Written By

Barry Ferguson

Coping With Depression

In part two of our 2-part dealing with depression, We have some more great information on living with depression and how to make the best of your condition.

Treating depression is something most of us are deathly afraid of. Most people are in denial about how they feel and hide themselves away so that no one knows what they are going through but this is the worst thing you can do.

Here are some important questions all of us have had at one time or another when it comes to coping with or dealing with the effects of depression.

1- How can I put ourselves out there with a total stranger who knows nothing about my circumstances?

2- Do I really want others to know I'm suffering with symptoms of depression?

3- Is it really depression or am I just going through a bad time

4- Will people think I'm crazy if they find out about my depression?

5- Will I or can I get better or am I stuck feeling this way?

Learning how to deal with depression takes inner strength and a willpower to decide to get treatment. Each day you put it off makes it that much harder.

Please note, there is hope. There is always hope. Nothing is that bad where you hurt yourself or God forbid, take your own life. I have suffered from depression a good amount of my life and have learned a great deal about what triggers it and how to cope when things get rough. Believe me, I know how you feel but know there are caring people out there who definitely want to hep.

What Is Depression And Am I Suffering From It?

The more you learn about depression the more you can understand what is going on inside you and how to cope with it on a daily basis. This first video give us the definition, the signs, and what you need to do to get help.

VIDEO #1 - What Is Depression? By Helen M. Farrell

Depression is the leading cause of disability in the world today; in the United States alone, almost ten percent of adults struggle with the depression. Since it’s a mental illness, it is much harder to understand and treat a person's normal physical maladies. Helen M. Farrell talks about the various symptoms and clinical treatments of depression, and gives some great tips for cope with depression and learning what is going on with you menatally.

1- One major source of confusion is the difference between having depression and feeling depressed. Most people don't know the difference and suffer needlessly because of it.

2- Everyone gets a bit down during their lifetime but what we all need to know is what triggers an episode. This is why it can just pop up out of thin air. Our circumstances change daily and things can get better very quickly or they can go downhill. The choice is your to make.

3- Clinical depression totally different affair. It is a qualified medical disorder and it won’t go away unless you do something about it. It can linger on until you are be diagnosed so if you have it for more than 2 weeks
consecutively and it interferes significantly with your ability to work, play and love then chances are, you can be diagnosed as clinically depressed.

4- Depression has many symptoms:

  1. Low mood
  2. Loss of interest in things you like to do
  3. Changes in appetite
  4. Feelings of worthlessness
  5. Feelings of excessive guilt
  6. Too much or too little sleep
  7. Poor concentration
  8. Constant restlessness
  9. Loss of energy
  10. Recurrent thoughts of suicide

5- If you have at least 5 of these symptoms, you qualify for a diagnosis for depression but only a qualified doctor can make the final evaluation. Once diagnosed, treating depression is much easier when you have all the facts.

6- It’s not just your behavioral symptoms that are inherent in depressive moods but physical ones as well. These manifestations occur within the brain.

  1. Changes can be seen with the naked eye
  2. Can be seen through X-rays and MRI’s
  3. Abnormal depletion of certain neurotransmitters inside the brain
    1. Dopamine – controls pleasure centers
    2. Serotonin – maintains mood balance
    3. Norepinephrine – one of the stress hormones
  4. IV. Sleep patterns
    1. Hormone abnormalities
    2. Thyroid
    3. High levels of cortisol – another stress hormone

7- Most doctors are still baffled as to what causes depression in humans but they are constantly working on trying to figure out the complexities so they can make it easier to treat. One major theory has to do with a person’s genes combined with their environment and how they are mixed together.

8- Nothing can accurately predict when and how severe an episode will appear nor can it predict who is struggling with it unless the person goes through a battery of tests to determine if they are qualified to be diagnosed.

9- According to The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH)
https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/index.shtml it takes the average person suffering with a mental illness 10 years to ask for help. This is a shame as it makes it so much harder to treat when people when they let it go for so long a period of time.

10- There are effective treatments available for those who suffer from depressive episodes. These may include medications, therapy with a trained mental therapist as well as experimental physical therapies that can boost
brain chemicals.

11- Taking the first steps to getting help can seem like an impossible dream for those suffering with a mental disorder but you can help them overcome their  feelings of guilt and shame by being there to help guide them to seek out the professional help they need to feel better..

12- It seems talking about depression can be one of the best things you can do to help a sufferer but be careful. Do not compare anything you have gone through as it will just bring out feelings of shame and makes them feel guilty for struggling with their own form of mental illness. Your love and care is just what they need to help them overcome the stigma and gives them someone they can trust in their fight for a better and normal life.

I hope these facts can help you understand what depression is and what can be done to help those or yourself overcome depression and live the life you were meant to live.

How To Deal With Depression The Proper Way

VIDEO #2 - How To Deal With Depression By Noah Elkrief

In our second video,  we have a well done video with lots of great information and tactics you can use to help you cope with all forms of depression with bestselling author, Noah Elkrief.

If you want to deal with depression effectively, the first thing you must do is have a basic understanding of what depression is and what it entails. Then, you can recognize that who you are is not a depressed person but a normal person dealing with a mental health issue.

Let’s go over what you need to learn to help you cope with this illness and what you can do to overcome it and deal effectively if the episodes come back.

1- When we feel depressed we tend to use the terminology that points directly to the I as in “I am depressed.” But are you really depressed? This is a key question that sets up the tone of the video.

2- How do you feel right now? What are you going through right now? These two questions outline the difference between what has happened before and what you are going through at this particular time. This is also a key thing to understand as now is the most important. The past is gone… worry about now.

3- Depression is just a set of feelings which may include:

  • Pressure in the chest
  • Loneliness
  • Worthlessness
  • Sadness
  • Unlike-ability
  • No willpower
  • No motivation
  • Feelings of lack

4- All of these are just expressions, a set of feelings. They do not represent who you are. Your feelings are associated with your depression but they are not depression in of themselves. It’s not who you are.

5- You were you before you had those feelings and you will still be you after those feelings go away. These feelings come at different times so your feelings can change so that does not define who the real you is.

6- During the week there are times when forget about depression or the thoughts associated with depression. It comes and goes but it’s not the real you. That’s the big distinction

7- When you believe it’s all about you, you can’t do something about it but the second you empower yourself and distance the real you from what you're feeling, that’s when you can begin the investigation into your feelings.

8- The next thing that crops up is usually negative thoughts about yourself. Something along the lines of “I’m bad” or “It’s all my fault” or even “I’m not good enough” but those thoughts are based on negative feelings and not the truth.

9- Instead, it’s all about recognizing you are not to blame for your feelings.

10- What creates depression are your thoughts. Be open to the possibility that your thoughts are tricking you into feeling a certain way and that way is wrong. Your thoughts have a way of distracting you from the truth.

11- This is why situations can’t create depression and neither can our appearance. It stems from what we are feeling based on our thoughts. Conquer your thoughts and they can’t rule you.

12- Depression only means something about you if you don’t have control over these debilitating thoughts and feelings whether you believe them or not.

13- Do you pick what thoughts enter your mind? If you did, why would you put negative thoughts there? It’s just random thoughts that you allow to come in because you are not open to believing the good about yourself.

14- When a thought enters your mind you automatically believe it because why would you question your thoughts since they are supposed to guide you through your daily lives?

How Negative Thoughts Fuel Depression

15- Ultimately, all you want is peace but your thoughts don’t listen to your wants so why listen to those negative thoughts when they only cause unhappiness?

16- We give attention to those thoughts and end up thinking those same thoughts over and over and over again.

17- This is why we ask this one important question. Why keep giving attention to the same stories in your head? The less you let them get to you the less depressed you feel.

18- If you don’t control your thoughts they will control you. The thoughts coming into your mind are to blame for your feelings not you, the person.

19- So, are the thoughts we are feeling always true? No, especially when they are negative in nature.

20- There are two categories of thoughts

  • Situations that cause us to think our situations are bad and they cause depression
  • Am I bad? Could it be me who is to blame?

21- Blame is something you don’t need to think about for blame is not important here. The idea is to understand this: Those thoughts of your, when they get negative, are to blame and make you feel guilty and ashamed and upset. Without those thoughts you can avoid the pain that comes with depression.

22- Stop believing those negative thoughts because they are playing tricks on you.

23- Fist comes the thought, followed by your belief in it then those feelings come rushing in. This is the same whether for negative or positive thoughts. You just need to avoid those bad thoughts or all the bad thoughts you’ve ever had will come flooding back.

24- Look at who you are, your good points and see what those negative thoughts can do to you. Turn away from those negative thoughts and see the positive in your life. Remember, you are not alone in this quest. Others have gone through the same ordeals, had the same feelings and think the same thoughts. That is not unique to
you… what is unique is that you are a special person that is stronger than you believe and can overcome anything if you understand the reasons behind depression and what you can do to overcome it.

I hope this has given you some food for thought (make sure they are positive ones) and you will see a big difference in how you feel.