Dealing With The Devastating Effects Of Depression Part 2

Coping With Depression

In part two of our 2-part dealing with depression, We have some more great information on living with depression and how to make the best of your condition.

Treating depression is something most of us are deathly afraid of. Most people are in denial about how they feel and hide themselves away so that no one knows what they are going through but this is the worst thing you can do.

Here are some important questions all of us have had at one time or another when it comes to coping with or dealing with the effects of depression.

1- How can I put ourselves out there with a total stranger who knows nothing about my circumstances?

2- Do I really want others to know I’m suffering with symptoms of depression?

3- Is it really depression or am I just going through a bad time

4- Will people think I’m crazy if they find out about my depression?

5- Will I or can I get better or am I stuck feeling this way?

Learning how to deal with depression takes inner strength and a willpower to decide to get treatment. Each day you put it off makes it that much harder.

Please note, there is hope. There is always hope. Nothing is that bad where you hurt yourself or God forbid, take your own life. I have suffered from depression a good amount of my life and have learned a great deal about what triggers it and how to cope when things get rough. Believe me, I know how you feel but know there are caring people out there who definitely want to hep.

What Is Depression And Am I Suffering From It?

The more you learn about depression the more you can understand what is going on inside you and how to cope with it on a daily basis. This first video give us the definition, the signs, and what you need to do to get help.

VIDEO #1 – What Is Depression? By Helen M. Farrell

Depression is the leading cause of disability in the world today; in the United States alone, almost ten percent of adults struggle with the depression. Since it’s a mental illness, it is much harder to understand and treat a person’s normal physical maladies. Helen M. Farrell talks about the various symptoms and clinical treatments of depression, and gives some great tips for cope with depression and learning what is going on with you menatally.

1- One major source of confusion is the difference between having depression and feeling depressed. Most people don’t know the difference and suffer needlessly because of it.

2- Everyone gets a bit down during their lifetime but what we all need to know is what triggers an episode. This is why it can just pop up out of thin air. Our circumstances change daily and things can get better very quickly or they can go downhill. The choice is your to make.

3- Clinical depression totally different affair. It is a qualified medical disorder and it won’t go away unless you do something about it. It can linger on until you are be diagnosed so if you have it for more than 2 weeks
consecutively and it interferes significantly with your ability to work, play and love then chances are, you can be diagnosed as clinically depressed.

4- Depression has many symptoms:

  1. Low mood
  2. Loss of interest in things you like to do
  3. Changes in appetite
  4. Feelings of worthlessness
  5. Feelings of excessive guilt
  6. Too much or too little sleep
  7. Poor concentration
  8. Constant restlessness
  9. Loss of energy
  10. Recurrent thoughts of suicide

5- If you have at least 5 of these symptoms, you qualify for a diagnosis for depression but only a qualified doctor can make the final evaluation. Once diagnosed, treating depression is much easier when you have all the facts.

6- It’s not just your behavioral symptoms that are inherent in depressive moods but physical ones as well. These manifestations occur within the brain.

  1. Changes can be seen with the naked eye
  2. Can be seen through X-rays and MRI’s
  3. Abnormal depletion of certain neurotransmitters inside the brain
    1. Dopamine – controls pleasure centers
    2. Serotonin – maintains mood balance
    3. Norepinephrine – one of the stress hormones
  4. IV. Sleep patterns
    1. Hormone abnormalities
    2. Thyroid
    3. High levels of cortisol – another stress hormone

7- Most doctors are still baffled as to what causes depression in humans but they are constantly working on trying to figure out the complexities so they can make it easier to treat. One major theory has to do with a person’s genes combined with their environment and how they are mixed together.

8- Nothing can accurately predict when and how severe an episode will appear nor can it predict who is struggling with it unless the person goes through a battery of tests to determine if they are qualified to be diagnosed.

9- According to The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH)
https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/index.shtml it takes the average person suffering with a mental illness 10 years to ask for help. This is a shame as it makes it so much harder to treat when people when they let it go for so long a period of time.

10- There are effective treatments available for those who suffer from depressive episodes. These may include medications, therapy with a trained mental therapist as well as experimental physical therapies that can boost
brain chemicals.

11- Taking the first steps to getting help can seem like an impossible dream for those suffering with a mental disorder but you can help them overcome their  feelings of guilt and shame by being there to help guide them to seek out the professional help they need to feel better..

12- It seems talking about depression can be one of the best things you can do to help a sufferer but be careful. Do not compare anything you have gone through as it will just bring out feelings of shame and makes them feel guilty for struggling with their own form of mental illness. Your love and care is just what they need to help them overcome the stigma and gives them someone they can trust in their fight for a better and normal life.

I hope these facts can help you understand what depression is and what can be done to help those or yourself overcome depression and live the life you were meant to live.

How To Deal With Depression The Proper Way

VIDEO #2 – How To Deal With Depression By Noah Elkrief

In our second video,  we have a well done video with lots of great information and tactics you can use to help you cope with all forms of depression with bestselling author, Noah Elkrief.

If you want to deal with depression effectively, the first thing you must do is have a basic understanding of what depression is and what it entails. Then, you can recognize that who you are is not a depressed person but a normal person dealing with a mental health issue.

Let’s go over what you need to learn to help you cope with this illness and what you can do to overcome it and deal effectively if the episodes come back.

1- When we feel depressed we tend to use the terminology that points directly to the I as in “I am depressed.” But are you really depressed? This is a key question that sets up the tone of the video.

2- How do you feel right now? What are you going through right now? These two questions outline the difference between what has happened before and what you are going through at this particular time. This is also a key thing to understand as now is the most important. The past is gone… worry about now.

3- Depression is just a set of feelings which may include:

  • Pressure in the chest
  • Loneliness
  • Worthlessness
  • Sadness
  • Unlike-ability
  • No willpower
  • No motivation
  • Feelings of lack

4- All of these are just expressions, a set of feelings. They do not represent who you are. Your feelings are associated with your depression but they are not depression in of themselves. It’s not who you are.

5- You were you before you had those feelings and you will still be you after those feelings go away. These feelings come at different times so your feelings can change so that does not define who the real you is.

6- During the week there are times when forget about depression or the thoughts associated with depression. It comes and goes but it’s not the real you. That’s the big distinction

7- When you believe it’s all about you, you can’t do something about it but the second you empower yourself and distance the real you from what you’re feeling, that’s when you can begin the investigation into your feelings.

8– The next thing that crops up is usually negative thoughts about yourself. Something along the lines of “I’m bad” or “It’s all my fault” or even “I’m not good enough” but those thoughts are based on negative feelings and not the truth.

9- Instead, it’s all about recognizing you are not to blame for your feelings.

10- What creates depression are your thoughts. Be open to the possibility that your thoughts are tricking you into feeling a certain way and that way is wrong. Your thoughts have a way of distracting you from the truth.

11- This is why situations can’t create depression and neither can our appearance. It stems from what we are feeling based on our thoughts. Conquer your thoughts and they can’t rule you.

12- Depression only means something about you if you don’t have control over these debilitating thoughts and feelings whether you believe them or not.

13- Do you pick what thoughts enter your mind? If you did, why would you put negative thoughts there? It’s just random thoughts that you allow to come in because you are not open to believing the good about yourself.

14- When a thought enters your mind you automatically believe it because why would you question your thoughts since they are supposed to guide you through your daily lives?

How Negative Thoughts Fuel Depression

15- Ultimately, all you want is peace but your thoughts don’t listen to your wants so why listen to those negative thoughts when they only cause unhappiness?

16- We give attention to those thoughts and end up thinking those same thoughts over and over and over again.

17- This is why we ask this one important question. Why keep giving attention to the same stories in your head? The less you let them get to you the less depressed you feel.

18- If you don’t control your thoughts they will control you. The thoughts coming into your mind are to blame for your feelings not you, the person.

19- So, are the thoughts we are feeling always true? No, especially when they are negative in nature.

20- There are two categories of thoughts

  • Situations that cause us to think our situations are bad and they cause depression
  • Am I bad? Could it be me who is to blame?

21- Blame is something you don’t need to think about for blame is not important here. The idea is to understand this: Those thoughts of your, when they get negative, are to blame and make you feel guilty and ashamed and upset. Without those thoughts you can avoid the pain that comes with depression.

22- Stop believing those negative thoughts because they are playing tricks on you.

23- Fist comes the thought, followed by your belief in it then those feelings come rushing in. This is the same whether for negative or positive thoughts. You just need to avoid those bad thoughts or all the bad thoughts you’ve ever had will come flooding back.

24- Look at who you are, your good points and see what those negative thoughts can do to you. Turn away from those negative thoughts and see the positive in your life. Remember, you are not alone in this quest. Others have gone through the same ordeals, had the same feelings and think the same thoughts. That is not unique to
you… what is unique is that you are a special person that is stronger than you believe and can overcome anything if you understand the reasons behind depression and what you can do to overcome it.

I hope this has given you some food for thought (make sure they are positive ones) and you will see a big difference in how you feel.

Dealing With The Devastating Effects Of Depression Part 1

Dealing With Depression

The world has become a tough place to live and work in. Many are feeling the damaging effects of having no job or lost a job over the past few years, have lost family members to cancer, drug abuse or Alzheimer’s, and know family members and friends who haven’t quite coped with all the hate and violence going on all around us but I am here to offer a glimmer of hope.

Depression… the word conjures up pictures of people sitting around the house moaning and unable to deal with life in general but it’s something we all must deal with at one time or another. Most of us either know someone who has gone through bouts of depression or is currently battling this debilitating disease. Dealing with depression has become a national epidemic with more and more people suffering everyday.

Depression holds a special place in my heart as I have gone through bouts of it myself having come from a broken family, lost my first girlfriend to leukemia and dealt with things that would have destroyed most others will to live but through it all, I had God to help me cope. I’ve wanted to give help to others by making some of this information available, so that at the very least, individuals could learn some things they can do to start dealing with depression.

Below are some videos that you can use to start dealing with depression in a caring and loving atmosphere.

Video #1 – Depression – The 7 Differences Between Men And Women By Kati Morton

Kati Morton talks about the 7 differences between men and women in how they they suffer from depression.

Did you know that women are 2x more likely than men to struggle with depression but those numbers may be a bit skewed as men do not like to admit they are depressed because it is a macho thing. Only now have
many men started to overcome the sigma and pride associated with depression and are finally coming
forward to deal with the mental aspect of depression.

One side note, doctors have only begun to treat depression in men differently than in women from both
a physical and mental aspect and are using different methods than the one-size-fits-all that was so
prevalent years past.

  1. Women tend to be the more emotional of the two sexes so they feel more sadness which leads to
    self-worth problems. Men on the other hand react differently as they are more irritable and agitated.
  2. Women take their negative feelings out on themselves and internalize everything whereas men are
    much more likely to lash out and blame others for what they are feeling and going through.
  3. Women cope with depression with food and friends which makes things even worse as their self
    worth spirals out of control. Men, on the other hand,  cope with depression through physical means by overindulging in TV, sex, drugs and alcohol.
  4. Women let stress get the better of them, especially when it comes to life events. Men believe it’s just
    a part of life so they tuck those feelings deep inside. This can be  more tragic in men as they are prone to
    do physical damage to themselves.
  5. Depression in women also leads to eating disorders. They cope by using food as a numbing agent.
    Men take the high road with food because their depression attacks them physically through sex and self
    abuse.
  6. Depression is more debilitating to women. They tend to ruminate about it and let it eat them from
    the inside out. They take these feelings with them through every relationship and have higher
    expectations which can never be met. Men take out their feelings on those close to them because they can’t
    deal with the awkward feelings. They don’t look for others to help them as they tend to abuse women to quell their inner pride.
  7. Women are better at reaching out for help than men and are better with opening up about their own
    feelings. Men don’t like to talk about their feelings and depression seems to sneak up on them without
    their acknowledgement.

Once you understand the differences you can start coping with your own form of depression as well as
those of the opposite sex. It makes it much easier when you better understand these differences.
Hope this clears up some common misconceptions regarding men and women who suffer from
depression.

The Truth About Depression

VIDEO #2 – You’re Not Alone: The Truth About Depression By Colette Stearns

Teenager, Colette Stearns opens up about many of the misconceptions about depression, how it affected her, and how she was able to overcome it.

Too many teenagers let depression get the better of them but Colette goes deep inside her own depression and shows other teenagers what they need to do to deal with it as well as letting them know their not alone in their battle.

Here is an overview of what she said.

  1. There are many prominent misconceptions and stigmas attached to depression and mental orders but way too often people do not like to talk about it in public, especially teenagers who are left to deal with it in an immure way.
  2. The feelings of shame and disgrace are widespread, especially in teenagers who are constantly battling hormones and peer pressure at the same time. The pressures are enormous for those who don’t fit in.
  3. It is a mood disorder which makes it tough to concentrate, especially for young minds. When combined with unexplained physical problems can lead to thoughts of suicide.
  4. The problems associated with depression can disable even the strongest of wills and are hard to diagnose if the person is unwilling to cooperate or even acknowledge their depressive behavior.
  5. Depression is diagnosed as having major depressive episodes with the various symptoms for at least two or more weeks straight. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, Depression and anxiety disorders are different, but people with depression often experience symptoms similar to those of an anxiety disorder, such as nervousness, irritability, and problems sleeping and concentrating. But each disorder has its own causes and its own emotional and behavioral symptoms.
  6.  11% of teenagers will experience episodes of depressive behavior by the time they are 18 and half of those will experience it by the time they reach fourteen. it has become an epidemic for our children and much more needs to be done to get it out in the open.
  7. It is the third leading cause of death in young adults ranging in ages of 15-24. This is a shame and is devastating to the families involved.
  8. Too many people do not take the time to try and understand the disease and disorder and ridicule it. People can be very cruel but we need to stand up and educate them on what depression is and how we ca all chip in and lend our support to those who suffer from it.
  9. Education is the key to helping those suffering from depression so they don’t have to go it alone.
  10. Need the support of family and friends to help cope and mange the symptoms. This is why we all need to get involved because it affects everyone’s family ant one time or another.
  11. Most young people do not like to admit they are feeling depressed because of the stigma attached so they keep it to themselves. Unfortunately, this is a major problem for teenagers and we need to offer our support and love so they can get the help they desperately need.
  12. Look for peer programs in school, support in your county or even state and federal programs.
    Some mentioned are National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-8255
    NAMI – National Alliance On Mental Illness www.nami.org
  13. Depression is real and you don’t need to hide behind your shame. It’s better to come out and look for help. You’re not alone in your struggle. Many people are there to help… that means you!

Hope this helps you with some knowledge that can beneficial for you or someone
you know who needs help now!

How To Deal With Difficult Times

VIDEO #3 – How To Deal With The Difficult Times By Brendon Burchard

We hear so much about what depression does but we never really hear from the people suffering from depression. Watch and listen to Best-selling author and trainer, Brendon Burchard, as he talks about the depression he went through and how he deals with difficult times. You can learn a lot from his wisdom.

In this video, best-selling author and Personal Development Trainer, Brendon
Burchard talks about the five ways to deal with difficult times that help you avoid
deal with depression.

  1. Learn How To Set Small, Simple Daily Goals – Sometimes going through life’s difficulties can zap all our energies so it’s very important to set small daily goals that are both achievable and able to push you forward. This keeps you in a positive mindset and helps you feel good about yourself.
  2. Keep Perspective On Life – You can always draw strength from your past when you’ve done great things. The moments when things were good are still there and will come again. You have to have hope. That is so important during difficult times. God gives us hope in difficult times and when you take up His offer, you have an Advocate (the Holy Spirit) in your corner who loves you and wants the best for you. Take solace in the fact that you are God’s miracle and He will not forsake you. We all have difficult times… it’s how we deal with them that determines whether we get out of them or not. God will not let you fail, that’s your decision.
  3. Ask The Right Questions – Asking the right questions such as “What should I be learning here?” or “What is my purpose? “ can give you a chance to reboot your life and make good choices that can help you overcome your depression and feeling of hopelessness. To make this work for you, you need to write these questions down on a piece of paper and honestly answer them. This is a formula
    for success. Many people won’t take the time to do this step but I appeal to you to make this a daily occurrence so you can draw strength.
  4. Be You’re your Best Self Despite Life’s Difficulties – Life throws us curveballs when we least expect them but you need to stay in control of your emotions. You know what your best self is and so how would that best self interact with this particular situation. Be conscious of what you do, say and feel so you can learn how to deal with your problems. Brendon says that “When times are tough, we often feel that we can’t understand or handle things, that we lack competence or capability. So, to shore up those feelings, be strategic and ask, “What could I learn now to better handle this stage of my life?” Develop a learning curriculum for yourself and start studying things that can help or advance your life.”
  5. Keep Gratitude Alive – Gratitude is the most important part of life. Why? If you aren’t grateful for what you have, you tend to become a worrier. You become selfish in your attitudes and you forget you are part of a bigger picture in God’s world. Be thankful, be appreciative and learn to love others unconditionally. Without them, life becomes and hard place to be happy in.

As a bonus, I’ve collected 10 quotes about depression from real people and what they have said about their suffering with depression. Too often, those that are suffering from depression don’t get the chance to tell their story.

Can you identify with any of these quotes?
1- “Before you can see the light you have to deal with the darkness. Don’t let your struggle become your identity.”
2- “You feel like you’re in a constant state of worry.”
3- “It limits what you can do in your life.”
4- “It’s a state of mind where nothing you can make you feel better.”
5- “Sometimes in life you fall down but you feel you don’t have the the strength to get back up.”
6- “You put a mask on and pretend everything is alright.”
7- “Fear comes in, especially when you walk in your house and know it’s broken
and there’s nothing you can do about it.”
8- “The only time you feel you don’t have to impress everybody is when you’re
alone in bed.”
9- “You have doubts and are scared about the future but do you still have hope? Do
you know who you are? What’s important is you. Accept yourself even if others don’t. Know you are loved.”
10- “It’s normal to go through bouts of confusion and frustration and craziness in
your life . It happens all around you.”

Hope this is inspirational for you to see that others share your pain but also want the very best for you.