The Myth Of Finding Your Life’s Passion

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What Is Your Life’s Real Passion?

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Is passion missing from your life? Are you living with a lack of real purpose? We put way too much emphasis on living out our true purpose in life but passion and purpose may not be all they’re cracked up to be.

Say what?

You soldier through life hoping your passion takes over and you live the life you were meant to live but what if that type of thinking was all wrong? What if your time could be better spent unlocking your true potential and working towards improving your talents?

I can remember when I was a young boy. All I wanted to do was play sports. Morning, noon, and night my life was consumed by sports. Whether it was baseball, basketball or football, that was my passion. I worked hard at my game. I honed my skills, studied the game, and did everything I could to be the best I could be.

Did I end up becoming a professional ballplayer? No. Why not? No matter how passionate I was, I realized I wasn’t ever going to be good enough to be a professional athlete but I wasn’t the only one. Was I devastated? Kind of, but it didn’t ruin me. I knew I was more than just a ballplayer. I had other talents that I could fully exploit. This is why I believe in the myth of finding your passion in life because we are more than just our passions.

God has given all of us many talents that we can use to change the world. Just because you can’t do one thing great doesn’t mean there aren’t other talents you can use that will fulfill your vast potential. God knows what’s right for you and all of your talents work together to make you the person you are.

Is Your Life’s Passion Holding You Back?

Ask any student in college what they want to do with their lives and many cannot honestly answer that question. They’re still trying to find themselves and need to see the bigger picture in life. Forcing them to find their passion and concentrate on that particular field of study may not be the best idea. In fact, it may put too much pressure on them and take the focus on the becoming a well-rounded person.

Why is that?

Sometime, passions are things that make us happy right now but in the long run may fade away. They may be things that give pleasure in the short term but are not things you can make a living at right now.

For me, writing has become my passion. It was something I always loved doing but until I realized I couldn’t make a living with sports did I alter my plans for life. Now that I’ve been writing for years, my passion has grown as well as my respect for writers in general.

What are you passionate about? Does it make you happy? Can you make a living at it? These are valid questions you must ask yourself before you make a decision about both your passion and your purpose. If you can’t answer these questions honestly, then your passions and purpose need to be adjusted.

What your life looks like 10, 20 even 30 years in the future will all be based on the decisions you make now so you better have a good idea whether your passion fit your purpose or you will be one sorry and frustrated individual.

Missing The Opportunity To Find Your Real Passion

For our entire lives, we have been told that we need to have a singular mission and that is to find our passion. Once we find that, it will lead us to a successful and happy existence. Well, that doesn’t always work.

Are you a failure if you don’t find it? I don’t think so. Are you going to live a life less than perfect with all the stress of living up to a purpose that may or may not be for you? Let’s hope not.

Author Terri Trespicio states that, “Passion is not a plan, it’s a feeling. And feelings change.”  She goes on to say, “We continue to use passion as the yardstick to judge everything, instead of seeing passion for what is really is: the fire that ignites when you start rubbing sticks together.”

We feel that if we don’t find the passion in our lives that we’ll get on the wrong train at the wrong time and go down the wrong road and everything will all be for naught in our lives but that is just fear playing with us.

Terri goes on to say, “You don’t create your life and then live it. You create it by living it, not agonizing about it.” She finishes by saying that, “Passion is not a job, a sport, or a hobby. It is the full force of your attention and energy that you give to whatever is right in front of you. And if you’re so busy looking for this passion you could miss opportunities that change your life.”

If you don’t have a great passion, does that mean you’re not interesting or ambitious? Heck no!

Let me tell you how to uncover your real passion. How to live life without the tunnel vision you’ve been stuck in since you were a little kid.

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Find Your Passion And You Find Your Purpose

The first thing you need to do is stop waiting for passion to show up because you’ll be waiting a very long time! Instead, be a problem solver. That means, find problems that need to be solved. People will pay you for your problem-solving abilities.

The difference between following your passion and living your purpose comes with having  a clear message while prioritizing your time and energy.

Do your talents empower who you are inside? Is this for yourself or are you doing things unselfishly for others?

That’s a big key here. Don’t burden yourself with a monumental decision that overwhelms you. You can’t do anything if you are totally overwhelmed. Don’t jump too far ahead of the game. Your goal is to think in the here and now where you are following your excitement.

Your talents are like a personal taxi which bring you along to each avenue of your life. If you need to get off at a particular stop, you’re not strapped in too tight to any one destination. Talents and passion go together and compliment one another but they do not determine whether they are your final destination.

There are always bumps in the road. That is why you need to focus on a theme that you can connect with.

Here are 7 questions that can help you find your passion and begin the journey:

  1. What floats your boat without boring you to death? 
  2. What do you want to be known for when you pass on from this life?
  3. Can you see yourself doing this 5-10 years in the future and why?
  4. What problems do you like solving and why?
  5. Do you spend your time doing things you love surrounded by like-minded people?
  6. Does the authentic you shine through or is this all about the money?
  7. Who is this for… you or someone else?

If you can honestly answer these questions then you’re on the right track. I’ve seen far too many people look at passion from a financial standpoint and they let that rule their decision-making process. Things will come up that will rock your boat so you have to be flexible in your attitude.

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you comes alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

Howard Thurman

Are you open to the possibilities of life? Everything that has happened in your life to this point has been a teaching lesson. It has gotten you ready for what you were put here on earth to accomplish but you have to understand this one important idea:

When you share yourself to the world, nothing is as important staying true to yourself. You can drift through life as if it were a dream but is the true you standing out from the crowd? You see, passion originally meant suffering (as in Jesus suffering on the cross) so in order to find your true passion, you will need to go through many trials and tribulations which is why you must stay authentic to your own personal ideals and beliefs.

This is called empowerment. True passion feeds off this power. It gives you insight into what you need to do to carry that passion forward, what experiences you need to offer the world that can help others, and finally, what action you need to take to make your purpose a reality.

Passion and purpose are not easy. It’s not all peaches and cream. There will be potholes along the way. You will be angry at your situation, feel like quitting and think you made the wrong decision but that is how you grow. Most people give up when time get tough but Benjamin Disraeli, the 19th century British Prime Minister one said, “Man is only great when he acts out of passion.”

What are you acting out of? Only you can answer that!

The word is full of amateurs who are walking down the wrong path in life believing what all the experts have to say about passion and purpose. Be different. be unique but be careful. Learn all you can about what you are passionate about and allow life to to dictate what you do for things change and I would hate for you not to change with it.

Successful Tips For Breaking A Bad Habit

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What Goes Into Breaking A Bad Habit

“The difference between an amateur and a professional is in their habits. An amateur has amateur habits. A professional has professional habits. We can never free ourselves from habit. But we can replace bad habits with good ones.”

Steven Pressfield

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Are you stuck in a bad habit and want to break free? Do you feel like no matter what you do nothing can help you overcome your bad habits? Do you constantly catch yourself doing things you know you shouldn’t but are powerless to to make a positive change in your life?

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What Does Spiritual Transformation Look Like To You?

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What Is Spiritual Transformation?

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What happens when you live a life apart from God?

Many people have finally realized the futility of trying to live life on their own terms. They see how hard life is without having an advocate who loves us so much that He’s always looking out for our well-being. For this reason, many individuals have decided to go through a spiritual transformation and live the type of life God has envisioned for them from the time of their conception.

This may seem like a scary time in your life but look at it this way: Before today, you were driving on the wrong side of the road, unable to handle the speeding car as it made it’s way down the road. You ran into signs telling you which way to go while ignoring their messages, smashing into dividers that kept you from careening off the road while at the same time driving with a blindfold that took away all hopes for seeing the truth in front of you.

That may seem like a an extreme example of what life is like without God but let me tell you this, it isn’t far off from the truth. How often have you screwed up parts of your life and didn’t know which way to turn? How often have you gotten yourself into a bind and had no way of knowing what to do?

Like you, I too had trouble living a life apart from God. When I was younger, I thought I knew it all. I thought I was indestructible and could make my way down the road without any direction whatsoever but when I crashed, I realized I needed God to be there with me. I just couldn’t do it alone anymore. That’s when I realized I needed to transform my life with the awesome power of God’s love!

How about you?

Are you at the point where you’ve thrown your hands up and said… yes God, I surrender myself and give my heart to you?

Society today puts so much pressure on us to succeed and be happy but it doesn’t give us a roadmap on how to get there. That, my friend, is where making a spiritual transformation comes about. Society doesn’t make room for God in it’s plans for you.

In John 14:15-21, Jesus promises us, “I shall ask the Father, and he will give you another Paraclete to be with you forever, the Spirit of truth whom the world can never accept since it neither sees nor knows him; but you know him, because he is with you, he is in you. I shall not leave you orphans; I shall come to you. In a short time the world will no longer see me; but you will see that I live and you also will live. On that day you will know that I am in my Father and you in me and I in you. Whoever holds to my commandments and keeps them is the one who loves me; and whoever loves me will be loved by my Father, and I shall love him and reveal myself to him.”

That is where you must make the decision to awaken the spirit within. You need to firmly grab hold of the unconditional love God has given you and make a turn for living the spiritual life that brings a much deeper happiness and joy. This way yo can forge a real and genuine relationship with Jesus Christ.

How To Make A Spiritual Transformation

Now that you have come this far, your main question should be, “How do I make a spiritual transformation in my own life?”

The first and foremost idea regarding a spiritual transformation is that this is an opportunity given to you by Jesus. In Colossians 3:10, we see this in action, “And have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.”

That new self is the key to your spiritual awakening. It’s a pathway the Lord has opened up for us but you need to open both your heart and mind to His calling. The change the Lord is calling us to make is a deep-seated ethical change that occurs within our outward appearance and goes straight down to our character.

It involves showing and bringing unconditional love to our fellow human beings which puts the emphasis on others instead of ourselves. In the age of selfishness, finding the true meaning of life comes from knowing God intimately.

Colossians 3:1-4 states this unequivocally, “Therefore if you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth. For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is our life, is revealed, then you also will be revealed with Him in glory.”

Unleashing God’s power brings about a transformation so profound that it literally knocks the shoes off your feet! When you attune yourself to God’s vibration everything changes. You become the person God wants you to be.

So how do you get there? How do you make the impossible possible in a world that doesn’t value your soul?

Everything you do is part of the overall picture that brings the whole world together. You are part of a bigger picture but society conspires against you and your happiness if you don’t conform. They would rather have you stay set in your sinful habits and addictions.

That’s your cue to start the transformation. But before you can ride the horse you have to learn humility. This means it’s not all about you. Service and unconditional love are hallmarks of a spiritual transformation.

There are 4 models of transformation –

1- Fellowship – Your soul needs to connect with others. With this type of intimate connection with others, you learn how to live out the Gospel. The love one another challenge that God offers us changes our perception of how the world is supposed to be and gives us the impetus to make it a reality. The more we pray and support one another the closer we are in our walk with Jesus. 1 John 1:6-7 tells us this.  If we claim to have fellowship with him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.  But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.”  Community brings accountability to all believers and through this community we have encouragement to keep us on the proper road of spirituality.

2- Discipline – Your spiritual journey is nothing without discipline. You cannot expect to transform your life if you lack discipline. That is where devotion, prayer, and meditation are so important. Our obedience to God is found in our fundamental attitude towards life. We find this in Jeremiah 17:7-8: “The man who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence indeed is the Lord, is blessed. He will be like a tree planted by water: it sends its roots out toward a stream, it doesn’t fear when heat comes, and its foliage remains green. It will not worry in a year of drought or cease producing fruit.”  This is what discipline offers us when we give ourselves with love.

3- Desire – If you want something bad enough your desire will take you there. God has put that desire in your heart so that you will know Him. It is the will to go deeper to know the real Jesus Christ. Everyone has the desire to know the true God. We carry this responsibility in our hearts to live out the faith that is required to know God. According to Dallin H. Oaks, “Desires dictate our priorities, priorities shape our choices, and choices determine our actions. The desires we act on determine our changing, our achieving, and our becoming.” Desire leads us to finding God in everything we do. In fact, St. Augustine in the fourth century stated, “Our hearts are restless until they rest in you.”

4- Faith – No matter how strong our desire or discipline is, faith is the most important part of any spiritual transformation. Faith is what moves us in the direction of God. It is what Author Christy Wimber says that “It takes faith to trust and walk in that each and every day. However, if you’re faith doesn’t continue to grow in your relationship with Christ, you won’t have the faith to see God’s Kingdom come not only in your life, but in the lives of those around you.”  Faith is a gift given by God which is an action verb – which means it needs to be put in practice. Your transformation depends on it.


The Key To Spiritual Transformation

God is the key to your spiritual transformation. He opens up the world for you to experience it in all it’s glory. We are told to Colossians 3:1,“Set your heart and mind on the things above.” From there, our heart, mind, soul, body and relationships must be conformed to the image of Jesus Christ to have any hope of salvation.

The ultimate goal is to be Christ-like. That means, we must imitate Christ while rejecting everything around us which drags us toward ungodliness behavior. This means obeying God and denying thyself.

“Behold, the kingdom of God is within you…”  Luke 17:21. 

It’s all within you but you have to learn to unlock that power. If you want to experience the power of God in your life you must cultivate the consciousness of Christ.

According to Rev. Marty Blackwelder, “In order to reach that goal, and to reach our full potential in Christ, a transformation into the image of Christ must occur – a maturing, developing, evolving process must take place in our lives spiritually.”

A transformation takes time so we must allow our spirituality to mature and develop with time. Philippians 2:13 tells us: “For it is God which works in you, both to will and to do of his good pleasure.” God needs time to bring this out, not because he cannot work through us but we are spiritually like babies and we must learn the ways of God through practice, prayer, and meditation. These experiences

We place ourselves under the divine influence of God.  Kyle Idleman, teaching pastor at Southeast Christian Church in Louisville, Kentucky writes,At just the right time there’s a God moment and their life collides with God’s Word and the power of the Holy Spirit.” This is how our spiritual transformation takes place.

Awareness is the final key to personal transformation. It is through self-discovery that we find God. Awareness is the state of being conscious of something. For us to live, we must be in constant awareness of His presence in our everyday lives.

Do you know He is there with you everyday? Do you know He is watching over you? Awareness of God’s presence is  the foundation of the spiritual life. When you unite your faith with His presence, He raises your consciousness with a personal power that is prosperous in His spirit.

Want to become closer to God? Want to make your own spiritual transformation? You can find it in my #1 bestselling book entitled “Summoned To Love – A Spiritual Blueprint For Rediscovering Inner Peace, Unconditional Love, And True Happiness.”

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Turning Your Joy Into Lasting Happiness

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Turning Joy Into Happiness

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Do you believe you are a happy person? Do you cultivate any type of joy whatsoever in your everyday life? Let me show you how to turn the simple act of joy into a lifetime of lasting happiness.

Throughout the ages, man has tried unsuccessfully to turn the joy he feels at any given moment into happiness that lasts a lifetime. As hard as he has tried, he has never quite put all the pieces together to enjoy the happiness that surrounds him.

Why is that and how can we fix it?

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What Do Happy People Know That You Don’t?

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The Secrets Of Happy People

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What is the secret of being happy? That is the question humans have been asking for thousands of years but at the heart of being happy is none other than love. Without love, happiness cannot flourish. It cannot breed it’s beauty and fulfill its prime directive… that is, bring us closer to God for happiness has been given to us from the Lord.

Happy people go about doing things much differently than unhappy people. They live in a away that is kinder and more gentle than unhappy people. Happiness is a way of life. It’s a way to be not a way to act or even a way to receive.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”

Galatians 5:22-23

We here all the time about being happy but how many people do you actually meet on your daily journey who are truly happy? Society has taken a huge toll on the individual spirit and has put us at a disadvantage. Our ancestors knew how to be happy. They treasured happiness as if it were gold. They worked hard to toil the land but at the end of the day, they had a joy that most of us would be jealous of.

What part of your life is lacking happiness?

What are you doing to change the equation and bring more happiness, more joy and more peace to your everyday life?

At the heart of being happy is reveling in the Lord. When you know Jesus, you can live knowing you have an advocate on your side. This can take away much of the stress we suffer from in today’s hectic world. But Christian joy and happiness are not one in the same. Happiness is not some warm and fuzzy feeling that only lasts a certain amount of time

The Root Of Happiness

Christian happiness goes far beyond that of society’e version of happiness. Joy, not just happiness is expressed in the bible as:

James 1:2-3 “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.”

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It is here that the real secret of true happiness comes. Happy people cling to joy because they know they have control over it as opposed to happiness where we think it comes to us. This difference makes it possible to feel joy even when things don’t go as planned or there are troubles in life.

The majority of people are like the wind. When tough times come, happiness flies out the door. When Christians feel joy, it reverberates throughout their lives no matter the circumstances. They know God is in control of their lives and they can feel it all the way through their soul.

When you read the new testament you find that we are commanded to be joyful. What is the source of this joy? It is the Lord, of course. Paul tells us in Philippians 4:4,  Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!”

We are in Christ and He is in us so no matter what happens, we have God inside our hearts. He leads us through the hills and valleys of life. He is the ultimate source of strength especially when we can’t go on. It is a union that we heartily embrace. oy comes from faith in the Lord.

How To Be A Happy Person

“Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.”

Earl Nightingale

Happiness is a gift from God. It is something not to be taken lightly. Joy comes to when we are keenly aware of God’s grace and are relishing His favor in us. Too often, we spend our time focusing on the negative parts of life without being grateful for what we have and the life we are living. If you turn your thinking around and see the positive side of life then happiness and joy will follow you all the days of your life.

For many, these words have no meaning because they are too caught up in themselves. Happiness is not just a selfish thing but something to be shared. We are a community that prays and obeys God in all things. This means it’s a choice to be happy even though we are commanded to be. God gave us the choice because He doesn’t want to force us. He wants happiness and joy to flow through our veins and become an integral part of who we are as Christians.

In their book,  “The 9 Choices of Happy People” authors Rick Foster and Greg Hicks write that “Intention is the active desire and commitment to be happy. It’s the decision to consciously choose attitudes and behaviors that lead to happiness over unhappiness.”

We also find this in the book, You Can Choose to Be Happy” by Tom G. Stevens, PhD. when he states emphatically, “Choose to make happiness a top goal,” Choose to take advantage of opportunities to learn how to be happy. For example, reprogram your beliefs and values. Learn good self-management skills, good interpersonal skills, and good career-related skills. Choose to be in environments and around people that increase your probability of happiness. The persons who become the happiest and grow the most are those who also make truth and their own personal growth primary values.”

“The secret of happiness is to count your blessings while others are adding up their troubles.” ~William Penn

Gratitude and forgiveness should also be a big part of being a happy person. You can’t live without being grateful for what you have. Selfish people are not happy people. They live for themselves not for God. That’s the big difference here. The more you are thankful for what you have the happier you are.

Why be grateful?

It’s all a matter of how you think. Rather than focusing on the things you don’t have, try focusing on what you do have and be grateful for them. Remember, there are people who would kill for what you have. God wants us to be happy with what we have and be able to give from our hearts because what we do have all comes from Him anyway. The happiness that comes with gratitude can be life-changing when you learn to put it in action.

Forgiveness is something most of us have trouble with. No matter how hard it is forgiving others, it is as much for our own psyche as it is for the other person. The secret is, don’t dwell on your anger or hurt, but instead put that  vengeance to bed. Open up your heart with love and forgiveness and allow the peace of the Lord to dwell in your soul and eel the peace and joy that He offers you.

Happiness can be short-circuited by our thoughts. The more we remain in a negative vibration, the more unhappiness grabs hold of us. The idea is to let positive thoughts and emotions fill your mind so that you are uplifted which allows you to have control over your thoughts and feelings.

 Jon Haidt, the author of “The Happiness Hypothesis” states that “If you learn techniques for identifying negative thoughts, then it’s easier to challenge them.” You have full control over whether you feel happy or not. Wrestling that control from negativity can be tough but it must be done to enjoy being happy.

Making Happiness An Everyday Habit

You would think that being happy would come naturally to humans but the problems we all face daily can put a damper on experiencing lasting happiness.  The thing is, it doesn’t have to be that way.  You can learn to pick up habit that will help bring out the happiness that you honestly deserve.

“Happiness is a habit—cultivate it.”

Elbert Hubbard

Here are 5 Ways You Can Make Happiness A Daily Habit

  1. Change Your Perspective On Life – See life from a different angle. The more you experience different things, the less boredom can take a hold of you and your thoughts.

  2. Learn To Embrace Your Fears – Challenge yourself from time to time. If you let your fears get the better of you, stress and anxiety will rule your day. A good challenge gets the blood flowing and forces you to better yourself.

  3. Learn To Smile More – There’s nothing better than a good smile. Happy people smile more and love to laugh. Are you a smiler or a frowner? The more you smile the more positive your outlook, Smiling also brings you closer to others and the better your relationships the happier you will be.

  4. Put More Emphasis On Helping Others – Psychologists have studied people who spend time helping others and have found they are happier because of their service and bring more happiness to the people they are helping. Are you serving others? Are you a giver or a taker?
  5. Commit More Random Acts Of Kindness – Most people don’t think about what their actions can do for others. They are so caught up in their own life they forget they have the power to make an impact on the lives of others. The more acts of kindness we can offer the world the better we can enjoy the love that’s all around us. Take time to be good to others and it will leave a happy feeling in your heart and a smile on the faces of others.

No matter how you slice it, happy people make an indelible mark on the world. Go out and make the supreme effort to be happy. Even when it’s raining inside your heart let the world see the sunshine in tour eyes. You’ll be much better off for it.

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The Art Of Building Self-Confidence

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Building Your Self Confidence

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“It is only necessary to have courage, for strength without self-confidence is useless.”

Giacomo Casanova

One of the biggest things that holds people back is lack of self confidence. It can be the difference between becoming the person we were meant to be and hiding from our responsibility to the world. We all have so much to give and to let it die because we fear the unknown is not only stupid but selfish as well.

It is our duty is to build self confidence and make a difference in this world for if we sit life out, what use are we for God? As a Christian, I have faith in my abilities because they are God-given. Do you have faith in your abilities? If not, I would advise you to set a course to become someone worthy of both self respect and a person of action.

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