What Is A Proven Growth Mindset?
“After living with their dysfunctional behavior for so many years, people become invested in defending their dysfunctions rather than changing them.”
Let me ask you a question. What kind of mindset do you have? A growth mindset or a fixed mindset?
Be honest with yourself because what I am about to share with will dramatically change your life because it has changed mine.
Let me give you a little background information about me so you’ll understand the context of what I’ll be sharing with you here today.
I can remember as a kid growing up in a dysfunctional family where there was always someone arguing, things being broken, and finding it hard to stay positive. As good as I was in sports, I never felt like I was good enough athlete to please my father. My mindset was fixed on one thing… trying to survive the negativity and hoping I could become the person God wanted me to be.
I didn’t see a snowball’s chance in hell I would ever be happy in that situation but once I changed how I saw things the better my life got. It’s always that way. Whatever you think and feel about yourself is how your life is. Change your mindset and you change your life even if the circumstances don’t change.
How did I overcome all the negativity of the past and become the success I am now?
It all comes from changing my mindset. Now, you may think it’s all about being positive or I got lucky but it goes much deeper than that. It all hinges on whether you have a growth mindset or a fixed mindset.
What is a growth mindset?
A growth mindset is the inner belief in yourself that despite not having the best talents, traits and qualities, you have the ability to develop them by learning the ins and out and practicing them until you become proficient. A growth mindset is really about how you approach things and what you do to enhance them.
If you have a growth mindset, you believe you can do anything because you are not fixed on what to do but how to find a way to make things happen. It’s about growing all in confidence and believing in yourself..
Let me give you an example of this.
Suppose you want to learn how to speak in public but you are a shy person. What do you do to overcome your shyness?
Do you accept your shyness and believe it can’t be done or do you take action and learn the skills to overcome your shyness? Every step you take to become a better public speaker enhances your positiveness and gives you confidence to carry on.
But what if I make mistakes? Won’t I look stupid in front of others?
So what? It’s not about pleasing others but bettering yourself. The idea is to always be learning. Mistakes are part of the process. Too often, people quit, not because they can’t do something but because they believe they can’t do it. Once that belief take a firm hold of you, you are done. There’s nothing you can do to stop negativity from squeezing all the belief out of you.
A growth mindset is your motivator in life. It pushes you to become better but the real beauty of a growth mindset is that it gives you freedom to try new things, to experiment and not worry about winning or losing, and to study the results so that you grow as a person. With a growth mindset, the outcome of a situation doesn’t become your identity, it just shows you where you are at any given time.
Let’s take a look at the differences between the two mindsets and see what you need to do to change your own mindset.