun and actually live!