3 Secrets To Practicing The Art Of Loving Kindness
Do you wish you knew the secret to making others feel special?
I recently went on a business trip to Houston, Texas for a marketing convention and I was floored by how I was treated. I’ve never been in Texas before but I had heard stories about how Texans are bighearted and tend to treat you like you’re family.
Well, let me say those stories are absolutely true! I learned a whole lot about how to treat people I’ve never met and how to make them feel special. They showed me the true art of loving kindness.
Being an introvert from New Jersey, I wasn’t used to the over-the-top way that Texans make you feel comfortable. It was a real eye-opener to say the least!
It began straight from the airport in Houston and continued onto my hotel. I could sense this wasn’t going to be any ordinary trip. This marketing event was supposed to be about how to market myself but a strange event occurred to me after the first day of the event.
I was looking for a place to relax and unwind after a long day so I walked into this cozy little restaurant and sat down away from everyone to catch my breath. Now here’s what got my attention. It wasn’t just the waitress who greeted me with a hello but everyone in the place said hello. They made me feel like they were waiting all day for me to arrive just so that they could take care of my every need.
Now, this wasn’t some five star restaurant we’re talking about here but a small, out-of-the-way place that served good food. I enjoyed every bite of that meal as if it were my last one.
The Practice Of Loving Kindness
In Mark 12:20-31, Jesus instructs us to, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”
In that one instance, the people of Houston practiced loving kindness in a way that I had never experienced. But this wasn’t a one time thing. Oh no! This happened time and time again. It amazes me how people in one place can show loving kindness to a stranger one day and in another place show hate when a gunman injured nine in a rampage just days before I arrived.
God’s unconditional love is the most important thing to me and here I am, witnessing firsthand from people who aren’t rich, have just been through a tragedy and just want to make a life for themselves and their family.
How often do we go out of our way to make someone special?
How often do we put the needs of others ahead of ourselves?
The first secret to practicing loving kindness is learning how to treat people in a way that makes them feel special. It’s not a game or showmanship but a deep abiding feeling of caring for others first before your own needs.
The more you show love to others in the small things the easier it will be to show love when love is hard to find.
Living Your Authentic Self Through The Art Of Loving Kindness
There’s a big difference between living your authentic self and manufacturing authenticity. The people of Houston were authentic in how they treated me. I have no doubt that’s how they treat everyone. That’s the way it should be but sometimes we try to fake it to make it seem real.
Maybe we’re in a bad mood or don’t feel well but those are just excuses. Those that practice loving kindness come from a place deep inside that doesn’t have to manufacture anything but true love.
God asks us to live a life of purpose that sends out love to everyone with the sole intention of making a difference in the world. at you and said hello with a deep-seated and authentic voice
Can you make a difference by just saying hello?
I think you can and let me prove it.
Ever had one of those days that everything goes wrong? Where nothing makes sense or you feel like a square peg in a round hole?
I have and it can take a real toll on our psyche. You don’t feel like dealing with anyone anywhere at all.
But, what if someone smiled and said hello with an authentic and compassionate voice. Wouldn’t that brighten an otherwise miserable day?
It sure would! It’s one of those things that comes out of the blue and warms our soul. I try to be that person for others because I know what it feels like. I try to understand what others are feeling because I know I can brighten their day without saying a word. Just an authentic smile and paying attention to the feelings of others is the second secret of loving kindness.
Learn How To Love Out Loud
The term, loving out loud is used by evangelist Joyce Meyer as a way to express our love for others. She writes, “Think of three people you know who could really use a gesture of God’s love. Then think of creative ways you can express His love to these people, and do it. I guarantee you will feel a wonderful sense of fulfillment and joy afterward.”
Loving kindness comes from a place of expressing God’s love for others. It is living joyfully and showing the world you actually do care what happens to it.
What would happen if the roles were reversed and you were the one who needed comfort or a smile. Wouldn’t you want someone to step forward and show loving kindness to you?
Most people are so concerned with their own lives they don’t look for ways to express God’s love to their neighbors. The people of Houston did that for me and they exhibited the third secret which is loving others out loud.
Let me ask you a question.
What would it take for you to step into the shoes of another person and see what their life is like? We all lead busy lives but when you show your love to others it brings us all just a little bit closer to God.
How do you change the way you deal with others and yourself? How do you use unconditional love to make a difference in the world?
That is exactly what I teach you in my new book entitled “Summoned To Love – A Spiritual Blueprint for Rediscovering Inner Peace, Unconditional Love, And True Happiness.”