Why Happiness Is A Choice You Make

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Happiness Is A Choice You Make

“Too often in life, something happens and we blame other people for us not being happy or satisfied or fulfilled. So the point is, we all have choices, and we make the choice to accept people or situations or to not accept situations.”
Tom Brady

If you feel you are lacking in the happiness department my friend, that is a choice you have decided to make.  You have full and complete control over your life and the decisions you make so don’t let anyone tell you different.  Whatever you do in life choosing to be happy is a choice you make and you make alone. You may feel like the fun has gone out of your life but there are many   factors which people measure their own happiness.  Some people think money is the ultimate happiness but they soon realize money doesn’t bring happiness only misery if all you do is work all the time to pay for your pleasures.

You might look at others who are blessed with so much but beware, you don’t know their situation. They may be in serious debt even though it looks like they have  everything.  Don’t strive to be like them. Instead, carve out your own happiness niche in this world by following your passions and your ideals. Being a slave to wealth, possessions, status, or even an exalted position you hold at work. don’t create happiness.  Happiness is a choice that comes from deep inside.

How is Happiness Measured?

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“Happiness, true happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give – pleasure, possessions, power – but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy.”
Dada Vaswani

There are many things in life that can make you happy.  They are mainly subjective because happiness comes differently for everyone. The way you find joy and happiness is measured differently by everyone. Everyone seeks happiness in their own way. What makes you happy is a natural high that you deserve to find.  There is nothing wrong with the things that you find joy in. Respect others for what they enjoy.  Seek out your own enjoyment and never feel guilty for your own pleasure.  It;s something they can;t take away from you.

While some people appear to be naturally happy looks can be deceiving.  Although studies suggest there is a genetic disposition linked to being happy it doesn’t mean you were born to be miserable if you are not a naturally happy person.  Your happiness is influenced by your environment and the people you come in contact with.

How To Find Happiness In Everyday Life


Sleep is a big factor in being a happy person.  Sleep is needed for the body to function properly.  When you don’t get enough sleep you you end up being very moody, have an inability to think clearly, and your reactions to events is slow.. Lack of sleep can cause problems with your health as well.  Ensuring total well being requires a good night sleep.  Change your daily schedule so you can get to bed earlier.  You also might need to encourage other people in your household to help you a little bit more if you are working too hard.


Exercise is very good for the body and floods the brain with endorphins which are responsible for making you happy.  Exercise is important for total health. When you exercise, focus not only a toned body but on a firm mind.  Build self confidence which is a precursor for finding happiness.  Exercise is not just about feeling or looking good but a way to avoid sickness.  When people are sick they tend to lose gratitude they had for life.  Always be grateful for who you are, what you have been given and work hard to be the best person you can be.


Practicing meditation is another great way to find happiness in your life.  Combined with exercise, it can relax both your body and mind.  Mediation is a form of prayer and calms the spirit.  A calm spirit can focus on way to become the person you’ve always wanted to be.  If you are a goal-oriented person this is a great way to pursue the visions and dreams you have.

Meditation is one of the most effective ways to change your well being.  Doctors have proven that meditation generates brain activity on the left side, which produces positive emotions in the body. Meditation offers a world of good for the practitioner which in turn, creates a sense of well being in the person.  Those that a happy people have a good sense of well being about themselves and radiate it out into the world. Inner peace is the ultimate form of happiness and feeling you are one with God goes along way in keeping you happy.


Prayer is the highest form of happiness.  When we pray to God, we bask in his unconditional love. Prayers of gratitude and thanksgiving show our happiness and love for GOd.  It is a well known fact that those who pray are much happier than those who don’t.  Knowing that there is a loving and caring God that has our back gives comfort in time of trouble and stress and helps us avoid become victims of depression.  Once again, praying changes our brains and causes us to feel at peace. Peace is just another word for happiness in its most basic form.

The Quest For Happiness

“Perfect happiness is a beautiful sunset, the giggle of a grandchild, the first snowfall. It’s the little things that make happy moments, not the grand events. Joy comes in sips, not gulps.”
Sharon Draper

Some people search their whole lives for happiness and never find it.  They are too busy with their own feelings they never stop to understand what others may be doing or feeling.  One of the best ways to find happiness is to serve others.  We find comfort is serving others and studies have shown that it changes our heart when we help others.

Research - What makes us happy?

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Being part of a community is another way to bring happiness into your life.  Those who share our passions are more apt to treat us with respect and dignity and their friendship is a great way to enjoy a happy existence.  The more good and trusted friends you have, the more happy you will apt to be.

If you are an unhappy person, use these tips to be happy to change your life for good.  No one wants to be unhappy but there are ways to avoid unhappiness and learn to enjoy what life has to offer.

How To Reduce Stress With Positive Thinking

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Reducing Stress With Positive Thinking

“Proactively working to develop mental strength increases your resilience to stress and reduces the toll it takes on you both physically and mentally.”
Amy Morin

Positive thinking can have an amazing and powerful effect on our lives but when we are stressed out we tend to forget all the positive thoughts we’ve had before and succumb to the rigors of our stressful lives.  Society as a whole has put stress in the forefront in the hectic and fast-paced life we all lead.

Negativity creeps up when we are stressed and those good thoughts that kept us sane before are nowhere to be found.  People with a positive mindset see things in a different light as opposed to those who constantly struggle with life because of a poor mental attitude.

Doctors at The Mayo Clinic have found that using positive thinking as a tool in managing your stress can have many useful benefits.

1- Helps you live a longer and happier life
2- Reduces the instances of depression and anxiety
3- Lowers the risk of both heart disease and heart related deaths
4- Less likelihood of developing colds and flu
5- Helps develop strong coping skills which makes you a stronger and tougher person
6- Helps boost your natural defense system

Believing In The Power Of Positive Thinking

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“Being in a positive state of mind is more important than you might think as the mind cannot be creative in a negative state. New ideas, thoughts and inspiration will only take place when the mind is positive.”
Joe Hinchliff

For some people, the power of positive thinking can be difficult thing to accept.  They don’t understand the power that the mind has over our actions.  The universe delivers what we ask it to so when we are negative, we are really asking for a negative solution.  Positive people see the endless possibilities of life and live in the now.  They believe stress is just a perception of our reality and alter that reality with a clear vision of what they want to happen.  They live their lives according the present moment.  They don’t waste their time creating all kinds of “what if” scenarios that may never happen.  Instead they control their reality by believing in choosing a course of action that leads to a positive outcome.

Positive self talk is another way of reducing stress . The more you feel good about yourself the more ammunition you have to combat the destructive forces that negative self talk can hurl at you.

Thinking positively about who you are on the inside helps you confront the problem when it arises and gives you strength when things go bad. It’s only when you understand where stress is coming from can you battle it. Positive self talk is the difference between falling into depression and allowing things to roll off your back.

Positive Self-Talk

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When you have a positive outlook on life, you have a clear focus what needs to be done.  This way you create less stressful situations which keep you calm in a sea of swirling negativity. Positive people tend to anticipate happiness, good health and bring forth real success in their lives while believing they can overcome any type of obstacle and difficulty that comes their way.

Focusing On Positive Thinking To Control Your Stress

There is an easy way to turn negative thinking into positive success.  It starts by creating a new habit within your mind. Expect good things to happen.  When you look for the good in life you will find it just as expecting bad things to happen they will appear.  It’s all in how you perceive life.  Start identifying areas in which you need to change.  Become an optimistic person and engage in thinking positive about every situation.  The more positive you are, the easier it is to handle stressful situations.

Watch what you are thinking about.  Negative people tend to let their minds wander and fall into negativity.  The more you listen to your thoughts the more you can control them.  Identify areas that cause you to be negative and work on them. Practice the idea of positive self-talk.  Listen to your inner dialogue and when negativity enters, change the conversation to a positive affirmation.

Try to surround yourself with only positive people.  It has been said that you are comprised of  your five closest companions. If they are negative or spout negative comments, they are influencing you in the wrong direction. They can prevent you from reaching your true potential.  Make sure your circle of friends are supportive of your ideas, dreams and are capable of giving thoughtful and helpful advice when you need it.

Before doing anything, visualize a positive outcome in any given situation.  It will give you a leg up on whether you succeed or fail.  When you know you will succeed, it gives you the confidence to make it happen.  When you are dealing with negative feelings, stress makes you doubt yourself thereby increasing the stress you already feel.

Positive Thinking Is A Way of Life

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“You have to develop a habit of saying positive things about yourself. It’s almost like tricking your mind sometimes because although you may not necessarily ‘feel’ that way, you’ll get into the habit of thinking positive things about yourself subconsciously.” 
Victoria Davis

To enjoy the fruits of positive thinking we must employ it everyday in everything we do.  In fact, we must ooze positive vibes which in turn bring positive people, outcomes and things into our lives.  What’s the difference between positive and negative people?  It’s all in their attitude.  Positive people are uplifting and fun to be with.  Negative people are  physically draining and brings us down.  Our body language shows the true way we feel.  Positive and negative thinking are as contagious as the flu and whichever one you decide to adopt you will attract like-minded people to you.  The more negative people are in your circle the more stress you will feel.

Did you know that when you are negative, you release poisons into the bloodstream which causes you to be more unhappy and much more negative?  That is why failure, frustration and disappointment follow negative people like the plague.  A positive attitude brings optimism into your life.  It helps you to think constructively, helps you to become a more creative person as well as giving you the energy and motivation to accomplish your goals.

The next time you are feeling stressed out and feel like  screaming, take a few minutes out of your busy schedule and meditate on some positive affirmations.  These are like giving yourself a pep talk.  Get into the habit of praying and believing you are loved.  Positive affirmations bring on a quiet confidence and allows you to be calm in the most stressful of situation. This takes some practice but the more you do it the less stress you will feel.

We all need to reduce the stress in our lives and using positive thinking is the best remedy I know to become the person you’ve always wanted to be.

Unconditional Love – Are You Giving More Love Than You Receive?

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Unconditional Love – Are You Giving More Than You Receive?

“You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.”
Oscar Wilde

What is unconditional love?  And how do I employ it in my life?

Many of us worry way too much about getting love and not enough about giving love in return.  We search and search for the answers to our own problems yet we fail to see the problems of others.  Love is not a one-way street.  It takes two to tangle as they say but it is so true.  It’s the greatest power in the universe yet we fail miserably every day at living without it.

God’s love is unconditional.  It is giving without asking or demanding anything in return.  It’s a concept that is foreign to most in this “Get anything at all costs” mentality that seems to pervade our world.  Financial advisers tell us to build up assets but those assets are transitory.  We can’t take anything we own with us when we die except the experiences and the love we gave.

Love is not about how much we receive but how much we give.  It’s not about being selfish with our lives but being unselfish toward others.  I understand it’s a concept that takes time to digest but what if I told you that it’s the key to having a successful and beautiful life?  Would you believe me then?

Zig Ziglar, one of my personal heroes and one of the greatest marketers of the 20th century, made a quote that has changed my life forever.  It is the code I live by.

“You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want first!”

By putting the needs of others first you can help so many people instead of just helping yourself.   Imagine how great life would be if everyone was helping everyone else, if everyone was unselfish, and we all cared about the rest of humanity like we care about ourselves.

Choosing To Love Unconditionally

Unconditional love is a choice we make not a mandate.  You either give of yourself or take from others.  There are no two ways around this. Unconditional love is  all about your acceptance of others, not you expecting them to give you happiness in return.  Your reward is in how you treat others.  The choices other people make and how they live are not under your control. Instead love them for being them, not what you want them to be.

Our choices determine who we are and if we make the wrong choices we must take full responsibility.  When we  don’t give love to others we deprive ourselves and the world of that love.  Their are only two choices you have to make… Are you going to love and how much are you going to love.  Anything else is immaterial to the situation.

When we choose to love we must first forgive. It is one of the most important aspects of loving unconditionally. Forgive others as well as forgiving ourselves. With this forgiveness we remove all the limiting beliefs we have of ourselves and other and recognize we all have self worth, value, and see ourselves as a true reflection of God’s love.

Unconditional love means compassion. It means loving others for who they are not what they have nor what they can give back. It’s about showing love at the deepest root of your being. It means opening your heart no matter the consequences

Are you showing compassion to others?

Can We Teach Compassion?

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How do you want your life to be?  Do you want to live in tenderness, kindness forgiveness and tolerance?  What you give out is what you receive.  The choice is yours.  Be clear what you want to give and give to the best of your ability.  You are not judged on what you give but on the fact of whether you gave or not.  The Lord love a cheerful giver, not someone who gives because he has to but because he wants to!

Giving Unconditional Love To The World

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“If someone is facing a difficult time, one of the kindest things you can do for him or her is to say, ‘I’m going to love you through this.”Molly Friedenfeld

What we do in life has a powerful impact on what happens to others. By taking loving action we can and do change the world one person at a time.  We see that we are all interconnected and all share what God has given us.  When we give love we experience what true love is all about.  Our giving is our true gift to the world.  It is the sharing and giving that allows the world to give back to us.

You have an unlimited supply of love and you hold the power to unleash it.  Giving unconditional love requires that we create the opportunities to give.  Seek out ways to help, be positive as to inspire others, and live in gratitude.  How we act is a reflection of what’s in our hearts.  Remember, people can see the real us.  Be genuine and reflect the love God has for you onto others.  Approach each moment of the day as a way to express God’s love through your thoughts and actions

Ask yourself, “What I can do for this  person at this moment in time?”.  Unconditional love is the true action of ourselves, the simple endeavor care for the well-being of another. This becomes an act of pure generosity.

Tips On Loving Others Unconditionally

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“If a dog can love us unconditionally, why can’t we love each other the same way?”
 Carol McKibben

Here are some tips to giving unconditional love and making it part of your everyday life.

  • Make it a practice to do something for someone else each day without expecting anything in return.
  • Love without anyone knowing about it.  Do it because you want to do it.
  • Do the small things with a great love that reaches far and wide.
  • Expand your heart to include everyone not just the people you like or care about. You don’t have to wait to be perfect to give unconditional love to others.  Just give and move on to the next opportunity.
  • The more you give the better your own life will be.  Live in love and love will be your guide.

In the bible, God speaks to us about love. In 1 John 4:8 states, “Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love”.  Further along in 1 John 4:16 it states, “So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him”.  We have been given a great example of unconditional love.  Whether we choose to believe that we can make a difference or not, just by showing unconditional love to others we choose to bring God’s love to the world.

Is Indoor Vertical Farming The Next Big Thing?

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Vertical Farming Goes High Tech

There’s a revolution going on in world of healthy eating and it has changed the role of the traditional farmer. Instead of the dirty and unhealthy way of the multinational factory farms, entrepreneurs have taken to using high technology to grow our food. The future now belongs to indoor vertical farms.

indoor vertical agriculture has sprouted up all over the world. Using the latest high tech growing systems, would-be start-up farmers have started buying up large industrial warehouses and have converted them into huge hydroponic farms growing nutrient dense vegetables that are not subject to the forces of nature such as rain, soil erosion, and drought.

As it gets harder and harder to feed the growing population, indoor vertical farms have become the world’s best option for healthier and nutrient dense food. The growing need for arable land to farm has been neutralized by growing food indoors which cuts the carbon footprint of conventional farming methods yet still meets the demand for fresh produce.

Growing Up: The Technologies Making Vertical Farming a Reality

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Vertical farming has made it easier for everyone to start growing their own fresh and healthy food.  By empowering individuals and entrepreneurs to take the initiative and bring this new technology to the masses, we can help ease the burden on traditional farmers.  People in cities can now help shape this new technology and bring nutrient dense food to the urban population without the cost of transportation and use of land needed for living space.

Indoor Vertical Agriculture Eases The Looming Food Crises

Indoor vertical agriculture eliminates the need for excessive pesticide use which makes growing organic food much easier and more cost efficient. It also reduces the spoilage that inevitably occurs when shipping produce across long distances. Many of these start-up farms have invested hundreds of millions of dollars in new technologies such as high-intensity LED lights consisting of blue and red lights which are the optimal lights for photosynthesis in green vegetables.

Some companies have even gone into the seed business by identifying seeds which respond the best to LED lighting. Growers then fine tune the LED lights to match what each plant requires thereby speeding up the growing cycle. These plants use over 95% less water than conventional farms and produce more food all year long.

This technology is still in it’s infancy yet growers can now ship their food in pods that contain their own micro climates. This is done by using networked sensors inside the containers that use temperature gauges, inbox irrigation, special LED lights, and CO2 sensors that maintain the levels of fertilizers, water, and amount of nutrients in the water.

Farmers can now grow nutritious food in a sustainable way while using supplement field farms and greenhouses to produce fresh food.  Indoor vertical farming can be used in crowded urban areas, during the cold winter months, and in most of the impoverished parts of the world

Computers Make Hydroponic Growing Easier Than Ever

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This networked technology has also changed traditional farming methods for the better by installing GPS guided systems in tractors and drones and using new computer models to customize how each part of the farm is used. Farmers now depend on technology to measure and map out the farm grid to get the most out of every seed that is planted.

By understanding and utilizing modern digital information, farmers can now measure the amount of acidity and nitrogen levels in the plants and use fertilizer where it’s needed instead of spraying the whole farm thereby saving time, money and keeping fertilizer runoff to a minimum. This has cut labor and fertilizer costs up to 65% and has doubled crop yields. These measure wind speed, soil dryness and erosion as well as monitor plant health which produces better and healthier food for the general public. This type of innovation has led to better prices for consumers as well as avoiding the unhealthy use of GMO created food.

As technology better adapts to learning new ways to produce nutrient dense food, the idea of conventional farming methods will go the way of the horse and buggy. Even now, the use of robotics has become commonplace in many high tech farms. These robots are used to spread nitrogen to those plants that need it as well as harvesting at a greater rate than equipment that uses the old inefficient gas engines. Soon, robots will be able to monitor every plant and seed on a farm in every type of weather helping to get the most out of every inch of land.

Healthy eating has gone high tech but as long as we employ the proper techniques and stay away from altering the plants DNA we will have enough healthy food to feed the entire world’s population. Indoor vertical farms can take care of that at a fraction of the cost.

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